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Greece: A Teenage Nation

Posted: 05/02/2012 12:00 pm

Greeks are like teenagers. They live with their parents until they get married. And even then their parents live really close by, like up or down stairs from them always having a key to the house "just in case." As teenagers who refuse to grow up, they marry on a whim -- usually resulting in divorce. They have kids without serious thought and they vote rashly.

Don't get me wrong. I'm no Greek hater. Quite the contrary, I love Greeks, I have fallen in love with Greeks, and I continue to live in Greece to this day despite the trying times. The reason? Adolescence. The recent crisis -- fabricated or not -- has brought to the fore "the Greek" in every possible light. He's been hurled under the microscope, scrutinized, analyzed, criticized and stigmatized. But a step back and a taboo-free look and "defining" the Greek is as simple (or as complex) as life itself.

The Greek's impulsiveness is what makes him Greek. It's as if an entire nation is a spoilt teenager who just doesn't see why he should grow up. And why should they? Don't we all remember our carefree, responsibility-free adolescent days with nostalgia? Don't we all wish we could turn back time and have fun in the sun for as long as we can and then some?

In the very same way, my friends, the modern Greeks live their lives. So what if there are over 200 political parties vying for our vote? As for imminent bankruptcy and Frau Merkel, the suited gentlemen of the IMF and our respected EU partners, well, do you remember what you did (or thought) every time a knowing adult told you off? Ignored. I now understand why the teacher on my favorite Charlie Brown cartoons was portrayed as an annoying buzz in the background: because that's how youngsters "heed" patronizing advice. They don't. It's all just an acoustic blur that fades away the instant a friend suggests coffee. And that's frankly how the Greeks perceive all of the mayhem behind their current predicament.

It's evident in these days leading up to Sunday's polls. Like everything they wait until the last minute to see what pans out. That's what we did at school right? Oh no exams! In a state of panic, we would gather all the carbs we could find and cram all night really expecting to learn 365 pages of calculus in 10 hours. And so the Greeks pay their bills on the last day, go to the doctor only when they can suffer no more and think... only when it's absolutely necessary. Why waste precious brain cells on 200 or so parties promising brighter days when they already know deep inside that each and every participant is lying through their recently whitened teeth? So what do they do? Vote for whomever depending on their diathesi ('mood') at that given moment...

So this teenage nation of 11 million plans to vote "out of revenge," to "teach them a lesson," to "give them a chance," to "give them a second chance," to "get a job," to avoid "losing a job," "for the right reason" or simply "just to vote." And then there are those too who just won't vote at all. It's like that piece of profound wisdom that teenagers throw at us at any given moment and catch us off guard.

There are those of course who are deeply political and can most likely provide at least three convincing reasons for voting for so and so, but they're a minority and frighteningly reminiscent of the teacher's pet.

Admittedly, like teenagers, the Greeks can also do wonders when they put their minds to it (see the Athens Olympics and much more). They can, as passionate teens, dive off the deep end with absolutely no regard for fear, potential consequences and/or results. And when all's said and done, they take the credit for the good and blame others for the bad... just like your average 15-year-old. You can't have it all. So, much like life itself, so do nations behave: some as mature adults, others in a more balanced way, some with bitterness and others hungry for power. And, finally, some prefer to be the way they are: good, bad and beautiful.

Trust me, the world may be talking about the upcoming Greek elections but the Greeks -- true to their adolescent hearts -- are out in the sun swimming, tanning, drinking coffee and enjoying the moment. Tomorrow is another day.

 
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Greeks are like teenagers. They live with their parents until they get married. And even then their parents live really close by, like up or down stairs from them always having a key to the house "jus...
Greeks are like teenagers. They live with their parents until they get married. And even then their parents live really close by, like up or down stairs from them always having a key to the house "jus...
 
 
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03:26 PM on 06/23/2012
I am not agree with the way you try to explain what is Greek culture and how Greeks understand this culture tradition. you know why ? because not Greeks but other people cant understand the Greek way-style of life...
Yes we are close wtih our families ,with our friends.. FELLINGS for us (Greeks) means lot of things..
And we saw this fellings to our families with Love... means we live in close,we support,and we care.. all that in very close distance..
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bobbyar410
Ree legion is, to keep poor away from money
12:36 AM on 05/28/2012
Vote for Tsipras we know the other {big} parties that try to sell Greece to germany
08:48 PM on 05/06/2012
And by the way, when Greeks go for coffee or for drinks in the evenings, they spend most of that time talking about politics, the state of the country and the state of the world, from my personal experience. Maybe you hang out with the wrong kind of people, Maria.
08:45 PM on 05/06/2012
What a lot of swiping generalisations and simplistic nonsense.

Apart from anything else, one of the most misleading claims is the fact that Greek people "...marry on a whim -- usually resulting in divorce. They have kids without serious thought..". Not even the simplest minds can claim this to be true! Greeks usually marry quite late in life, have a lower rate of divorce than most other European countries and have kids later in life after a lot of thought and deliberation who are raised with the help and contribution of the wider family. (I don't know anyone in my immediate or wider family or friends circle who has been divorced. Which is a lot more than I can say about my friends and acquaintances in the UK, where more people than not I know over the age of 40 have been divorced at least once). Having the support of your family, no matter what your age, allows one to make these decisions based on what they really want and not on what makes sense financially or because they feel insecure and need someone else to depend on or to depend on them.

Due to these extremely inaccurate comments, I cannot really take any of the rest seriously. Even if some comments are valid, I find the general point of view inaccurate, unfair and shallow.
05:06 PM on 05/06/2012
What absolute nonsense this whole article is!!! I don't have the time or the energy to address it point by point so just as an example, I'll limit myself to the comment: "They have kids without serious thought". According to the CIA World Fact Book 2012, Greece's birth rate ranks at 206 out of 221 countries, with #1 being the highets and #221 the lowest. Doesn't sound like they're thoughtlessly running around having kids to me. As for living at home, so would anyone on a monthly salary of 700 Euro - assuming they have a job in the first place.
08:54 PM on 05/05/2012
That is right Ms. Paravantes, that is all today's Greeks do: drink frappe, get sun tans, and hang out with their friends. Even when I was growing up (I'm 45), this would not quite describe reality then. Today...well, perhaps you need to spend some time in the country and see the biocultural changes that have been occurring in the post-1981 period. Why I'm choosing this particular year, should be pretty clear to you...or isn't it?
08:48 PM on 05/05/2012
A note: Greeks live with their parents not because they're "teenagers-at-heart" (sic) but because it saves on rent. The situation changes when they get married, in which case both families pitch in to set up the newly weds with a place on their own.
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10:26 AM on 05/04/2012
On the eve of the Hellenic National Elections of 2012, Greece is a nation of people whose ancient Ethos is experiencing a re-awakening; a result of the disastrously shallow implementation of economic globalization experimentation imposed by the latter’s impulsive and compulsive proponents. Inherent in this ancient Greek Ethos – a natal building block of World and Western Democratic Ideals - is the identity of a people with a deeply-seeded love for Independence, Self-Determination, Self-Actualization, and Truth. Several generations of post-WW II and Cold War Greeks, having suffered deeply by their contributions to the “victors” of those conflicts, had embraced with child-like enthusiasm the dogmas of secularism, conspicuous-consumption, and the politics and corruption of mass-media “infomercials”. Deeply betrayed by external and internal leadership, “allies”, and agents of this new “business” order, Greeks are now examining all options with a characteristic openness and pathos worthy of the self-examination exhibited by their ancestors and their ancient Ethos. Perhaps, Maria, you too, should re-examine and consider returning to the idealism, wisdom and clear vision of your Youth! You may find yourself closer to the Tuth. You may also find yourself closer to these modern Greeks as they struggle with their re-awakened ancient Ethos on the eve of this election. You will definitely understand that this is but a foreshadowing of things to come in other places. You might also better understand the "teenager" in the Greek you married!
05:08 AM on 05/04/2012
I have also been living, working and observing in Greece for the past 20 years. Some of this is true, some of this is just stereotypical 'observations'...
What I see is that this crisis has caused all of us Greeks, maybe for the first time, to stop and think and really look at ourselves in the mirror. It has been my experience that the 'blase' attitude is starting to fade, slowly but surely... people are very angry that they don't have jobs, can't find jobs, their buying power is drastically reduced, they can't afford the things they once could afford easily, people are worried that their children have no future here, to put it simply - families are suffering and it shows, and I don't see how this point can be glossed over. The problem is deep-rooted and multi-faceted...

http://themanyfacesofnewathens.blogspot.com
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02:34 AM on 05/25/2012
"It has been my experience that the 'blase' attitude is starting to fade, slowly but surely..."

Who says austerity doesn't work? ;-)
08:18 AM on 05/03/2012
Very simplified. I'm trying not to take offense to this piece. I am a Greek American born in Athens and raised in Boston. I have many friends and family in Greece and although I realize 'the volta' (outing) everyday to a cafe or sweet shop, etc. is common, I also see what this economy has done to the moral of the nation. It's not 'we'll worry about it tomorrow'...it's 'I'm so tired of worrying about it, and not finding any solutions that I need a break for while to catch up'. Sometimes when we're immersed in a problem we can't see the 'light'. We have to step away for a bit to regroup and reorganize. As for Greeks living with their parents or having them really close by..well..that too is fading. I know many many friends that don't live this way.
05:08 PM on 05/02/2012
Interesting observations, and I agree with large parts of the analogy, but it's a bit oversimplified as well. Plenty of Greeks I know don't have the cozy, living-with-the-parents existence, and have flatly rejected it. My wife (born and raised in Greece) is one, and plenty of her friends fall in the same category. That being said, we were just on the island of Rhodes a couple weeks ago, and both my wife and I STILL don't understand what people do that allows them the free time to just sit around in cafés and socialize so much. And actually I've had that nagging thought ever since my first visit to Greece 15 years ago, and I first saw this phenomenon (back when unemployment was lower and NOT a viable excuse for people having ample free time to stuff the bars and cafés in the middle of the work day).
04:00 PM on 05/02/2012
absolute crap article

"Trust me, the world may be talking about the upcoming Greek elections but the Greeks -- true to their adolescent hearts -- are out in the sun swimming, tanning, drinking coffee and enjoying the moment. Tomorrow is another day."

Well judging by the faces I see on the subway in Canada, life is an absolute test of misery, I see happier people in the slums of Cuba and Mumbai.

The US? everyone is fake rich with debt up to their asses, independence is great however it is fake when you owe hundreds of thousands to the bank.
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AlexNYC
Pumps dont work cause the vandals took the handles
01:01 PM on 05/02/2012
So is Greece a nation of immature people trying to avoid the responsibilities of adulthood? I realize this is just an observational opinion piece, but if this is so, it does not bode well for the future of Greeks if they prefer to live a carefree life and procrastinate instead of building a society that will sustain a more robust economy. The culture and attitude of the Greeks has taken a noticeable nosedive in the last 30 plus years, which is the antithesis of the Greece I knew when I was younger. Life should be more than just beaches, coffee houses, nightclubs and exohi (vacationing at your summer home). If people have abandoned their individual and collective integrity and are instead trying to game the system, what hope is there for the country going forward?
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06:32 PM on 05/03/2012
Don't believe everything you read.

She confuses the brave face one puts on when you know policy is made elsewhere.

When Greece was under the junta and democracy was curtailed, people went to cafes and drank.

What do you want them to do?
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02:41 AM on 05/25/2012
'What do you want them to do?'

They could start by mustering a little personal responsibility and paying the their own bills instead of trying to fob them off on the German barbarians to the north.