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Marie Marley is the author of Come Back Early Today: A Memoir of Love, Alzheimer’s and Joy. This book tells the powerful 30-year love story of a young American woman and a delightfully colorful, wickedly eccentric Romanian gentleman and scholar, interspersed with advice and inspiration for Alzheimer’s caregivers everywhere.

In addition to being a compelling love story, this award-winning memoir shows how one woman solved several specific problems that typically arise when caring for a person with dementia.

Alzheimer’s caregivers who have read the book say it helped them very much. Former caregivers say they wish they’d read it when they were caregivers.

Come Back Early Today will make you laugh; it will make you cry. If you’re caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s it will give you inspiration and advice. But mostly it will give you hope and it will help you see that there can be happiness – even joy – amid the darkness of dementia.

The book was a finalist in the Santa Fe Writer’s Project Literary Awards, Eric Hoffer First Horizon Awards, Readers Choice competition, Editors and Writers International Awards, and Indie Excellence Awards. The Foreword was written by Gregg Warshaw, MD, Past President of the American Geriatrics Society. Go to www.ComeBackEarlyToday.com to sign up for Marie's Newsletter and read the first two chapters for free.

Marie’s website contains a wealth of information for Alzheimer’s caregivers. She can be reached at Marie@ComeBackEarlyToday.com/

Entries by Marie Marley

When Forgetting Is a Blessing

(5) Comments | Posted April 21, 2015 | 11:30 AM

People with Alzheimer's disease can become upset and agitated about things that happen to them. And when you, as the caregiver, witness your loved one's anguish, you may become distressed, too -- sometimes more so than your loved one.

There is a way, however, to help reduce your stress...

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When Alzheimer's Patients Make Perfect Sense

(14) Comments | Posted April 13, 2015 | 11:18 AM

Many people who have cared for a person with Alzheimer's can tell you shocking stories about their loved ones having moments of total lucidity.

These precious events can last anywhere from a few moments to several hours or even most of a day. I have a friend whose mother...

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Convincing a Loved One With Alzheimer's to Move to a Nursing Home

(0) Comments | Posted April 6, 2015 | 6:29 AM

No one wants to place their loved one with Alzheimer's in a nursing facility. But sometimes, that's the best (or only) alternative, especially for those in the mid to late stages of the disease.

It takes a large team to care for people in these stages. They need a doctor...

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Do You Fear Your Loved One May Be Developing Alzheimer's?

(6) Comments | Posted March 30, 2015 | 8:09 AM

Alzheimer's symptoms begin so mildly and progress so slowly that it's easy for friends and loved ones to deny them until one day there may be a 'defining incident'; an incident so strange, so bizarre that not even the spouse, child or other loved one can ignore it or explain...

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The Role of Grief on the Journey to Accepting a Loved One's Alzheimer's

(0) Comments | Posted March 20, 2015 | 7:08 AM

When Ed, my beloved Romanian life partner of 30 years, was first diagnosed with Alzheimer's, I was devastated. I knew in my heart I'd never be able to accept it. It was so bad I couldn't even have a meaningful conversation with him. He couldn't praise me for my accomplishments....

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Try Giving Your Loved One With Alzheimer's a Stuffed Animal

(2) Comments | Posted March 12, 2015 | 1:15 PM

Little Stuffed Animals for Ed: When Ed, my beloved Romanian soul mate of 30 years, had Alzheimer's I was devastated at first. I couldn't find any meaningful way to relate to him. He couldn't praise me for my accomplishments as he had always done. He couldn't advise me on my...

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3 of the Most Difficult Situations Alzheimer's Caregivers May Ever Face

(10) Comments | Posted March 2, 2015 | 10:25 AM

There are so many difficult situations people face as caregivers of people who have Alzheimer's. Some are harder to accept than others. Here are three that are among the most difficult of all:

1. If the person no longer recognizes you

2. If the person loses the ability to...

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Do Crossword Puzzles Really Help Prevent Alzheimer's?

(0) Comments | Posted February 24, 2015 | 5:07 AM

Yesterday morning I arrived to visit Angela, one of the three ladies with Alzheimer's I volunteer to visit each week. I found her sitting at her beautiful, ornate dining room table, which was overflowing with books and art supplies. Dressed in a pale pink sweat suit, she was deeply absorbed...

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Alzheimer's Caregivers: 10 Reasons to Take Rover to Visit Your Loved One

(0) Comments | Posted February 18, 2015 | 5:42 AM

An article published on Essortment.com begins like this: "Supposing there were a treatment that decreases agitation, improves mood, and enhances communication for Alzheimer's patients? There is, and his name is Rover."

I had several first-hand experiences with this. The first one was when I took my little Shih...

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Alzheimer's Caregivers: What to Do When Your Spouse Finds a New Love

(35) Comments | Posted February 12, 2015 | 7:25 AM

Beth was sitting in the nursing home room of her spouse, Bernie, waiting for him to return from lunch. You can imagine her surprise when he walked in holding hands with a woman who lived in the facility. The pain was searing and she hardly knew how to react as...

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A Critical Resource for Alzheimer's Caregivers

(0) Comments | Posted January 30, 2015 | 4:15 AM

Jean's mother, Irene, had been having memory problems and frequent confusion for quite some time and Jean took her to the doctor to discuss these issues. At the visit Jean's worst fears were confirmed. Her mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. Jean knows nothing about this illness and has no...

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Why I Volunteer

(4) Comments | Posted January 29, 2015 | 7:14 AM

Everyone wants to be needed. We all want to feel we're making a difference in someone else's life. It's a universal human need.

When I began volunteering to visit some ladies with Alzheimer's at Brookdale Senior Living's Clare Bridge memory care facility in Overland Park, Kansas, I felt like...

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Daily Meditations for Alzheimer's and Dementia Caregivers

(0) Comments | Posted January 22, 2015 | 2:27 AM

Did you ever wish you had a book of spiritual readings about Alzheimer's caregiving you could read every day to help inspire, comfort and encourage you as you travel along your caregiving journey? Until now there was no such book, but that has just changed. One was published this past...

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5 Tips for Talking With a Person Who Has Alzheimer's

(9) Comments | Posted January 14, 2015 | 11:10 AM

Yesterday afternoon, I walked into Mary's spacious room. Mary is a woman who has few visitors and whom I've volunteered to spend a little time with every week. I greeted her, complimented her on her beautiful turquoise sweater and shook her hand.

Then I sat down at her little...

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Leeza Gibbons' Resources for Alzheimer's Caregivers

(1) Comments | Posted December 31, 2014 | 9:26 AM

One evening Leeza Gibbons, the celebrated radio and TV personality, was out to dinner with her mother. She told me in an interview once that after dinner her mother went out and got in the wrong car. It didn't even look like Leeza's car. Then they went to her home,...

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Three Tips for Getting Along With a Difficult Person With Alzheimer's

(0) Comments | Posted December 30, 2014 | 12:42 AM

People with Alzheimer's sometimes have personality changes that can be extremely negative. Formerly sweet loved ones can become argumentative and even verbally, emotionally or physically abusive.

Things had gotten so bad I wanted to end my relationship with Ed, my Romanian life partner of 25 years. He had become impossible...

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When It's Alzheimer's Should the Person Be Told the Diagnosis?

(5) Comments | Posted December 23, 2014 | 9:01 AM

When it's Alzheimer's should the person be told the diagnosis? This can be a difficult ethical issue. Telling or not telling the patient the diagnosis is a very personal decision.

According to Susan Gilbert, writing on reportingonhealth.org, "Over the last few years there have been news reports about...

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Two Men With Dementia Become Life-Long Friends

(2) Comments | Posted December 18, 2014 | 12:46 PM

I remember reading somewhere that people with Alzheimer's enjoy being with others like them. The following story clearly illustrates that.

I'd just moved Ed, my Romanian soul mate of 30 years, into Cincinnati's Alois Alzheimer Center, one of the best facilities anywhere for people with dementia. Initially he'd been...

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When Alzheimer's Is Amusing

(1) Comments | Posted December 11, 2014 | 8:21 AM

Alzheimer's disease is a deadly serious topic, and deservedly so. But sometimes laughter is the best medicine. So I'm going to share some amusing stories about my colorful, eccentric life partner, Ed. He also found them funny and we both had a good laugh! I was laughing with him --...

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My Surprising Transformation After My Second Retirement

(0) Comments | Posted December 4, 2014 | 5:47 AM

I was a grant writer. I really was. And that's all I was. I was quite successful at it. I secured millions of dollars for my employer. I'd started out writing grants at the University of Cincinnati Department of Family Medicine in 1978 at the age of 28. I loved...

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