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Marie Marley
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Marie Marley is the author of Come Back Early Today: A Memoir of Love, Alzheimer’s and Joy. This book tells the powerful 30-year love story of a young American woman and a delightfully colorful, wickedly eccentric Romanian gentleman and scholar, interspersed with advice and inspiration for Alzheimer’s caregivers everywhere.

In addition to being a compelling love story, this award-winning memoir shows how one woman solved several specific problems that typically arise when caring for a person with dementia.

Alzheimer’s caregivers who have read the book say it helped them very much. Former caregivers say they wish they’d read it when they were caregivers.

Come Back Early Today will make you laugh; it will make you cry. If you’re caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s it will give you inspiration and advice. But mostly it will give you hope and it will help you see that there can be happiness – even joy – amid the darkness of dementia.

The book was a finalist in the Santa Fe Writer’s Project Literary Awards, Eric Hoffer First Horizon Awards, Readers Choice competition, Editors and Writers International Awards, and Indie Excellence Awards. The Foreword was written by Gregg Warshaw, MD, Past President of the American Geriatrics Society. Go to www.ComeBackEarlyToday.com to sign up for Marie's Newsletter and read the first two chapters for free.

Marie’s website contains a wealth of information for Alzheimer’s caregivers. She can be reached at Marie@ComeBackEarlyToday.com/

Entries by Marie Marley

When It's Alzheimer's Should the Person Be Told the Diagnosis?

(5) Comments | Posted December 23, 2014 | 10:01 AM

When it's Alzheimer's should the person be told the diagnosis? This can be a difficult ethical issue. Telling or not telling the patient the diagnosis is a very personal decision.

According to Susan Gilbert, writing on reportingonhealth.org, "Over the last few years there have been news reports about...

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Two Men With Dementia Become Life-Long Friends

(2) Comments | Posted December 18, 2014 | 1:46 PM

I remember reading somewhere that people with Alzheimer's enjoy being with others like them. The following story clearly illustrates that.

I'd just moved Ed, my Romanian soul mate of 30 years, into Cincinnati's Alois Alzheimer Center, one of the best facilities anywhere for people with dementia. Initially he'd been...

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When Alzheimer's Is Amusing

(1) Comments | Posted December 11, 2014 | 9:21 AM

Alzheimer's disease is a deadly serious topic, and deservedly so. But sometimes laughter is the best medicine. So I'm going to share some amusing stories about my colorful, eccentric life partner, Ed. He also found them funny and we both had a good laugh! I was laughing with him --...

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My Surprising Transformation After My Second Retirement

(0) Comments | Posted December 4, 2014 | 6:47 AM

I was a grant writer. I really was. And that's all I was. I was quite successful at it. I secured millions of dollars for my employer. I'd started out writing grants at the University of Cincinnati Department of Family Medicine in 1978 at the age of 28. I loved...

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Final Arrangements Should Be Made Sooner Rather Than Later

(2) Comments | Posted November 27, 2014 | 8:18 AM

No one wants to make arrangements for the death of a terminally ill friend or family member. It's painful to think about any loved one's eventual passing, but it's important to make the arrangements sooner rather than later. In fact, it's best to do it when you first learn your...

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Are You Concerned You May Be Developing Alzheimer's?

(21) Comments | Posted November 23, 2014 | 4:38 PM

With all the public interest in Alzheimer's disease these days it wouldn't be unusual for you to fear you are getting it. When you have what we refer to as 'a senior moment' you may laugh about it with your friends, but you may also be among the numerous people...

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5 Problems Associated With Caring for a Mid- to Late-Stage Alzheimer's Patient at Home

(6) Comments | Posted November 13, 2014 | 8:17 AM

Placing a loved one in a nursing facility is a highly controversial issue. Many people would rather die than do it. But in some -- not all -- cases, such placement may actually be the best solution for the patient.

Although your loved one may have previously stated his or...

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Alzheimer's Caregivers: Need Professional Advice This Very Instant?

(0) Comments | Posted November 6, 2014 | 11:31 AM

Caring for a loved one with Alzheimer's can be extremely difficult. If you reach the end of your rope and need advice on the spot, two organizations have helplines you can easily access: the Alzheimer's Association and the Alzheimer's Foundation of America. (Please note, however, that you should call 911...

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Alzheimer's Journal - Come Back Early Today

(0) Comments | Posted October 29, 2014 | 7:08 AM

Ed, my beloved Romanian life partner, had Alzheimer's for the last seven years of our 30-year relationship and was living at Cincinnati's Alois Alzheimer Center. I'd been visiting him only on Sundays because I'd been preoccupied with my work. I just hadn't had time to visit more often. But one...

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People With Alzheimer's May Be Stumped By the Simplest Things

(11) Comments | Posted October 23, 2014 | 11:49 AM

People with Alzheimer's may have great difficulty figuring out the simplest activities. The following story illustrates that poignantly.

One day I decided it was time to see how my Romanian life partner, Ed, was adjusting to his first day on the new unit he'd been moved to at the...

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An Alzheimer's Journal: 'I Want to Go Home'

(0) Comments | Posted October 15, 2014 | 7:55 AM

Ed, my colorful Romanian life partner, was a resident at Cincinnati's Alois Alzheimer Center. They had four wings, each one providing a different level of care. He had started out in what they called Assisted Living, the level for people who needed the least amount of care, but only lasted...

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Alzheimer's and an Amazing Hour of Lucidity

(0) Comments | Posted October 8, 2014 | 6:43 AM

One day my dear friend, Connie, was coming to visit Ed with me. I was an hour and a half early because I wanted to make sure he was awake, shaved and dressed. I entered the code on the key pad, walked into the hallway of his unit, and saw...

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Why This Nurse's Aide Got up and Went to Work Every Day

(0) Comments | Posted October 1, 2014 | 8:55 AM

To put it politely, they say "stuff" rolls downhill. In nursing homes, those at the very bottom of the hill are the nurse's' aides -- CNAs, as they are called. Certified Nursing Assistants. They have the most responsibility for providing hands-on care to the residents, but they are paid the...

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What I Learned About Love as a Caregiver to an Alzheimer's Patient

(38) Comments | Posted September 30, 2014 | 1:00 AM

For seven years, I'd help my friend Ed get dressed and eat breakfast before I went off to work. But he'd soon call, desperately needing my help for some or other perceived crisis. I'd leave my job then return later. By afternoon, he usually had some other emergency, and I'd...

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The Alzheimer's Perspective on the Birds and the Bees

(3) Comments | Posted September 24, 2014 | 8:52 AM

I volunteer to visit some ladies with Alzheimer's at a local memory care facility. One of "My Ladies" is Ruth. I realize I shouldn't have a favorite, but I do. Ruth is my favorite. I just love visiting her. She says she's 90, but I don't believe her. She doesn't...

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Life After Alzheimer's

(6) Comments | Posted September 19, 2014 | 7:02 AM

Loving and taking care of a person with Alzheimer's is an all-consuming task. But what happens when it's suddenly over? Here's what it was like for one woman. This is my story.

In the days following Ed's death, my brain functioned at about fifty percent. I kept losing important...

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Engaged and Enraged People Vow to End Alzheimer's by 2020

(3) Comments | Posted September 14, 2014 | 10:45 AM

Bea Lerner, Trish Vradenburg's mother, called at 3:00 AM one morning to complain about a strange man in her house. Trish and her husband, George, immediately went there to find only one man in the house, her husband. When asked about a strange man, Bea pulled them aside and pointed...

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The Genius of Marian: Remarkable Alzheimer's Documentary

(1) Comments | Posted September 2, 2014 | 11:01 AM

The Genius of Marian is an intimate, poetic documentary about Pam White and her family as they all struggle to deal with Pam's Alzheimer's disease. As the film opens, Pam is in the midst of writing a book, The Genius of Marian, as a tribute to her mother, painter Marian...

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5 Tips for Surviving Alzheimer's

(0) Comments | Posted August 25, 2014 | 11:23 AM

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Late one evening I was deeply immersed in writing a short story when I was startled by the phone ringing. Must be Ed I thought. But it wasn't. It was a sweet female voice I didn't recognize.

"Hi, Marie. My...

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An Intimate Portrait of Depression and the Desire to Commit Suicide

(0) Comments | Posted August 15, 2014 | 5:43 PM

The news of Robbin Williams' tragic death by suicide caught me off guard. It took me far back into my own life and my experience with severe depression.

When I was in college and for many years after, I had severe recurring depression. It always went away, but it inevitably...

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