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Marie Marley
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Marie Marley is the author of “Come Back Early Today: A Memoir of Love, Alzheimer’s and Joy,” available in paperback and Kindle at Amazon.com and her website (www.ComeBackEarlyToday.com). The Foreword was written by Gregg Warshaw, MD, former president of the American Geriatric Society.

The book was a finalist in the Santa Fe Writer’s Project Literary Awards, the Eric Hoffer First Horizon Awards, the Writers-Editors International Writing Competition and the Readers Favorite Awards. She also hosts her own blog and publishes a monthly newsletter dealing with issues relevant to Alzheimer’s caregivers. There is a newsletter signup form on her website.

Marie had seven years of experience caring for her Romanian soul mate, Dr. Edward Theodoru. While caring for him she acquired a keen personal understanding of the numerous complex and painful issues Alzheimer’s caregivers face, and developed successful solutions to all the problems that came her way. These are detailed in her book.

Marie is a sought-after speaker on Alzheimer’s caregiving. She is also the author of more than 130 articles published on the Alzheimer’s Reading Room and the Huffington Post. She is currently a volunteer visitor to residents of the Clare Bridge memory care facility in Overland Park, Kansas. Clare Bridge is a part of The Sweet Life at Brookdale Place.

Marie has more than 30 years of experience as a grant writer and consultant, with a focus on geriatric medicine and family medicine, including grants on dementia-related topics. She was the grant writer at the American Academy of Family Physicians from 2007 – 2013 and was a grant writer at the University of Cincinnati Family Medicine Department for 30 years before that.

She lives in Kansas City with her little Shih Tzu, Joey. She can be reached at Marie@ComeBackEarlyToday.com.

Entries by Marie Marley

Worried About Your Memory? Here's When To Go To The Doctor

(1) Comments | Posted July 29, 2014 | 7:03 AM

Anna is concerned about her memory. It seems she's having a lot of "senior moments" lately. She often misplaces her keys and has trouble remembering the names of people to whom she's been introduced. She can't help but worry it could be something more serious. In fact, she is nearly...

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How You Can Help Someone Who Is an Alzheimer's Caregiver

(2) Comments | Posted July 10, 2014 | 1:27 PM

Nancy is the primary caregiver for her husband, George, who has mid-stage Alzheimer's. It's exhausting work. She's on call 24/7 and often feels overwhelmed by her responsibilities, which seem never ending. After four years of this, she's burned out. She doesn't have any time to herself and is neglecting her...

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Wiener Schnitzel Before and After Alzheimer's -- Like Living on Another Planet

(2) Comments | Posted July 7, 2014 | 3:15 PM

Being in love with a person who has Alzheimer's can be like living on another planet. I, for example, had a 30-year relationship with Edward Theodoru, my beloved Romanian life partner, who later developed Alzheimer's.

Wiener Schnitzel Before Alzheimer's

I can't help but remember how gallant and chivalrous Ed...

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10 Things People With Alzheimer's Have Taught Me

(12) Comments | Posted June 30, 2014 | 4:47 PM

I was a caregiver for Ed, my beloved Romanian life partner, for seven years when he had Alzheimer's disease. Furthermore, I currently volunteer to make weekly visits to four women who live at Clare Bridge, a Brookdale Senior Living memory care facility in Overland Park, Kansas. (I refer to them...

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Smart Ways To Beat The Stress Of Alzheimer's Caregiving

(0) Comments | Posted June 27, 2014 | 9:41 PM

Bethany's mother has Alzheimer's and Bethany is the primary caregiver. In fact she's the only caregiver. She's on duty 24/7 and, after three years in this role she often feels physically and mentally exhausted. If only she had some time to herself. She used to love photography but hasn't had...

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Lessons About Love I Learned From People With Alzheimer's

(0) Comments | Posted June 18, 2014 | 8:06 AM

People with Alzheimer's have taught me a lot about love over the years. I learned that they may remember past love and also experience love in the present -- even if they don't talk anymore and even during the last days of their lives.

I learned these lessons from...

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Alzheimer's Caregiving May Be Wrecking Your Health

(3) Comments | Posted June 13, 2014 | 5:24 PM

Betty hasn't been to the doctor for a mammogram or pap smear for five years -- since before her husband Frank developed Alzheimer's disease. As a caregiver, she lives in a state of chronic stress. She's tired all the time, doesn't sleep well and eats far too much. Her diet,...

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10 Ways to Parent Your Parent Who Has Alzheimer's

(0) Comments | Posted June 9, 2014 | 4:22 PM

People who have Alzheimer's disease will gradually lose the ability to manage their own affairs and carry out routine activities of daily living. When this happens you will need to step in and help out. In effect you become the parent, caring for them as they cared for you when...

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Alzheimer's Caregivers: 5 Tips for Dealing With Family Conflict

(2) Comments | Posted June 2, 2014 | 5:01 PM

Having a family member with Alzheimer's disease is a stressful situation for everyone involved. According to the Alzheimer's Association, "Dealing with Alzheimer's can bring out many strong emotions. As the disease progresses caregiving issues can often ignite or magnify [existing] family conflicts."

Carole Larkin (personal interview), a certified...

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A Tender Alzheimer's Love Story

(0) Comments | Posted May 20, 2014 | 6:30 PM

Ed, my Romanian soul mate of 30 years, had Alzheimer's. And I knew I'd never be able to accept it. It was so bad I couldn't have a meaningful two-way exchange with him. He couldn't advise me about my problems or praise me for my successes as he'd always done....

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Grief: What to Do When It Never Ends

(2) Comments | Posted May 14, 2014 | 1:47 PM

Joyce sits alone in her bedroom every night. Most nights, she ends up bursting into tears over the loss of her husband of 30 years. The pain is searing. Since Frank died of Alzheimer's more than a year ago, she can't seem to move on with life. She spends nearly...

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How to Convince a Loved One With Alzheimer's Symptoms to Go to the Doctor

(0) Comments | Posted May 7, 2014 | 6:00 PM

Late one night I was deeply engrossed in writing a short story about three parakeets when the phone rang. Must be Ed I thought. But it wasn't. It was a woman calling to tell me she'd found Ed driving on the wrong side of the road.

In my deep...

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Coming Face To Face With Alzheimer's -- When You Can No Longer Deny It

(10) Comments | Posted May 3, 2014 | 7:28 AM

When a person is beginning to show signs of Alzheimer's, that person and their loved ones are usually in denial. They may make excuses for, or try to explain away, the symptoms.

Alzheimer's is, above all, an insidious disease. Its symptoms typically begin so mildly and progress so slowly that...

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Alzheimer's Caregivers: 3 Tips for Restoring Harmony to Your Relationship With Your Loved One

(0) Comments | Posted April 21, 2014 | 11:13 AM

Some people with Alzheimer's may at times be extremely difficult to get along with. The following personal story provides three tips that may help restore harmony to your relationship if your loved one's behavior has become challenging.

The memory and mental status of Ed, my beloved Romanian life partner...

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How a Man With Alzheimer's Proved Chivalry Is Not Dead

(0) Comments | Posted April 13, 2014 | 7:13 AM

On my birthday one year, I came home from work and saw that Ed, my beloved Romanian life partner, had snuck into my house and left yellow roses on my dining room table. That was so typical of him. Ever gallant, he never missed an opportunity to deliver flowers to...

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Alzheimer's Caregivers: The Pros and Cons of Placing Your Loved One in a Facility

(1) Comments | Posted March 18, 2014 | 2:30 PM

Author's Note: This post assumes there is a decent, affordable facility within a reasonable driving distance. It also assumes that the person with Alzheimer's is in the mid to late stages of the disease, and high quality caregiving at home is becoming increasingly more challenging, if not impossible.

CONS

People...

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One Man's Descent Into Alzheimer's -- Does Any of This Sound Familiar?

(0) Comments | Posted March 11, 2014 | 4:30 PM

The Beginning of Ed's Long Journey Downward

Ed was my beloved Romanian life partner of 30 years. Today, my mind flashed back to the first months of 2000, when his dementia began to become more prominent. He had been exhibiting mild memory problems for a few years. These consisted primarily...

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Is Alzheimer's Always Depressing? I Think Not

(12) Comments | Posted March 8, 2014 | 6:08 AM

Alzheimer's is a deadly serious disease and deservedly so. Yet I ask this: Does being 'serious' mean that it is horrible and depressing? Yes, it can be horrible and depressing. But is it always that way? I think not. I think to some extent at some times it depends on...

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How I Want to Be Treated If I Develop Alzheimer's

(3) Comments | Posted February 21, 2014 | 10:25 AM

Oftentimes, it's difficult to know the best way to interact and communicate with a person who has Alzheimer's. And so I'm going to let people know in advance how I would like to be treated should I develop this disease.

First of all, I want to be placed in a...

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Starting Hospice Care for a Loved One: A Heartbreaking Decision

(0) Comments | Posted February 18, 2014 | 11:36 AM

What happens when your loved one is ready for hospice care but you aren't? I'd like to share my personal experience with this situation.

According to Gregg Warshaw, MD, Professor of Family Medicine at the University of Cincinnati and former President of the American Geriatric Society (personal communication), the following...

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