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Marie Marley
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Marie Marley is the author of Come Back Early Today: A Memoir of Love, Alzheimer’s and Joy. This book tells the powerful 30-year love story of a young American woman and a delightfully colorful, wickedly eccentric Romanian gentleman and scholar, interspersed with advice and inspiration for Alzheimer’s caregivers everywhere.

In addition to being a compelling love story, this award-winning memoir shows how one woman solved several specific problems that typically arise when caring for a person with dementia.

Alzheimer’s caregivers who have read the book say it helped them very much. Former caregivers say they wish they’d read it when they were caregivers.

The book was a finalist in the Santa Fe Writer’s Project Literary Awards, Eric Hoffer First Horizon Awards, Readers Choice competition, Editors and Writers International Awards, and Indie Excellence Awards. The Foreword was written by Gregg Warshaw, MD, Past President of the American Geriatrics Society. Go to www.ComeBackEarlyToday.com to sign up for Marie's Newsletter.

Marie is also the co-author (with Neurologist Daniel C. Potts, MD, FAAN) of Finding Joy in Alzheimer's: New Hope for Caregivers. The Foreword was written by Maria Shriver, whose father, Sargeant Shriver, had Alzheimer's. Go to Marie's website for information about this ground-breaking book.

Marie’s website contains a wealth of information for Alzheimer’s caregivers. She can be reached at Marie@ComeBackEarlyToday.com/

Entries by Marie Marley

Alzheimer's Caregivers: When Your Loved One Needs Hospice Care

(0) Comments | Posted May 21, 2016 | 6:04 AM

When a loved one has Alzheimer's there are five situations that may occur that are especially difficult to come to terms with. These include 1) when it's time to move the person to a facility, 2) if the person finds a new love interest, 3) when the person no longer...

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25 Tips for Surviving as an Alzheimer's Caregiver

(0) Comments | Posted May 13, 2016 | 7:10 AM

The Alzheimer's Association estimates that there are more than 15 million people serving as caregivers to people with Alzheimer's. The Family Caregiver Alliance states that caregivers are at increased risk for declines in physical and mental health. Furthermore, the Alliance states that women experience worse health...

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People With Alzheimer's May Still Be "There"

(0) Comments | Posted April 27, 2016 | 9:18 AM

There was a lady with Alzheimer's I volunteered to visit weekly at a local memory care facility. I'm going to call her Carolyn. Before my first visit the administration told me she loved Elvis. So I bought an Elvis CD and took it, along with my portable CD player, to...

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How I Want to Be Treated if I Get Alzheimer's

(0) Comments | Posted April 27, 2016 | 8:42 AM

Oftentimes it's difficult to know the best way to interact and communicate with a person who has Alzheimer's. And so I'm going to let people know in advance how I would like to be treated should I develop this disease.

First of all I want to be placed in a...

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The Benefits of Stuffed Animals and Doll Babies for People Who Have Alzheimer's

(0) Comments | Posted April 23, 2016 | 11:34 AM

Stuffed animals and baby dolls can be therapeutic for people who have Alzheimer's, as shown by both anecdotal evidence and research studies. However, some people say this is demeaning and beneath the dignity of the person.

Others warn against overusing these "props." For example, Bell and Troxel, writing in

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10 Things I Have Learned From People Who Have Alzheimer's

(0) Comments | Posted April 4, 2016 | 8:01 AM

I was a caregiver for my beloved Romanian life partner, Ed, for seven years. Furthermore, I currently volunteer to make weekly visits to three women who live at Clare Bridge, a Brookdale Senior Living memory care facility in Overland Park, Kansas. (I refer to them as "my ladies.") I have...

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10 Mistakes to Avoid When Visiting a Person Who Has Alzheimer's

(11) Comments | Posted March 19, 2016 | 4:43 AM

Since I retired three years ago I have been volunteering to visit some ladies with dementia at a local memory care facility. At first I hesitated to do this because I thought it would be depressing and remind me of my life partner, Ed, who passed away with Alzheimer's several...

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10 Tips for Nonverbal Communication With a Person Who Has Alzheimer's

(0) Comments | Posted March 3, 2016 | 10:24 AM

I rushed into the memory care facility -- I was late -- to visit Jean one sunny Thursday. Jean is one of "My Ladies" with Alzheimer's I volunteer to spend some time with each week. I found her pacing in the lobby and suggested we go to her room to...

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Teepa Snow on Planning Activities to Enrich the Lives of People with Alzheimer's

(4) Comments | Posted February 26, 2016 | 7:33 AM

Entertainment and other activities are essential for the well-being of people with Alzheimer's. They can make the difference between a deadly boring day of staring at the floor and a rich sense of purpose and contentedness. They can also help the caregiver make a connection with the person, no matter...

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Brilliant Romanian Scholar Didn't Regret Losing His Mind

(0) Comments | Posted February 17, 2016 | 10:24 AM

Ed Theodoru had been a true Renaissance man, as were many Europeans of his generation, but he stood out among them because his memory was phenomenal. It was his most distinguishing feature. He remembered everything he read, heard or saw. It was that simple.

We often refer to such...

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How to Survive Being an Alzheimer's Caregiver

(0) Comments | Posted February 12, 2016 | 9:15 AM

I was an Alzheimer's caregiver for seven years. I was not prepared for the mental and physical demands of caring for someone with dementia. As time passed my emotional state declined as fast as my loved one's dementia progressed. It became a vicious cycle.

How did I cope? How indeed....

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Alzheimer's Journal: Tears for Yesterday

(0) Comments | Posted February 6, 2016 | 7:42 AM

Having a loved one who has Alzheimer's can be incredibly painful. The following story is a case in point.

One day I went to visit Ed, my beloved Romanian soul mate of 30 years, at the Alois Alzheimer's Center in Cincinnati. When I arrived I heard someone pounding away...

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When Your Loved One Is Ready for Hospice Care - and You Aren't

(3) Comments | Posted January 30, 2016 | 7:45 AM

Many painful emotional issues face family members and friends when a loved one becomes terminally ill. These include communicating the diagnosis to others; overcoming denial that the person is, in fact, near death; feeling the need to "be strong" and hide their sadness for the benefit of the patient and...

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When a Loved One Has Alzheimer's: Realization vs. Acceptance

(0) Comments | Posted January 18, 2016 | 6:37 AM

These are two different things. It's one thing to finally realize someone close to you has Alzheimer's. It's a completely different thing to accept that fact.

After what can be months or even years of being in denial, most people finally realize Alzheimer's has struck. And they begin becoming a...

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Overcoming Denial When a Loved One Has Alzheimer's

(2) Comments | Posted January 9, 2016 | 10:22 AM

George, a close friend of my life partner, Ed Theodoru, was visiting from out of town. One evening they had a long talk about a wide range of topics - most of which concerned George's professional issues. The next day Ed had no memory of the visit, let alone what...

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What to Do -- And Not Do -- at a Nursing Home

(0) Comments | Posted December 20, 2015 | 4:06 AM

Visiting loved ones in their nursing homes is essential for your well-being as well as theirs. When your loved one is admitted, talk with the administrator or director of nursing about their policies for visits. Some facilities have written guidelines. If they don't, have a general discussion with them about...

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A Nursing Home Aide's Shocking Behavior

(11) Comments | Posted December 11, 2015 | 12:18 PM

I had recently moved Ed, my beloved Romanian soul mate of thirty years, into the renowned Alois Alzheimer's Center in Cincinnati, Ohio. After he'd been in their Assisted Living section for around four weeks I received a call from the social worker.

"You're moving him from Assisted Living down to...

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A Man With Alzheimer's and the Dog Who Forecasted His Death

(23) Comments | Posted December 3, 2015 | 6:57 AM

Peter, my precious little Shih Tzu puppy, was brown and white with enormous brown eyes; his tail never stopped wagging. I was so happy I'd chosen him. Actually, I didn't choose Peter. He chose me. Like the Mona Lisa, his eyes followed me everywhere I went in the pet store....

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New Book Offers Hope for Alzheimer's Caregivers

(0) Comments | Posted November 25, 2015 | 4:40 AM

Today I want to let you know about a new book for Alzheimer's caregivers that I wrote with neurologist Daniel C. Potts, MD, FAAN. It's entitled Finding Joy in Alzheimer's: New Hope for Caregivers, and has a foreword by Maria Shriver, whose father, Sargent Shriver, had the disease.

The...

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How I Got My Beloved Romanian Soul Mate With Alzheimer's to Stop Driving

(0) Comments | Posted November 14, 2015 | 8:08 AM

Late one evening I was deeply immersed in editing the photographs I'd taken at the Cincinnati Zoo that day when I was startled by the phone ringing. I thought it was probably Ed, my beloved Romanian soul mate.

But it wasn't.

It was a sweet female voice I didn't recognize...

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