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Marie Marley
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Marie Marley is the author of “Come Back Early Today: A Memoir of Love, Alzheimer’s and Joy,” available in paperback and Kindle at Amazon.com and her website (www.ComeBackEarlyToday.com). The Foreword was written by Gregg Warshaw, MD, former president of the American Geriatric Society.

The book was a finalist in the Santa Fe Writer’s Project Literary Awards, the Eric Hoffer First Horizon Awards, the Writers-Editors International Writing Competition and the Readers Favorite Awards. She also hosts her own blog and publishes a monthly newsletter dealing with issues relevant to Alzheimer’s caregivers. There is a newsletter signup form on her website.

Marie had seven years of experience caring for her Romanian soul mate, Dr. Edward Theodoru. While caring for him she acquired a keen personal understanding of the numerous complex and painful issues Alzheimer’s caregivers face, and developed successful solutions to all the problems that came her way. These are detailed in her book.

Marie is a sought-after speaker on Alzheimer’s caregiving. She is also the author of more than 130 articles published on the Alzheimer’s Reading Room and the Huffington Post. She is currently a volunteer visitor to residents of the Clare Bridge memory care facility in Overland Park, Kansas. Clare Bridge is a part of The Sweet Life at Brookdale Place.

Marie has more than 30 years of experience as a grant writer and consultant, with a focus on geriatric medicine and family medicine, including grants on dementia-related topics. She was the grant writer at the American Academy of Family Physicians from 2007 – 2013 and was a grant writer at the University of Cincinnati Family Medicine Department for 30 years before that.

She lives in Kansas City with her little Shih Tzu, Joey. She can be reached at Marie@ComeBackEarlyToday.com.

Entries by Marie Marley

5 Problems Associated With Caring for a Mid- to Late-Stage Alzheimer's Patient at Home

(6) Comments | Posted November 13, 2014 | 8:17 AM

Placing a loved one in a nursing facility is a highly controversial issue. Many people would rather die than do it. But in some -- not all -- cases, such placement may actually be the best solution for the patient.

Although your loved one may have previously stated his or...

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Alzheimer's Caregivers: Need Professional Advice This Very Instant?

(0) Comments | Posted November 6, 2014 | 11:31 AM

Caring for a loved one with Alzheimer's can be extremely difficult. If you reach the end of your rope and need advice on the spot, two organizations have helplines you can easily access: the Alzheimer's Association and the Alzheimer's Foundation of America. (Please note, however, that you should call 911...

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Alzheimer's Journal - Come Back Early Today

(0) Comments | Posted October 29, 2014 | 7:08 AM

Ed, my beloved Romanian life partner, had Alzheimer's for the last seven years of our 30-year relationship and was living at Cincinnati's Alois Alzheimer Center. I'd been visiting him only on Sundays because I'd been preoccupied with my work. I just hadn't had time to visit more often. But one...

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People With Alzheimer's May Be Stumped By the Simplest Things

(11) Comments | Posted October 23, 2014 | 11:49 AM

People with Alzheimer's may have great difficulty figuring out the simplest activities. The following story illustrates that poignantly.

One day I decided it was time to see how my Romanian life partner, Ed, was adjusting to his first day on the new unit he'd been moved to at the...

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An Alzheimer's Journal: 'I Want to Go Home'

(0) Comments | Posted October 15, 2014 | 7:55 AM

Ed, my colorful Romanian life partner, was a resident at Cincinnati's Alois Alzheimer Center. They had four wings, each one providing a different level of care. He had started out in what they called Assisted Living, the level for people who needed the least amount of care, but only lasted...

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Alzheimer's and an Amazing Hour of Lucidity

(0) Comments | Posted October 8, 2014 | 6:43 AM

One day my dear friend, Connie, was coming to visit Ed with me. I was an hour and a half early because I wanted to make sure he was awake, shaved and dressed. I entered the code on the key pad, walked into the hallway of his unit, and saw...

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Why This Nurse's Aide Got up and Went to Work Every Day

(0) Comments | Posted October 1, 2014 | 8:55 AM

To put it politely, they say "stuff" rolls downhill. In nursing homes, those at the very bottom of the hill are the nurse's' aides -- CNAs, as they are called. Certified Nursing Assistants. They have the most responsibility for providing hands-on care to the residents, but they are paid the...

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What I Learned About Love as a Caregiver to an Alzheimer's Patient

(38) Comments | Posted September 30, 2014 | 1:00 AM

For seven years, I'd help my friend Ed get dressed and eat breakfast before I went off to work. But he'd soon call, desperately needing my help for some or other perceived crisis. I'd leave my job then return later. By afternoon, he usually had some other emergency, and I'd...

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The Alzheimer's Perspective on the Birds and the Bees

(3) Comments | Posted September 24, 2014 | 8:52 AM

I volunteer to visit some ladies with Alzheimer's at a local memory care facility. One of "My Ladies" is Ruth. I realize I shouldn't have a favorite, but I do. Ruth is my favorite. I just love visiting her. She says she's 90, but I don't believe her. She doesn't...

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Life After Alzheimer's

(6) Comments | Posted September 19, 2014 | 7:02 AM

Loving and taking care of a person with Alzheimer's is an all-consuming task. But what happens when it's suddenly over? Here's what it was like for one woman. This is my story.

In the days following Ed's death, my brain functioned at about fifty percent. I kept losing important...

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Engaged and Enraged People Vow to End Alzheimer's by 2020

(3) Comments | Posted September 14, 2014 | 10:45 AM

Bea Lerner, Trish Vradenburg's mother, called at 3:00 AM one morning to complain about a strange man in her house. Trish and her husband, George, immediately went there to find only one man in the house, her husband. When asked about a strange man, Bea pulled them aside and pointed...

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The Genius of Marian: Remarkable Alzheimer's Documentary

(1) Comments | Posted September 2, 2014 | 11:01 AM

The Genius of Marian is an intimate, poetic documentary about Pam White and her family as they all struggle to deal with Pam's Alzheimer's disease. As the film opens, Pam is in the midst of writing a book, The Genius of Marian, as a tribute to her mother, painter Marian...

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5 Tips for Surviving Alzheimer's

(0) Comments | Posted August 25, 2014 | 11:23 AM

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Late one evening I was deeply immersed in writing a short story when I was startled by the phone ringing. Must be Ed I thought. But it wasn't. It was a sweet female voice I didn't recognize.

"Hi, Marie. My...

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An Intimate Portrait of Depression and the Desire to Commit Suicide

(0) Comments | Posted August 15, 2014 | 5:43 PM

The news of Robbin Williams' tragic death by suicide caught me off guard. It took me far back into my own life and my experience with severe depression.

When I was in college and for many years after, I had severe recurring depression. It always went away, but it inevitably...

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Alzheimer's Caregivers - This One Activity Could Improve Your Quality of Life

(0) Comments | Posted August 15, 2014 | 10:24 AM

I once made a presentation at an Alzheimer's caregiver support group. One gentleman - let's call him John - had long insisted to his son and daughter-in-law that he didn't need any help from a support group (or any other source) to better deal with his wife's dementia. But somehow...

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Desperate for Alzheimer's Caregiving Information? Go to Alz.org

(3) Comments | Posted August 13, 2014 | 12:28 PM

Ever wish there was a one-stop shop you could go to for all the Alzheimer's caregiving information and advice you need? Well, there is one -- Alz.org, the website of the Alzheimer's Association.

Need information and advice about wandering? Agitation? Hallucinations? Incontinence? Go to Alz.org. Need help finding an assisted...

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Worried About Your Memory? Here's When To Go To The Doctor

(7) Comments | Posted July 29, 2014 | 8:03 AM

Anna is concerned about her memory. It seems she's having a lot of "senior moments" lately. She often misplaces her keys and has trouble remembering the names of people to whom she's been introduced. She can't help but worry it could be something more serious. In fact, she is nearly...

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People With Alzheimer's May Yearn to Be Touched

(0) Comments | Posted July 26, 2014 | 7:03 AM

A stunning video shows Sol Rogers interacting with his wife, Rita, who has Alzheimer's and was unable to talk or walk. He got in bed with her, cuddled with her, kissed her and told her repeatedly how much he loved her. As the months went by Rita improved...

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How You Can Help Someone Who Is an Alzheimer's Caregiver

(2) Comments | Posted July 10, 2014 | 2:27 PM

Nancy is the primary caregiver for her husband, George, who has mid-stage Alzheimer's. It's exhausting work. She's on call 24/7 and often feels overwhelmed by her responsibilities, which seem never ending. After four years of this, she's burned out. She doesn't have any time to herself and is neglecting her...

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Wiener Schnitzel Before and After Alzheimer's -- Like Living on Another Planet

(2) Comments | Posted July 7, 2014 | 4:15 PM

Being in love with a person who has Alzheimer's can be like living on another planet. I, for example, had a 30-year relationship with Edward Theodoru, my beloved Romanian life partner, who later developed Alzheimer's.

Wiener Schnitzel Before Alzheimer's

I can't help but remember how gallant and chivalrous Ed...

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