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The Importance Of The Family Dinner

Posted: 11/17/2011 9:48 am

At St. Philips Academy in Newark, NJ, they're making some really outstanding strides in children's education with regards to urban farming, cooking classes, physical education and family activities. But the one particular thing they're doing that most impresses me doesn't cost a cent, involves no roof space, and no new technology.

In their lunchroom nestled on the ground floor, they have about a dozen round tables, each surrounded by 8 chairs, each chair with a responsibility painted on the back of it. As the kids tumble in, they fall into place at their assigned tables, mixed in age, shape and size, from 5th graders to 8th graders -- and then an amazing thing happens: one child sets the table, one child gathers their lunch, one child even serves the others their food. And when the meal is over, one clears the plates -- you get the point. But the sense of family and community that comes together around that table, for their 45-minute lunch break, impresses me more than their 6-foot-long salad bar full of vegetables from their rooftop garden.

My new book, Molto Batali, derives from a similar spirit. Mix and match, cut and multiply, the entire family can be fed with one or more of these recipes and you all come to the table to enjoy them. And let's remember, cooking family dinner should start long before brown bags full of groceries and reusable sacks of farmers' market goodies are on the counter. Start from scratch: create menus together, write the corresponding shopping lists, and hit the pavement to procure the necessities. Conversation and democracy are two essential tenets to dining as a family. We want to create consensus around the table.

In this latest book, one might notice some other healthy shifts in my work: smaller portion sizes, and getting away from the idea of the protein being at the center of each plate. Main course proteins vary from 5 to 7 ounces to make lots of room for a cornucopia of vegetables, raw and cooked, salads and side dishes. It's no secret that I am a fan of Meatless Monday, the pinnacle of moderation, and I think Molto Batali walks the walk I talk.

The spirit of community and family embodied in Molto Batali also informs another one of my projects: The Mario Batali Foundation. The mission of my foundation is to feed, protect, educate, and empower children -- encouraging them to dream big while providing them with the necessary tools to become an active force for change in today's world. In conjunction with the launch of Molto Batali, I will match the first $100,000 in paid donations made to the Foundation after November 1, 2011 and Aperol Spritz will match up to $50,000 between October 25, 2011 and February 1, 2012.

Matching your generous support is an additional way I am able to feed the stomachs and souls of our children, but we can all do our part. Remember, it costs nothing to all come to the table at the same time, whether you paint responsibilities on the backs of each of your chairs or not!

 
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02:01 PM on 11/20/2011
When I was a child, I HATED family dinners. It was a time when my mother could sit us down for an uninterrupted period and grill us about our daily lives.

Her: "Have fun at school today?"

Me: "I hated school today, like every day. Would you stop asking me about it?"
06:47 PM on 11/18/2011
Bravo!! I love this story about the kids having duties on the chairs. As a ritual, everyone should participate.

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PrunellaC
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02:39 PM on 11/18/2011
Grazie, Mario. Sounds very much like my childhood in Oroville, CA.
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11:01 AM on 11/18/2011
baking my own bread..

is the cornerstone of life in my kitchen..

then other recipes and dishes flow from there
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10:43 AM on 11/18/2011
I grew up in a family that sat down to dinner together (also, breakfast) each and every night. There were four of us siblings and my Mom and Dad. We each had our assigned tasks and did them. In the summer, we grew most of our veggies (lived in the country) and our meals were healthy and balanced. Table conversation was fun, interesting, and, sometimes, intense, but never disrespectful and all opinions were heard (even mine as the youngest). We had no t.v. and often listened to classical music while we were eating. My Mom was a concert pianist and, often, after dinner we would gather around the piano and sing songs. Thank you, Mario, for reminding me of a good time in my life. I miss seeing you on 'Iron Chef' and the FN.
10:06 AM on 11/18/2011
Thanks to family dinners, I learned about the Great Depression, World War II, civil rights, politics, business, how to plan family vacations, and what wonderful grandparents I had (who died before I was born). I learned to be curious about everything.

Oh yeah, and that I hate hotdogs and beans!
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03:39 PM on 11/18/2011
Even Boston baked beans (minus the hotdogs). :)
08:19 AM on 11/18/2011
correction--last post--I meant to say the incisors are ideal for cutting vegetables.

4 out of 32 teeth (15%) are canines, to tear flesh
8 out of 32 (25%) are incisors, to cut veggies
16 our 32 (50%) are molars, our human flour mills, to grind grain
08:15 AM on 11/18/2011
The tradition of "breaking bread" together indeed has merit, and in fact, I've recently heard a radio commercial promoting the same. Sadly, with the advent of the required two-income wage earners, internet, instant meals, and not the least, being niche society more than ever, this age-old tradition is in danger of becoming extinct, in spite of evidence that families who gather for meals and share the activities of their day are less likely to have children that get into trouble.

This was the focal point of a book written by a sociology professor, whose name escapes me. She chronicled how, in the days before cable TV, the entire family would gather around the television, bonding, waiting for their preferred act to perform. Today, that's a virtual impossibility.

When I read this post, it reminded me of a business associate, who recalls his growing up in Tuscany, and how shopping, cooking and eating together bonded them.

Lastly, I was pleased to read about animal protein being shifted from the nucleus of the meal to a side dish. Those macrobiotic forefathers were correct in their argument that only four of our teeth (canines) were designed to tear flesh. The remainder, molars, are to grind grain, and the incisors are ideal for cutting diet. Our anatomy gives clues to point us towards the ideal diet.
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07:29 AM on 11/18/2011
I think you are spot on Mario. Maybe you could do a segment with a real family, in a real supermarket, not W F, which most can't afford and show families how to shop healthy AND on a budget!
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ndem
03:25 AM on 11/18/2011
WE have dinner together every single night except for the odd weekend evening when we go out separately...this is where the political conversations take place, this is where the discussion of the importance of education, financial responsibility takes place...this is when we share...we sit down for at least an hour together...it is all cooked from scratch all organic...even the wine.
It's fun, and it binds us together as a family.
I also sit down with my daughter most mornings for breakfast and chat before she starts her school day...no rushing...go to sleep early enough and get up early to have more time...prepare meals a bit in advance so no rushing...it's not as hard as you think...plus we do not have a tv...so we have a lot more free time...kids need to grow "bored" then they wander over to the piano and start playing ...or grab a book, or come help cook...
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Husaria
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07:59 AM on 11/18/2011
Could not agree more!

Because families are not doing what you posted we have an ' epidemic ' of childhood obesity. We also have children that do not have social manners or any ideas / thoughts about society, politics, science, nature, etc, etc, etc

Our always connected wired world has ruined this. Our tech is not a bad thing. However, it does need to be used as a additive to our lives and not the main ingredient. Especially with kids.
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03:23 AM on 11/18/2011
Being an older guy raised 40-50 years ago when our mothers/anyone did not have all the nutritional science knowledge we have now, one of the things I appreciate and definitely love my dear mother for was her cooking well rounded fully nutritional meals. On top of that having the patience and giving the attentionn to make sure you ate all your vegetables and fruits to make sure you got vitamins and minerals. Just want people to know that those years of your parents laboring over the stove to give you the best nutrition in the world at that time will strengthen your appreciation for both them and also should make you more aware of what every child and person needs but do not get especially in the poorer families and the ones that are too "lazy" to take the time to do more than drive into the fast food drive through to pick up much less nutritional food. May not seem that important at any moment, but poor nutrition over 20 years of growing up will lead to much worse health eventaully.
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Husaria
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08:01 AM on 11/18/2011
People will spend gobs of money on a new car, with all the accessories.

But, to spend a little extra for good food...............fugeddaboutit...... Mickey D's here I come.
02:11 AM on 11/18/2011
I think I speak for everyone here----what time do you want us over for dinner and yes, a pasta tasting menu will work for all of us.
02:05 AM on 11/18/2011
This is not a new idea in this house. We have strived to have at least a family dinner every day though that didn't always happened as our kids got older and had jobs.
01:00 AM on 11/18/2011
We have had family dinners at the table for over 38 years, with our kids and our grand kids. My parents made it a requirement for us to sit together for meals and we continued that as we raised our kids and now, as our grandkids share our home and table with us, in this difficult economic time. We cook fresh food from scratch (well, that would be me cooking most of the time), no processed foods, low in sodium, but we use spices and herbs, and get the kids to help (according to age) and it's great. We even do "Iron Chef" challenges where the kids judge the adults and vice versa. It is fun to experiment with foods and cooking techniques as a family.
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07:35 AM on 11/18/2011
This is what we also did in 60s. My father was a petty clerk at the office and once a month all of our cousins had to participate that dinner. My father was a WWII vet and his hobbies included angling, cooking etc. On that day he assumed the role of chief chef. Of late,the family split due to the advent of nuclear family concept, our hardship began and social evolution discarded this practice. Now everybody is confined to their rented flats confined. One of my maternal cousins, still hosts a regular Friday lunch of 35+ members.
It hurts me because the thing which is absent nowadays is the family, not the money.