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50 Shades of Gorgeous -- The Art of Boudoir and the Beauty of Women

09/23/2013 11:40 am ET | Updated Nov 23, 2013

50 Shades of Gorgeous - The Art of Boudoir and the Beauty of Women

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?" - Marianne Williamson _________________________________________________________________
Why We Love 50 Shades of Grey

We've all read it. Some of us are ashamed to admit it, but it's true, we've read the first, second, and third books from cover to cover. Why? Because it's delightful? Well, yes. But there's a bit more to it than that.

In between the tantalizing sex scenes and painfully wonderful anticipatory moments which occur in the book, there's a theme. This theme is often missed, skipped over because of the nature of the juicy bits, but it is there and it is important.

What is it?

Passion

Now that I've stated the obvious it seems like a no-brainer, right? Well not exactly. The passion I'm talking about is not the kind that occurs in the bedroom, but the kind that inherently exists in the soul of a woman who recognizes her own worth.

Each of us are beautiful. Each of us are passionate. And each of us has something to offer this world that no one else can.

Ourselves.

The Truth Behind Seduction

There's a popular myth in circulation that men are the more natural seducers. We hear the tales of of the conquests of Casanova (a gentleman who was thrown out of cities for his behavior), but are less aware of the powerful seductresses like Cleopatra, Helen of Troy, and Catherine the Great. These were strong women who brought down empires with their womanly wiles. Women who are often overlooked or forgotten. And why?

A beautiful woman who is confident in the bedroom is a wonderful, fearsome thing to behold, because the woman who knows her value, and the effect that she has on men, is absolutely unstoppable.

The Glory of a Woman

I'm going to let you in on a secret:

You are stunning.

Now, if you are a typical woman, the odds are that you don't believe me. So I'll say it again.

You are absolutely stunning.

We live in a culture that has a terrible habit of reducing women to mere objects. The media is responsible for portraying an image of women that is unrealistic and unattainable, and, as a result, many women look negatively upon themselves. But by looking at yourself through this tainted lens you're only getting one-side of the story, the wrong side. Because the truth is there is no single standard of beauty to judge by. Each woman is extraordinary in her own way, and is absolutely stunning.

Boudoir Photography exists as a way to demonstrate just that.

The Art of Boudoir

Many people have a misconception about boudoir photography. They think it exists entirely for men. This isn't quite true, because although men can definitely enjoy and benefit from it, it exists mainly for women.

A boudoir session is designed to help you to become more comfortable in your own skin. First, you're treated to professional makeup artists, hair stylists, and set designers who make you feel like you're the most important woman on earth. Then, after a short time of being in front of the camera, you'll begin to relax and feel more confident, shaking off your self-consciousness and embracing the inner power that is yours alone. Afterwards, feeling in control and absolutely alive, you'll leave with a spring in your step and a boldness that's fresh and exciting.

This new vitality will begin, slowly, to effect the way you perceive yourself. And once you see your images, that old misguided lens that the world had given you, the one that had nothing but negativity to share, will evaporate. In its place you'll be given a new perspective. At first you'll look at the pictures and say, "Is that me?" because the person you see you don't recognize immediately, because you're not used to seeing yourself this way.

But then, after a moment, your eyes will adjust, and the person in the photograph becomes less of a stranger, and transforms into reality as you welcome the new sensation. The sensation that this is how you truly are: unique, beautiful, and unstoppable.

So when the question comes, and you ask yourself, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous, let the second question follow.

Who are you not to be?

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