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Happy Thanksgiving

Posted: 11/21/11 10:12 PM ET

This is my first Thanksgiving without my dad.

Not a day goes by that I don't miss him greatly, but not a day goes by that I don't thank God for blessing me with such a role model.

When I announced this spring that I was writing a book about Dad, I received hundreds and hundreds of emails. I read every one of them but the sheer number, and emotion in each, overwhelmed me. I failed to respond, but please know how much they inspired me to work that much harder on the book and to tell the story of Dad's faith in God, his hope for the future, and his genuine love for each and every moment and for the uniqueness of each and every person he met.

In the course of writing the book, I read the daily letters that he wrote me, some of which I never had a chance (or took the time) to read when he was alive; I read his speeches; and I read others' reflections of him. It's been an emotional rollercoaster but there have been many more highs than lows!

One of the speeches that I came across struck a chord, especially amidst the discouraging news on the political and economic fronts. Dad gave the speech at the University of Notre Dame on February 7, 1968 and I wanted to share a few lines with you:

"We need to make a national examination of conscience. Why do we need a national examination of conscience?? Because suddenly we Americans seem to be panicking. It's time to stop moaning and wringing our hands. It's true; the country is in a crisis. But we have always been in a crisis. We ought to thank God we are. Because then we always have something to test us -- like a piece of steel that stays strong precisely because it is enduring great pressure."


More than 40 years later, those words still ring true. Dad loved what each and every day brought. Sometimes it seems overwhelming to me but his faith in God and his words of encouragement assure me -- and I hope each of you -- that this is the greatest country in the world and that by working together, we can make a difference for our neighbors, for our fellow citizens, and for the rest of the world.

Many thanks for your friendship and support. It means more to Jeanne, our three kids, and me than anything.

Best wishes for a safe and happy Thanksgiving, filled with friends and family and lots of love and laughter.

 

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This is my first Thanksgiving without my dad. Not a day goes by that I don't miss him greatly, but not a day goes by that I don't thank God for blessing me with such a role model. When I announced...
This is my first Thanksgiving without my dad. Not a day goes by that I don't miss him greatly, but not a day goes by that I don't thank God for blessing me with such a role model. When I announced...
 
 
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02:36 PM on 11/24/2011
Hi, I am thankful for living in America with its blessings and warts. This is the only country where we are going to the poorhouse in an automobile. Thank you
11:56 AM on 11/24/2011
Great piece Mark. Some of my fondest memories are of Sarge coming out of the house specificly to heckle all of us over-the-hill athletes playing football at his house on many Thanksgivings. Best to you, Jeanne and kids.
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alafonse
It's definitely a crap-shoot.
09:22 AM on 11/24/2011
Our parents play a large part in shaping who we become. Obviously you were fortunate to have such an exemplary parent.
I feel beholden to my parents also. Plain simple working people who taught me to give an honest day's work for an honest day's pay, how to get by on as little as possible and still have a decent life, and that education is not merely confined to books but also to logical thinking and sound application of that thinking.
12:00 PM on 11/23/2011
A few years ago I was taking some classes and one course I took was Presidential history. Because of Sargent Shriver's role in the Peace Corps I had the pleasure of reading the book "Sarge". I never realized the man Sargent Shriver was. I wrote his organization and received a response back I think. In any case I think I understand now what moved me to quote your dad as it related to Lyndon Johnson. Men like your dad set the bar for public service. They actually believed that we could make people's lives better. I remember your dad being quoted as basically starting with nothing as it related to the Head Start program. How your dad and mom visited one professional in child development and how they became convinced that early intervention would change children's lives. Then they mailed out those letters to colleges and universities telling them what they were up to. Would they be interested? And your dad was shocked by the sheer amount of response. Sarge had called the nation's educators to service and they responded. We've become the nation of can't versus the nation of can. I'm not sure how to change that. I know that this election isn't a call to public service - it's a call to self-aggrandize. Somehow we have to shift the paradigm. I hope you'll continue the message of hope that your parents engendered and call our nation to service.
mike jeffries
Author, A Family's Heartbreak
08:59 PM on 11/22/2011
Mark:

I had the opportunity to meet your Dad a couple of times due to my company's work with Special Olympics. My picture with your Dad at the Special Olympics in Raleigh from about 11 or 12 years ago is a prized possession.

As a fellow author, I wish you much success with your book. Your Dad's messages are timeless and important. Spreading them far and wide will be a great service to us all.

Happy Thanksgiving.

Sincerely,

mike jeffries
Author, A Family's Heartbreak: A Parent's Introduction to Parental Alienation

PS -- I also rode in your brother's Best Buddies ride one year. The last ten miles were a killer!
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victorlove1
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06:57 PM on 11/22/2011
This video brings tears of joy to my cheeks.
From the "musicforchange" org.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Us-TVg40ExM

HAPPY THANKSGIVING everyone!!!
06:40 PM on 11/22/2011
Mark, you honour your father by your words + I look forward to your book. I hope its " warts + all " as one,s humaness + frailties endear us to those written about.
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05:06 PM on 11/22/2011
Your father did his best to leave a better world behind him. He left a son behind determined to do the same.
04:26 PM on 11/22/2011
Mark, It's also my first Thanksgiving without my dad! He wasn't anybody famous, or anybody that was very noticable except to his children. He raised 7 of them and taught them all to think independently and to be accepting of everyone. He was tough and never got to college, even though he always wanted to be a veterinarian. He ended up working in a meat packinghouse and after the first two kids, there was no going back to school. I always took my father's teachings for granted as a youngster, because I thought that's how everybody's dad was. Obviously, after I got older I realized just how far ahead of the curve he was. It wasn't until I was 40 years old did I then find out that dad volunteered for the navy at 16 years old (his mom lied for him) and he became a member of a beach jumper squad. The things he did made my hair stand up. No he wasn't famous, but I'll never forget him either and neither should the rest of the country. Along with every other veteran.
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Dutchman79
Never leave a fallen comrade...
04:20 PM on 11/22/2011
This'll be my first Thanksgiving without my Mom. She passed away unexpectedly on 1 OCT 2011.
I know what you mean. Please accept my wishes for a happy and joyous Thanksgiving.
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i poem/paint, sometimes, i ain't
02:17 PM on 11/22/2011
Mist by karen lyons kalmenson
to those once with us,
who no longer remain,
we feel your loss,
and it causes pain.
but we know you are
in a place of peace,
with others, just like you,
whose troubles have ceased.
your tenure on earth
with us never enough,
yes we go on,
but at times it is rough.
01:10 PM on 11/22/2011
This Thanksgiving think about the country that evolve from the settlement where the first Thanksgiving was held. It is no more and what is left is about to follow Europe down the tubes. Then no one will be able to save anyone. This is not a happy Thanksgiving unless you ignore reality.
12:24 PM on 11/22/2011
Mark, may the memories of your Dad fill your day with warmth. This is my first holiday without my mother who just passed in September at the age of 95. I feel blessed to have had her in my life for 56 years and although she wasn't famous, she was and always will be my rock star. All the best to you and your family.
11:21 AM on 11/22/2011
Sorry, I had to look up on Wikipedia who Mark Shriver was. It appears you're a kind and intelligent man, which is more than I can say about Bush Jr.. Happy upcoming birthday to Jeanne.
10:52 AM on 11/22/2011
At the beginning of my career 50 years ago, I had the good fortune of working in your dad's presence at the Peace Corps and OEO. It was then that I became imbued with the obligation of service, which continues today. Happy Thanksgiving!