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Why Celebrity Marriages Fail (Or Be Careful What You Wish For)

0 Comments | Posted April 10, 2012 | 2:00 PM

A recent study posits a scientific method to predict the chances of success or failure of celebrity marriages. In my opinion, celebrity marriage seems to be a losing proposition and we don't need a study to tell us that. What we do need is to learn...

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Aging: America Needs To Address The Coming Hordes

19 Comments | Posted April 10, 2012 | 8:43 AM

I read a recent USA Today article, the thesis of which was this: American cities, build your arks and get ready for a flood of aging boomers. If this "back third" of our lives is to be anywhere near as good as the first two, I submit it's...

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Divorce: Independence or Enslavement?

0 Comments | Posted July 4, 2011 | 11:41 AM

July 4 prompted thoughts of whether divorce is a declaration of independence or a form of slavery.

Whether we wanted divorce or not, if we are getting divorced I submit the goal is independence, at least from our ex. I don't mean excommunication. In the best divorces communication and...

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Socratic vs. Accepted Wisdom and Divorce

0 Comments | Posted June 20, 2011 | 8:10 PM

A lesson I took away from my two divorces: learn to flip the accepted wisdom, no matter how accepted or instinctive it is. Socratic wisdom is the best and hardest kind: knowing what you don't know. Try hard to choose that over accepted or instinctive choices. Here's a start:

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The Sudden Bachelor: The Ex: It's Complicated

0 Comments | Posted February 16, 2011 | 12:22 AM

The Sudden Bachelor: The Ex- It's Complicated

I "dated" my ex for about 2 years after we legally separated. That actually meant we were together pretty much every night but had 2 separate houses. Here's what you need to know:

• Sometimes you have to just rip the band aid...

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The Sudden Bachelor Part 2- The Stone Age

0 Comments | Posted January 19, 2011 | 7:50 PM

You wake up at 11 to the blackberry buzzing. You see it's Ben.

"Ben! Hey."
"I want to sleep at your house."

That's a 180 from the derisory treatment he and Louisa gave the new apartment last weekend, when Louisa asked, "Are you poor now?"

You said...

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The Birthday Party and What You Learned

0 Comments | Posted January 8, 2011 | 10:19 PM

As the guests arrived at the party, they took sides. Is that human nature? Ask John Boehner. The relatives divided neatly across party lines, hers on her side of the room, yours on yours.

In the large party space at her new condo, the friends were not, however, as...

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The Sudden Bachelor Part 1- The Supermarket

0 Comments | Posted January 4, 2011 | 11:58 AM

You see that guy? The one making his way down the supermarket aisle, picking up cans and putting them back, eying things like mops and pots and pans, holding them as if to weigh them, like an ape holding rocks, putting them down. You rightly surmise that he is a...

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A Tale of Two Cities

0 Comments | Posted January 4, 2011 | 11:36 AM

Does it ever feel to you, after you're separated or divorced, that there are two parallel towns you live in? There's the one you lived in when you were married, peopled with the couples you hung out with, and if you have kids, populated also with the parents of your...

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Storage and Letting Go

0 Comments | Posted December 18, 2010 | 2:57 PM

I met my ex at the storage room last week. I took away a lesson in letting go.

The storage room is in a nondescript concrete structure in Yonkers, and until last Saturday held the remaining detritus of my marriage and some archeological evidence of life before that.  I met...

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Capital, Marriage and Divorce

0 Comments | Posted December 3, 2010 | 11:55 AM

We live in a particularly capital-focused era. As capital rushes to the top 1 percent and drains from the remaining 99-ers, as our government printing press works overtime to inject capital into a still-damaged financial system, as we salivate over lifestyles of the rich and famous while clinging to...

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Midlife Madness

0 Comments | Posted November 30, 2010 | 3:02 PM

Midlife crisis is a cliché, unless you're living through it.  And midlife divorce is also a cliché, though I don't know that we automatically think of it that way.

For my midlife crisis I quit my job, moved my family to Newport, and then ultimately separated from my wife.

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