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A Letter To The President

Posted: 05/11/2012 7:35 am

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Dear President Obama,


Before midday, Wednesday, May 9th, America was a different place. Millions of our people in all states were living in torment. They'd not only spent their young lives hiding who they were, they'd grown up to discover they had to hide who they loved.

How could that have ever fit the promise of "the pursuit of happiness?"

Thank you, President Obama, for being a true descendent of our Founding Fathers, and for living up to the ideals they set forth two-and-a-half centuries ago.

When you announced your support of same sex marriage, you did more than listen to your heart. You listened to the impassioned voices of millions of our citizens -- gay, straight, family members, lovers, your own circle of friends -- and you made the journey to this historic decision.

And I can't help but hope that, by your example, others will look into their hearts and make that same journey.

Yes, this transforming event is about love. But it is also about life and death. We read daily about children and teenagers who are dying on the battlefield of homophobia, mocked for who they are and what they feel. Taunted and bullied for what they hold in their hearts. And driven to end their own lives because of it.

But now the leader of our nation has sent out the message that we, the people, acknowledge their right to be who they are, love who they want to love, and live with dignity and pride.

Thank you, Mr. President, for this remarkable triumph.


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02:25 PM on 05/13/2012
Hey! Wait a minute, Marlo! Obama did not say he approved of homosexuality. He merely voiced his opinion that same-sex couples should have the right to marry.

That’s like saying people should have the right to smoke, or imbibe alcohol, or gamble, or fornicate, without necessarily approving of those vices.
10:52 AM on 05/14/2012
Hey, Charlie. It's about acceptance. PRESIDENT Obama said he accepted the right of others to be equal. Youn can't possibly be comparing the right of an American citizen to enjoy "Equal Rights Under the Law" with the right to smoke. I will note however that the right to imbibe alcohol is enshrined in our Constitution. I would hope you think the rights of your fellow Americans to live their lives free of government instrusion, and enjoy the right to "life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness," regardless of their sexual orientation, should enjoy the status of the right to imbibe. I can only hope.
03:47 AM on 05/15/2012
Although I'm not against the heart behind this, I think this is taken out of context. Obama has never said he was against homosexuals. This isn't a matter of allowing gays to be together, to live together, to display affection in public or anything of the sort of gays having any less INDIVIDUAL rights than you or me. The issue is more in the sense of the term "marriage".

Marriage is a religious ceremony. It's not evidence of a relationship and it certainly doesn't give permission for a relationship. Because it's a religious ceremony, I find the more appalling issue to be that the government has had control of it in the first place. We want separation of church and state? Then why is a religious practice dictated by the government? If the government was left out of it, then gays could find churches that would marry them, and yet churches who disagree with the the homosexual lifestyle would still be free to disagree and not have it be a "hate crime" like racism.

There are extremists on either side who seem to get the microphone and misrepresent both sides, and as much as emotional propaganda has hurt the sides of the religions, I think articles like these are just as misdirected as they make it such an emotional "free the slaves" type of argument that is very unfair and purposely uneducated to the other side.
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01:57 PM on 05/16/2012
“Youn [sic] can't possibly be comparing the right of an American citizen to enjoy "Equal Rights Under the Law" with the right to smoke.”

I might be. Smokers might make the case that people who like to eat broccoli have the right to eat broccoli, so why shouldn’t people who like to smoke have the right to smoke, under the "Equal Rights Under the Law” doctrine. That is, if some people have the right to do what pleases them, then all people should have that same right.

This isn’t much different from the argument gays make concerning gay marriage: If heterosexuals have the right to marry the ones they love, then homosexuals should have the same right to marry the ones they love. Of course, then everyone should have that same right.

It is this sort of bad logic that the entire argument for gay marriage is based.
08:29 AM on 05/16/2012
Why are people so concerned with "approving" or "not approving" of homosexuality? That comes up with evangelical Christians too - I don't approve of your actions... Who cares? Approval can come later or not at all from Obama. What matters is equal protection under the law. That is the government's job. Not approving.
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02:01 PM on 05/16/2012
What classifications of people here need equal protection under the law? How are the lines drawn? Are they drawn according to gender? Or sexual orientation? Or personal preferences? Emotional states?
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01:30 PM on 05/13/2012
Great letter! Thank you, Mr. President, for trying to teach people tolerance instead of intolerance, hatred, and bigotry.
11:32 AM on 05/13/2012
Great letter, Marlo. Thanks for writing it to support the President.
11:11 AM on 05/13/2012
It's rather surprising that a woman of your years is so naive. obama didn't do anything. nothing has changed. no action was taken. no executive order was penned. no new legislation was proposed.

all talk, no do
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RickO
Musician, Atheist
01:18 PM on 05/13/2012
You really have no idea, do you?
02:51 PM on 05/13/2012
Yah, RickO, that was kinda my take. I wonder what universe some folks live in.
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boycottrightwingthings
END WAR on women vote Dem 2014!
03:14 PM on 05/14/2012
It is YOU who are naive.
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JeffShaffer
07:21 AM on 05/13/2012
Great news for men and the unintended result of Gay marriage. Divorce rules will now change. Who gets the kids? Who gets the stuff, the money, and the dog? In the before it was almost always THE WOMAN. In the after, it will be 50/50. Good for men.....I say yessss!!!! Thanks you.
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A1percenttaxpayer
12:56 AM on 05/13/2012
As a republican and a conservative and a believer in the constitution I believe gay marriage should be legal. Having said that your being used Obama had the house senate and executive and did nothing why? Because he needed this issue to rile you up. You see if you are gay you create a problem for this president looking at you as a statistic you pay a lot more in taxes than your straight counterpart you often don't have kids for deductions on your taxes exposing you to more exposure. Your economic condition makes you susceptible to having a conservative slant on economic issues. But be assured the democrats will keep this issue alive never allowing it to pass its too valuable to let pass. My hope is that other republicans will one day realize this and put a end to this silly discussion and welcome the gay community where they belong in the republican party. It will happen just like it took us to get rid of segregation.
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Mark S Raymond
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01:27 AM on 05/13/2012
I’m sorry but I just have to ask. What color is the sky in your world? It’s “the democrats … keep[ing] this issue alive never allowing it to pass?!?” Seriously? Did you watch the Republican debates? Did you hear the commencement address the presumptive Republican nominee gave less than forty-eight hours ago? Have you heard the vitriol aimed at the LGBT community from Republican elected officials and other self-identified Republicans? Forgawdssake, get real!
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A1percenttaxpayer
01:41 AM on 05/13/2012
I made it clear I don't agree with my party on this but the true constitutionalists agree with me. But you must ask Obama had 2 years where he could have ended this he had the house and senate why didn't he settle it there.
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Radicalreader
09:08 AM on 05/13/2012
So now the GOP wants to take credit for what Obama has done. Following Romney's lead already.
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bekahlyons
10:03 PM on 05/12/2012
May I add for you profound range of thinking the following.   Parents and family members have always adapted their particular norms  to what are suitable partners in loved ones. Look at the Jewish culture,  Appalachian culture, the whole eastern seaboard /Western seaboard vs the Southern match!
Asians do not like certain integrations , and so forth .
Many many persons who choose a partner have anxiety and reluctance to share that news with their families for a number of specific reasons.   Why must you degrade men  and women to such a victim status?  If a person wants to marry put of their faith , same sex, interracial ,  elitist culture vs non elitist ,then they  must make the case to family and  live with fall out.
The Presidents highly cynical political ploy will not change that!  He has no power over family relations .Not to mention his huge  hypocritical cop out of stating he, "supports gay marriage but it is a states rights issue.' 

You and all the others in this country who feel compelled to dictate  the societal norm,  which rides just right of center , should recognize that the country has already made huge  and generous offerings for all LGBT  to be part of the spectrum . But you push and you push and you do so intellectually dishonest like your  first paragraph. 

You can believe what is significant to you and yours Ms. Thomas. Free will . But you are doing the LGBT community a huge disservice by falsely  characterizing this countries overall attitude towards those citizens . They label themselves. They seek special rights.   They have been used by the left for the progressive agenda which is to destroy  the family nucleus paradigm .   30 states ,'That girl", have had ballots and voted no.  Civil Unions and Domestic partnerships absolutely.. Tax and health benefit  absolutely .   But the Institution of marriage cannot be judicially activist  mandated and if and when that reaches SCOTUS  you will know what the Constitution clearly states about the enumerated judicial powers. a court cannot CREATE a right.
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Mark S Raymond
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01:15 AM on 05/13/2012
“You and all the others in this country who feel compelled to dictate the societal norm, which rides just right of center , should recognize that the country has already made huge and generous offerings for all LGBT to be part of the spectrum .”

EXCUSE ME! Huge and generous offerings?!? You can’t be generous with things that are not yours to give. We are CITIZENS of these United States and as citizens are entitled to full and equal protection under the law. Perhaps you’ve not heard of the Fourteenth Amendment and its Equal Protection Clause with reads in part:

“NO STATE SHALL make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any State deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor DENY TO ANY PERSON WITHIN ITS JURISDICTION THE EQUAL PROTECTION OF THE LAWS.”

There are no rights being “created” – the right to equal treatment under the law is a right that ALL AMERICAN CITIZENS have had since 1868. Marriage is a CIVIL institution as defined under the laws of the United States. I don’t really give a *beep* what thirty states have voted, just as rights are not yours to “generous[ly] offer” neither are they yours to withhold. The Supreme Court will not be creating rights, they will be acknowledging existing rights.
fo3angels
Equality is only equality if it is for all
09:18 AM on 05/13/2012
Actually, one need not be a citizen, or even resident, to be afforded equal protection under the law - as the second sentence that you cite clearly states.
02:58 PM on 05/13/2012
Blam! You tell 'em, Mark S Raymond! Fanned!
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ocrbmom
06:15 PM on 05/14/2012
Did anybody read or listen to what OBAMA said? Your quick to ridicule, insult and just be hateful. Obama said "IN HIS PERSONAL OPINION", not the Gov't opinion, not the churches opinion, not even your opinion., no policy changes, no law changes, just HIS PERSONAL OPINION.
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bekahlyons
09:09 PM on 05/14/2012
Ocrbmom--I cannot help you . My original comments were to ms. Thomas and her utterly false assertions that gays are hidden in back rooms  and live in fear of discovery !  i challenged her vision of how she claims America  treats LGBT.  Your comprehension skills  need sharpening.
07:03 PM on 05/12/2012
Our Government has to borrow half of everything they spend almost 16 trillion dollars in debt. and our leaders are worried about Gay Marriage? The disregard for practical matters is amazing!! Dont get me wrong Im not against gay marriage its just that there are much more important issues that need to be addressed.
08:15 PM on 05/12/2012
Not only that, but he played the "announcement" incredibly politically. This wasn't part of the platform of his campaign running in '08, but it will be this year for no other reason than it is politically advantageous.
03:02 PM on 05/13/2012
Coreys Morrow, it seems like you are belittling the people fighting for their rights rather than criticizing those denying them. The use of resources is in self defense: if you don't like it, let the people denying the rights know how much you disapprove of them wasting the Nation's time & money.
Jesterband
the fastest swimmer
04:19 AM on 05/13/2012
Granted there are a lot of problems facing this country and there are no easy fixes available. That said there are millions in this country being denied rights they should not have to be fighting for as our Constitution guarantees equal protection for all, so don't minimize their rightful worries.

As far as finding a solution to this problem it's really pretty simple isn't it?
06:51 PM on 05/12/2012
Marriage is between a man and women, period. There's no right that is constitutional here, so quit making it an issue. Quit forcing others to believe anything differently... geez.
Good luck changing the minds of 50% of the US population.

Typical Obama, cash-in on his divisive issues for the purpose of getting re-Elected.
BTW, where was his urgency in the first 3 years of his presidency...exactly. Is politics as ususal.
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Hugo Rabson
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10:30 PM on 05/12/2012
I know you're venting, and that's OK, but the issue of gay marriage is not as simple as you want it to be. Here's why.

The federalists will tell you that gay marriage isn't guaranteed: After all, (a) the Constitution doesn't say a thing about it and (b) the longstanding traditions of American society has permitted it to be proscribed. I'm paraphrasing Justice Scalia here. Of course, Scalia was referring to abortion, specifically Roe v Wade.

The judges who aren't federalists will tell you that the Constitution is a living, breathing document. Just because certain rights are unenumerated, doesn't mean they can't be enumerated by legislation and precedent.

Anyone can claim the Constitution is on their side. The real question is, what do Americans want? The Constitution is open to interpretation. The will of the People is not.

There's no guarantee that gay marriage will ever be lawful, nor is there any guarantee that gay marriage will ever be socially acceptable. There is only the guarantee that Americans will pressure their elected officials to pass laws that reflect the values that Americans hold dear. It's entirely possible that Americans, by and large, do not want gay marriage. Fine. That's the will of the People. In fifty years, twenty years, or even five years, that may change.

What will you say when the majority of Americans believe that homosexuals should have the right to marry?
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Michael F
10:59 PM on 05/12/2012
We've changed the mind of 20% of the population in the last 5 years. I don't see a problem getting another 20% in the next 5. We don't need to change the minds of 100% of people. Just 2/3's of them.

We are almost there.

Good luck trying to change their minds back.
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A1percenttaxpayer
12:59 AM on 05/13/2012
The democrats will never allow this to die when your fight is over you will find 2 things if you are gay you make more money and pay more taxes. And second paying most of the taxes is not fair why should you be singled out.
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poiuytre
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06:45 PM on 05/12/2012
Spot on, Marlo!!
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marignymitch
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06:13 PM on 05/12/2012
Obama's support wil save many young lives. Thanks, Ms Thomas.
11:53 AM on 05/22/2012
How naive you are. That's the same "myth" that created Roe vs Wade!
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04:18 PM on 05/12/2012
Thank you, Marlo Thomas. I only knew you as That Girl when I was a little kid and needless to say I never could have dreamed that one day you would become an ally in the struggle for gay people's dignity. Thank you again.
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Amber Grifka Braud
02:33 PM on 05/12/2012
Again, I never said that the Founding Fathers wrote the Pledge of Allegiance. I referred to the quote "One Nation, Under God" to show that our country has pledged and practiced these ideals and morals for a long time. We are now trying so hard to make this a politically correct country that people are twisting the meaning behind the Constitution and The Declaration of Indepence to fit their current beliefs.
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03:49 PM on 05/12/2012
The meaning behind these documents? There is no meaning BEHIND them. What you see is what you get and it's often ambiguous and open to interpretation - I know, NOT a popular idea with the morally rigid set. That's the excellence of these documents and the quality that has allowed them to endure over more than two centuries of vast technological change which has inevitably brought with it vast social change.
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Pucifer
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04:07 AM on 05/13/2012
You are awfully hateful for a "Christian"! And awfully ignorant about U.S. history.
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Amber Grifka Braud
03:12 PM on 05/13/2012
I have said nothing hateful. I am not judging anybody for their CHOICES. That is not my place. I am voicing my opinion on the matter which is my right. Name calling is quite juvenile and unnecessary.
02:25 PM on 05/12/2012
I think this is how we gotta thank a visionary like President Obama. Thanks Marlo.
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bekahlyons
10:14 PM on 05/12/2012
Visionary?
Yes his vision was to plummet  the recession into a  free fall depression through massive  debt ,and deficit spending ,and policies.

Attila the Hun had a vision as well but I would not  label him a visionary.
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Ice9
If money is speech, then speech is never free
01:06 PM on 05/13/2012
You obviously know nothing about economics - just parroting tea bagger talking points.

Yes, lets cut our way to prosperity. Show me a model where this notion has worked. Europe is in the process of rejecting it, while American policy has stabilized our economy and even started it back up.

Attila? Really?
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08:17 PM on 05/13/2012
Yes! His vision is to fundamentally transform this nation into “One nation under Obama."
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HRLS
Rude, Crude, and Socially Unacceptable
01:54 PM on 05/12/2012
No one should be married(on paper). If you're suppose to be together, you'll be together.
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Mindy Czech
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08:33 PM on 05/12/2012
So the rights and protections that come along with marriage aren't important? How about this: when every single heterosexual couple relinquishes their marriage rights and eschews marriage, thus forfeiting all of the rights and protections that go along with that marriage, we will stop fighting for our rights to have our marriages recognized and considered equal. We'd be on a level playing field then.