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Women's History Month: Closing the Ambition Gap

Posted: 03/13/2012 8:07 am

March is Women's History Month, and I'm being asked the same question -- a lot:

"Whatever happened to the women's movement? Where are the feminist freedom fighters today?"

I guess if people don't see women marching, they don't think they're moving. But they need to remember that the marching, the protesting, of the Sixties and Seventies opened the door for a generation that we hoped would come after us. And it has.

It's exciting to see three women on the Supreme Court. It's exciting to see three women Secretaries of State and even women leading other nations. It's exciting to see women anchor the nightly news, and it's exciting to know that the chief operating officer of Facebook -- the one who helps you connect with your hundreds of 'friends' -- is, in fact, a woman.

But what's most exciting is that this woman of power -- and a billionaire to boot -- is not satisfied with how far women have come.

"The world is still run by men," Facebook's Sheryl Sandberg said in a recent speech. "We're not teaching our girls and women to have professional ambition. We're not encouraging women to lean into their careers and aim for powerful jobs. With only 3% of Fortune 500 companies run by women, we have a real problem."

Hearing Sandberg's words, I couldn't help but flash back to when I was 23 years old, producing my own television show, and people would say, "You're so ambitious!" And I would cringe, feeling the sting of their contempt. What they were saying was that I was "aggressive" and "assertive" and needed to be "in control." It would take me years to feel these words as a compliment, not as the pejoratives they were meant to be.

"We don't teach our girls to have power," Sandberg told me a few months ago. "We teach them to 'get along.' And if they get too loud or forceful, we call them 'bossy.'"

That made me laugh. What spirited young girl hasn't heard that word? Even Tina Fey titled her memoir "Bossypants."

Sandberg puts it simply. "I want my daughter to have the choice not to just succeed," she says, "but to be liked for her accomplishments." Nobody said that to me in the Seventies. That's why I created Free to Be...You and Me. I wanted to tell girls and boys what I hadn't been told. I didn't want them to take half their lives to figure out that, whatever they wanted, they should go for it all the way -- and not worry about doing what everyone else does, just so they would be liked.

That's why I love the posters on the wall at the Facebook offices that read, "What would you do if you weren't afraid?" I'd like to hang those posters in the hallways of every school in the country, to remind kids -- and their teachers, too -- that the barriers we face are mostly internal, not external.

Women's History Month is not just a time to celebrate where we've come from, or how far we've opened the door. It's also a time for us to express our dissatisfaction that the doors aren't opened wide enough. As always, it's the agitation that creates the pearl.

So where is the women's movement today? It is in the powerful hands of leaders like Sandberg, who, having risen to the top of their careers, feel the responsibility to reach out and inspire those women who follow them -- the college graduates, the women who are struggling at the first rung of their careers, the women who are stalled and frightened.

"Fortunes favors the bold," Sandberg told Barnard's graduating class. "Think big. Dream big. We will never close the achievement gap until we close the ambition gap."

With leaders like Sandberg, we will.

So in honor of Women's History Month, we've assembled this special slide show of women who are leading the way -- in different fields -- all headed in the same direction, all part of the same march.

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Even before Sheryl Sandberg left Google to become the COO of Facebook in 2008, she was ranked number 29 on Fortune magazine's "Most Powerful Women in Business," and she was the youngest woman on that list. Since then, she has emerged as one of the most influential executives on earth, and has been named one of Forbes magazine's "100 Most Powerful Women" and one of the "25 Most Influential People on the Web" by Business Week.

 

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March is Women's History Month, and I'm being asked the same question -- a lot: "Whatever happened to the women's movement? Where are the feminist freedom fighters today?" I guess if people don't ...
March is Women's History Month, and I'm being asked the same question -- a lot: "Whatever happened to the women's movement? Where are the feminist freedom fighters today?" I guess if people don't ...
 
 
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newquest
12:51 PM on 03/19/2012
Not that I have anything against women excelling but where has it gotten women to fixate on beating men at everything? Women have certain natural attributes that help them to be better than men and men have natural attributes to be better than women. It doesn't have to be a competition between the sexes which the women's movement has made it into... nothing but a competition. That's where I have the most angst against the women's movement. If you look at TV these days you can see that there are attempts to develop women into somehow equal or better than men in "mano on mano" hand to hand combat which anyone with a little common sense knows is a fantasy. Men would in all but a handful of combat situations kick female ass and those men that didn't win would have underlying causes not to win. Heart problems, para-palegic or they were asleep at the time of the combat. Men don't excel at emotional well being as women do becasue women have an innate ability to look beyond themselves. They also excel at anything involving fine motor control. Men in these areas are totally deficient. I also think women have far greater capabilities in certain sciences such as medicine and medical technology. Men excel in areas such as engineering and mathematics. Its my opinion and you may take it or leave it.
11:14 PM on 03/18/2012
A famous person once said, "yes, I'm a misogynist, but only because I hate everyone." I agree very much with this.
06:08 PM on 03/18/2012
I have always loved Marlo from "That Girl" and St Jude. This article is totally out of whack. I am a 40- 50 yr old age group black female who did her share of women's studies. It is common knowledge that affirmative action helped white women the most. The second most helped were extremely educated extremely pretty black women . To say the women still need help in making strides in employment is so untrue. Average white women with some type of education have made major strides at the detriment of average males and extraordinary ethnic females and males because the law made the choice in hiring was white woman or minority. Given the choice-most companies opted for white female as opposed to minority male/female. Today, the worst thing to be in this economy as to getting a job is to be an average college educated white male. IMHO, being female should not get you points for the job no more than being male.Likewise as to being a minority. For some reason, the equalizing of the playing field made more life more unequal than it was before because before you had a 50/50 chance of getting a straight up person to interview with but now you get the quotas, and the fear of lawsuit that your company is not "diverse". It is time to quit promoting women and start promoting all Americans for all jobs in this economy
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kbuffler42
04:22 PM on 03/18/2012
While I think woman marching is not the only way to advance women's equaality (and things are far from equal), I have concerns regarding the current attitudes eminating from our nation's Capital as well as many state capitals. I believe women's issues are the scapegoat for the current political season. The focus on abortion rights, (women's) contraception issues, and the general tone of sexual agendas in politics (as opposed to the economy, jobs, the wars and healthcare) is the smokescreen of choice for the political boys club as they attempt to deflect the problems we all face. Title nine, a few (still far too few) CEOs of large corps, and gains in #s of professional women does not translate to equality. It's a beginning, but there is more to be done. I work in a CPA firm and now, during the rush of tax prep, many people are coming in to sign e-filing authorizations and extensions. For nine out of ten couples filing joint returns, the man signs where it says "Signature" and the woman signs where it says "Spouse's Signature". A seeminly small thing, but a another reminder there is still much to do and those of us who are older need to participate.
04:14 PM on 03/18/2012
Spectacular article, thank you!
cafemocha
No kool-aid or tea: just caffeinated commentary
04:03 PM on 03/18/2012
And I'd hoped that ambition to climb the ranks of the military is not found here. There soon must be the first Chairwoman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff.

I'd hoped the word, 'equality' would be mentioned in your post.
cafemocha
No kool-aid or tea: just caffeinated commentary
03:43 PM on 03/18/2012
It's odd, but it doesn't surprise me that the word, "EQUALITY" is found no where in your text.

Also no surprise that ambition to climb the ranks of the military is not found here. Who wants to be the first Chairwoman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff? Na-da.

Who wants to be the first woman to register for the Selective Service? Any takers? Didn't think so.

We're nearing the 100th anniversary of national women's suffrage, 2020. Don't forget many states and territories granted women suffrage in the 19th century. As more women vote, and with them as the majority since 1920, we've had more and more wars, to be fought by men men men men men. Though I personally can't wait until we have an all female combat service, complete with affirmative action to make up for past discrimination, I don't think any of the women mentioned throughout your post or responding bloggers care to serve in it, or even register for Selective Service. If women really want to stop unnecessary wars, women would be willing to do all of that.

A side bar: It was not exciting to have Condi Rice as FIRST National Security Adviser!!!
Her "advice" contributed to the strategy and tactics that gave us no defense in the many months, days, weeks and hours before Sept., 2001, and the Iraq War debacle. One can wonder how much she'd have rushed America into Iraq if it were mainly women on those front lines.
11:35 AM on 03/18/2012
I was shocked this morning to find an item titled "Gloria Steinem, a Woman like no Other" in the fashion and style section of the Sunday NY Times. The article is not about "fashion and style." It describes how Steinem helped a young feminist from Texas launch her career.

Women still have a long way to go to reach full equality.
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thatlittlevoice
Refuse to be ordinary.
11:00 AM on 03/18/2012
I would direct readers to MissRepresentation.org to learn more about why more women are not rising to positions of leadership and power. We've come some distance as women, but for every one step forward, we are still taking two steps back when we stand silent against the onslaught of mainstream media on our self-worth and recognition of ourselves as capable and potentially powerful leaders. Jennifer Siebel Newsom's excellent documentary MISS REPRESENTATION is a good place to start informing yourselves and your daughters/sisters/mothers/sons/spouses about something we can and must change.
05:05 AM on 03/18/2012
the feminist movement was nothing more than a "we-wanna-be-men" tirade.....

What else do you want...a beard?
01:33 AM on 03/18/2012
I appreciate the great article Marlo! I must admit I have not held back in my ambition at all. Being a 40 something career woman I strive to be a role model to young girls everywhere. The commenters on here talking about husbands have a tendency to judge women like me who sacrifice it all for the top job. No, I do not have children or a marriage nor do I need one to fulfill my soul. If and when I do find the right partner it will be on my terms or they can hit the highway.
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MissTake1989
Equal means equal, hypocrites.
09:02 PM on 03/17/2012
Sandberg puts it simply. "I want my daughter to have the choice not to just succeed," she says, "but to be liked for her accomplishments."

EXACTLY.

Just the like male CEO's of giant corporations are liked for their accomplishments.
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knott wrench
06:30 PM on 03/17/2012
With today's Political Issues regarding Women's Health, the "Sleeping Giant" of the Women's Movement may well again make itself More Visibly Known.

If not, their is the problem of going back to the 14th Century Europe version of Women's Rights in the USA.

As an Emergency Services Worker and Women's Activist in my career field I have seen a lot of my friends in other agencies advance higher in rank.

Some of them include;

Deb Amesqua, Ret Fire Chief of Madison Wisconsin.
Tracy Jarman, Ret. Fire Chief of San Diego, California
Roxanne Bercik, Dep. Chief LAFD
Rosemary Cloud, Fire Chief East Point, Ga.
Joanne Hays-White, Fire Chief, San Francisco, Ca.
and many others, including those within the Post 9/11 Book "Women at Ground Zero" by Carouba and Hagan.

Within those individual agencies, the issues are, maintaining as well as increasing the number of women in their respective agencies.

It requires the Motivation to keep committed to moving foward and to accept everyone as individuals into what ever career fields Traditional or Non-Traditional a Woman may want to go in to.
04:01 AM on 03/17/2012
Please publish an interview with you and Michelle Bachelet then give her a monthly column.
10:45 PM on 03/15/2012
I think the fact that the government sponsered "community service messages to break the bonds of racism" was proven to be an effective means of reaching the masses by the election of Barack Obama as President; and the fact that they have not chosen to do the same to break the sterotypical ideas about women and educate the public on the contribution of women throughout history speaks volumes about the lack of sincerity on the part of our leadership. I personally am tired of being overlooked and undervalued, I worked hard for 45 years to break barriers for the women coming after me in the transportation/distribution industry, and yet the industry as a whole is much the same today. Also in the economic "slowdown" three years ago it was in large proportion women and older workers who were "laid off" and the same who continue to be unemployed or underemployed today. Those who say that sexism and agism have been conquered are living in a glass castle and out of touch with the real world. WE NEED TO EDUCATE THE MASSES, though community service announcements just as we did in the 70's, 80's and 90's. I say to our leaders , "put your money where your mouth is, prove you care about women and their continuing struggle for simple appreciation and respect for a job well done, start the education campaign today".