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Marten Weber
Marten Weber is of mixed parentage (a man and a woman) and has lived in more countries than he can count on hands and feet together. He speaks several languages and believes in multiculturalism, tolerance, and free champagne also in economy class.

He dislikes bigots and fanatics of all denominations. He is hugely uncomfortable with labels, even seemingly benign ones such as "gay," "straight," or "sugar-free," and prefers instead to judge people by their sense of humor and shoe size. He believes that everybody, regardless of race or gender, should be gay for a year.

Marten Weber is the author of the acclaimed 2010 novel Shayno, the biography of Casanova’s gay brother Benedetto, and several other books about the lives and lust of men.

Entries by Marten Weber

Mom or Dad? Which One Accepts You More?

(0) Comments | Posted December 14, 2015 | 1:20 PM

For gay men, relationships with parents can be complicated. It's been said that we usually have a better relationship with our mothers than with our fathers. Fathers represent the masculine side of family, and homosexuality challenges that role.

According to the sociologist Michael Kimmel, men demonstrate their masculinity by...

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The Next Step Is Oblivion: The Future of Gay Literature

(0) Comments | Posted November 3, 2014 | 9:38 PM

If there is such a thing as "gay writing" or "LGBT literature" -- and I am really not a fan of categories -- here is a look at its future.

For most of history, gay writing didn't exist. Gay characters did not feature in literature. Some books had "homoerotic" aspects...

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The End of Your Relationship May Already Be in Your Pocket

(15) Comments | Posted May 2, 2014 | 4:02 PM

I've always been a fan of dating apps. Being on Grindr, Scruff or whatever the latest installment is called, gives gay men a sense of belonging. It's nice to see that there are so many others out there. It's hot to hook up for great sex, and meet interesting people...

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America May Finally Be Becoming a Developed Nation

(0) Comments | Posted March 3, 2014 | 6:26 PM

You would think that people living in what we commonly refer to as "the developing world" are worse off all round. Their economies are less advanced, their governments more unstable, the politicians more corrupt, and their health care system cannot provide the best care. You would think that, and you...

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What Gay Muscle-Boys Can Give the Planet

(0) Comments | Posted February 13, 2014 | 11:22 AM

Health. Yes. A long-term change in health.

Statistics consistently show that the world is getting fatter and fatter -- not just in America, but increasingly in developing countries, where the new affluence is causing waistlines to swell.

And then you go out to a gay dance club and...

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Sex Is All About Entelechy

(7) Comments | Posted November 20, 2013 | 8:52 PM

Why do we do it? Sex, I mean. Once we have freed ourselves from idiotic biblical notions and the dictate of procreation, the question is: What is all that hugging and stroking good for, other than feeling good? Does it serve a purpose other than the satisfaction of bodily urges?

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A Flicker of Hope in the Middle East Is Extinguished

(3) Comments | Posted September 6, 2013 | 7:00 PM

No, this is not about Syria. And I am well aware that the plight of gays and lesbians is nothing compared with the suffering of many Arabs in war-torn regions, or that of women under Islam in general. But after an Omani newspaper published an article that merely suggested that...

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What's So Special About Russia?

(22) Comments | Posted August 16, 2013 | 9:15 PM

Recent developments in Russia worry me and other LGBT activists a lot. Putin is resorting to medieval ideologies of repression and blame. Gays have become the scapegoats of a tyrannical regime that continues to whip up public sentiment to detract from the simple truth that the government does not have...

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Traveling With a Hookup App: A Guide to Getting More Than Laid

(13) Comments | Posted August 9, 2013 | 7:19 PM

One of the things I love most about our digital, global age is the ability to connect with people around the world so easily. Combine that with actual traveling, which, thanks to my job as a writer and columnist, is a frequent occurrence, and what I end up with is...

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'Going Down, Ladies?' The Astonishing Appeal of Gay Businesses

(2) Comments | Posted July 29, 2013 | 2:49 PM

The first thing that hit us after checking into one of the newest and poshest all-gay (but "hetero-friendly") hotels in Europe was the amount of women and straight couples. At least half the guests were decidedly not gay men on the prowl.

The hotel is quite gay, to be...

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The Knight in Shining Armor Is Dead -- Long Live the Knight

(0) Comments | Posted June 14, 2013 | 4:57 PM

During my research for the sequel to Benedetto Casanova, I came across an anonymous 18th-century document, purportedly written by a monk, claiming that "romantic love is an invention to keep women in their place."

The author hypothesizes that men came up with the idea of the knight...

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Van Buuren and Bach on a Rave

(0) Comments | Posted May 30, 2013 | 8:19 PM

I'm probably the last gay man on the planet to discover the allure of trance music, and at my age that's slightly ridiculous. But you see, I've spent the last 20 years listening exclusively to classical music, mostly of the baroque variety, so I may be forgiven. I claim to...

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How to Find Your Man

(6) Comments | Posted May 1, 2013 | 10:00 AM

It is a universally acknowledged truth that a bottom boy with a bubble butt must be in need of a hung top. That particular problem of the gay world was as pertinent in Jane Austen's time as it is now. The woman may have known everything about matchmaking but is...

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The Difference Between Conservative and Liberal Is Timing

(3) Comments | Posted April 1, 2013 | 2:14 PM

I had dinner last week with a group of wealthy American conservatives, two of them former U.S. senators. I was asked which lodge I belonged to, how disappointed I was that Obama got reelected, what I thought of the dangers of gay marriage, the left's assault on the freedom to...

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Why Some Guys Don't Wear Condoms

(49) Comments | Posted March 18, 2013 | 9:15 PM

Condoms protect from all kinds of sexually transmitted diseases. They are a good thing, especially when you are young and promiscuous. And yet barebacking is on the increase worldwide. HIV infection rates amongst young men are not coming down. Some countries with a big ecstasy ("E") problem have soaring infection...

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The Modern Nomad

(0) Comments | Posted February 27, 2013 | 11:24 PM

I thought my life was special. As a business consultant, I traveled millions of miles and saw the world; now, as a writer, I visit all those fantastic places all over again on book tours and journeys of inspiration. But at the end of a trip, business or pleasure, I...

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Scruffy, Scruffier, Scruffiest: The New Look Is More Than Just a Fad

(35) Comments | Posted January 29, 2013 | 6:06 PM

It's not just because I am on Scruff. It's not just because, spending much time in Asia, I sometimes get a craving for thick chest hair. It's a genuinely objective observation: Beards are back in fashion around the world. I've been to 18 countries in the last year, and everywhere...

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Dancing on Wheels

(1) Comments | Posted January 9, 2013 | 11:33 AM

And what did you do for Christmas? I'll tell you what I did: I danced in a bear club with a man in a wheelchair!

I've never been a great fan of conventions. Mistletoe and Christmas trees? Pah. Stuff the turkey dinner and the family drama! Traditions are like...

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The Face of Honesty

(2) Comments | Posted January 2, 2013 | 5:53 PM

Earlier this year one of my Huffington Post pieces about barebacking, "No Latex, No Love," caused quite a stir. I received a lot of emails and Twitter (@webmarten) messages from people telling me I got it wrong and should let people do what they want. "Shut...

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Straight Guys Don't Kiss

(126) Comments | Posted December 22, 2012 | 11:18 AM

Oh yeah? But they do pretty much everything else. Male sexuality is chaotic, irritating, and full of vestigial warrior ethos and beautiful contradictions.

Just back from the mountains we stopped in Vienna for Christmas (wonderful mulled wine and enormous sausages!) And what did we do? We met a straight...

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