I am a father of six children, not a child psychologist. So what I am about to say comes from experience not academia. But still I think it's valid. And it refers to a question that somebody asked me that went like this. Why should you expose a 2-year-old to awesome experiences if she will not remember them? So this is what I think: yes you should expose them to awesome experiences and no they won't remember them. And this is not contradictory. Allow me to explain.
Why should you, for example, take your 2-year-old to meet the princesses in Disney World, or any other great child-oriented vacation? Because in my view, children are made of a very unique parental clay that somehow solidifies at the end of their childhood. Yes they have their own scaffolding or structure, but over this structure, every day of your parenting, you add some love clay. Yes, every day. And what should concern you as a parent is that on a poor day of parenting, say of parental neglect, you also added clay, but of a poor quality, with very little love in it. And that was your chance, that was your opportunity to build your own child that day, and you did a poor job. And it will remain. Maybe another day you were an artist of a parent, you were inspired, you connected to your 2-year-old in a very special way, and that day your child got a lot of love clay. And that clay also stayed for good, and that was personality building. Yes children are like that. It's not what they remember that matters, it's how they are built, by you. Day after day. So now you understand why it is great to take a 2-year-old to a great event that she or he won't remember. Because that day you will be a better artist, a better parent, and that day will build your child in a positive way, forever. And many of those days make you a good parent. At Disney World or at the park near your home.
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