To be successful as an entrepreneur, you don't have to be a fabulous person, but it helps. Some people, and some entrepreneurs, have that something extra, like Simon Cowell is searching for on the X-Factor, that you can't quite put your finger on. But the entrepreneurs that have "it" seem to be able to effortlessly get team members, investors, and customers to follow them anywhere.
I just finished a book on this subject, "The Essentials of Fabulous," by Ellen Lubin-Sherman, who has been tracking fabulous people most of her life, as a writer and journalist. She identifies less than a dozen primary qualities for fabulous people in general, and I have honed and tuned these to ten that apply especially to entrepreneurs, in my experience:
- Be passionate about life, as well as your business. Entrepreneurs who have passion in business, as well as their life, may drive us all batty, but there is never a dull moment. These moments are always being transformed into options to be explored. They make life interesting and an adventure, and everyone loves an adventure.
- Be delightfully authentic and honest. Authentic entrepreneurs are destined and determined to have fun, as well as move forward in business. They have an unerring confidence that's inspiring yet attainable. They savor relationships, and are generous with themselves and their smarts, so they attract a savvy following.
- Be revered for an amazing positive attitude. Rather than cave when things get tough, optimistic entrepreneurs go analytic, looking for pivots that keep their goals in sight. They are disciplined, upbeat thinkers, but they don't take themselves too seriously, and know how and when to laugh it off. A negative attitude takes everyone down.
- Be warm and completely accessible. Warmth comes from your smile, and facial expressions that indicate genuine interest. Investors and partners look for entrepreneurs that will look them straight in the eye when speaking, and give their full and undivided attention while you're speaking. Everyone looks for "rapport talk" rather than "report talk."
- Have impeccable manners and flair. Entrepreneurs who are always looking for opportunities to be gracious and considerate are going to be liked, admired, sought after, and trusted. In business, that means staying connected, showing up on time, with no signs of boredom or preoccupation. It's not always about you, so dress and talk for them.
- Be competent and confident. Competent people accomplish more in business because they're driven by a pronounced sense of purpose. They are willing to put themselves on the line, and have confidently done their homework to know what it takes. They are reliably consistent, and unafraid to ask for help.
- Able to just "get it." Entrepreneurs who "get it" are emotionally attuned to peers and customers, so that their gut-level instincts become informed judgments that move the business forward. "With-it"-ness takes work, like reading the right blogs every day, challenging yourself to stay abreast of the latest technology, and social media marketing.
- Have a big bandwidth. Can you talk, with equal engagement and respect, to your company's CFO and the guy who pumps your gas? Look for opportunities to praise and nurture the people with diversity. Get comfortable out of your circle of interest and expertise. Go for that black belt in networking.
- Be vivid virtually. Developing a superior virtual presence requires a mastery of several mediums - phone, email, text messaging, as well as handwritten notes - but the payoff is undeniable. But don't overuse virtual communication to the exclusion of face-to-face time In all cases, don't forget your sense of aplomb, mastery of tone, and the spell-checker.
- Build and use a board of advisors. The right board is a group of individuals who may not know one another, but know you, and know your business domain. Plus, they need to be willing to put their brains and their expertise at your disposal as long as you need it. No entrepreneur is an island, so take the initiative to build and use an advisory board.
Paying attention to all these things is how you become a fabulous entrepreneur, with the X-factor. I'm sorry, but there is no magic, and it doesn't happen overnight. Of course, it will never happen if you don't start or don't believe. But it's worth the effort, unless you have something better to do?