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Mary T. Kelly, M.A.
Mary T. Kelly, M.A. has been specializing in working with stepmoms, stepcouples and stepfamilies for the past decade. She has a marriage and family therapy practice in Boulder, Colorado. She offers phone, Skype and Facetime coaching for stepmoms and stepcouples, as well as offering “intensive” one- to two- day coaching/therapy sessions. She can be reached at or go to her website at

Entries by Mary T. Kelly, M.A.

4 Reasons Fathers in Remarriage Walk on Eggshells

(5) Comments | Posted March 9, 2015 | 3:32 PM

I've worked with thousands of step-couples* and it's not an exaggeration to say that they are suffering (there is a 62-74 percent divorce rate in second marriages with children).

For the majority of fathers I work with, they suffer...
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Dating a Guy With Kids? 6 Things You Must Find Out!

(2) Comments | Posted February 6, 2015 | 9:39 PM

Photo Courtesy of Big Stock Photos

You're ready for a committed relationship, maybe marriage. Maybe you've already met a fabulous guy. He's everything you've always wanted in a partner: kind, loyal, sexy and smart. Oh, and he has kids. Now...

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3 Surprising Facts About Family Today

(3) Comments | Posted January 26, 2015 | 5:07 PM

The world and our lives are changing at speeds never before experienced. The family, like everything else, has been doing its own kind of changing.

There are three facts about today's family that many of you may not know about.

1. The traditional Mom and Dad in the house raising...

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To All You Spooky Scary Frightening Evil Stepmothers

(4) Comments | Posted October 31, 2014 | 4:08 PM


It's Halloween and a day where children and adults alike dress up in costumes and pretend to be someone or something they're not. Whether it's a ghost or a monster, it's fun to get out of our "real selves" if only for a...

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Juan Pablo's Search for "The Perfect Stepmother"

(0) Comments | Posted February 20, 2014 | 1:37 PM

(Photo courtesy of Instagram)

Where does the new stepmother fit in this picture?

Juan Pablo is the latest single guy looking for eternal and everlasting permanent love on this season of "The Bachelor". Yes, I see you rolling your eyes and...

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Singing the Stepmother Blues

(16) Comments | Posted July 31, 2013 | 3:33 PM

The High Incidence of Depression Among Stepmothers

The first thing I wonder is if people would be surprised to know that research shows that stepmothers in general have "significantly greater anxiety and depression than biological mothers"? The second thing I wonder is if the general culture at large...

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Tips for Divorced Couples and Stepparents When Celebrating Children's Life Events

(2) Comments | Posted June 6, 2013 | 3:29 PM

It's that time of year when weddings and graduations are in full bloom. Special events that we look forward to and remember all of our lives are popping up everywhere. The truth is that for many divorced parents and stepparents, stomachs are churning, hearts are pounding and nerves are vibrating.

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For Stepmothers Who Dread Mother's Day

(10) Comments | Posted May 8, 2013 | 4:20 PM

How about this for a Mother's Day Hallmark card for all the custodial and non-custodial stepmothers out there who pitch in on a daily basis, often for years on end, spending hours and hours of their time in an effort to make the lives of their spouses' children happy, healthier...

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Help For The Childless Stepmom

(21) Comments | Posted April 22, 2013 | 12:10 PM

Are you a childless woman partnered with a man who has children? Over the past decade, I've worked with and received volumes of emails from childless (or child-free) women who are partnered with someone with children. Their lament is common and understandable:

"I never knew it would be this hard."

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"You Knew It Was A Package Deal"

(48) Comments | Posted March 27, 2013 | 1:07 PM

"You knew it was a package deal."

If every stepmother got five bucks for every time she heard this, she could easily afford a vacation to a fabulous spa for a much needed and well-deserved rest.

Most anyone who has had the courage, love and determination to partner with someone...

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A Letter To Jada Pinkett Smith

(116) Comments | Posted February 25, 2013 | 6:30 PM

Dear Jada,

You don't know me so let me introduce myself. I'm a therapist who has been working with and writing about stepcouples, stepfamilies, step kids, stepmoms and stepdads for over a decade. I felt the need to respond to the letter that you wrote to your stepmom friend on...

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Stepcouples, Valentine's Day And Date Night

(6) Comments | Posted February 12, 2013 | 12:35 PM

Valentines Day is once again upon us and it's a great time for couples who are in remarriage/repartnership with children to focus on the love that brought them together in the first place. As so many stepcouples know, the complications of stepfamily life make it easy to forget the ease...

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Nobody Asked Me: The Plight Of The Reluctant Stepchild

(500) Comments | Posted January 21, 2013 | 12:50 AM

It was first thing in the morning when he came into my office with hesitation and reluctance. It was clear to me that showing up at that ungodly hour was the last place this fourteen-year-old boy* wanted to be. His coming to see me was not his choice, just like...

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The Pain And Power Of Men: How Men With Children In Remarriage Can Help Transform Their Families

(48) Comments | Posted December 13, 2012 | 4:00 PM

I work with many fathers who are partnered with women, some who have children and some who don't.

Many of these men come to see me with their partners who are miserable and "fed up." Their wives, the dreaded "evil stepmother," sometimes drag them to my office based on a...

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What's Love Got To Do With It? What To Do When You're A Stepmother Who Doesn't Love Her Stepchildren

(238) Comments | Posted November 23, 2012 | 2:45 AM

The women have a "dirty little secret." They come to my office, leave messages on my phone, call me on Skype and send emails from all over the country. As a psychotherapist who specializes in working with stepfamilies, I've long ago come to terms with the reality that being involved...

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