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Mary-Lou Stephens
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Mary-Lou Stephens studied acting and played in bands before she got a proper job -in radio. She writes whenever she's not behind the microphone or heading off to a meditation retreat.

Mary-Lou has garnered rave reviews for her memoir Sex, Drugs and Meditation, the true story of how she changed her life, saved her job and found a husband, all with the help of meditation. She lives in Australia with that very same husband, their dog and a hive of killer native bees.

How To Stay Married is the sequel to Sex, Drugs and Meditation and is the truth behind the happy ending.

Entries by Mary-Lou Stephens

Heartbroken? This Is for You

(0) Comments | Posted June 4, 2015 | 9:51 AM

The thing about a broken heart is you never know when it's going to strike. You may get an inkling; storms cloud gather, the sky turns a strange shade of green, birds fall silent and retreat, but still you think that the...

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The Beatles Were Wrong

(19) Comments | Posted March 31, 2015 | 11:24 AM

The most entrenched beliefs we have about love are handed down to us through popular culture; the fairytale ending, the handsome prince, the knight on the white charger, the perfect man. Then, there's advertising. Some of the beliefs we have about relationships are insinuated into our heads through commercials depicting...

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Relationships 101: How to Survive an Argument

(1) Comments | Posted February 25, 2015 | 9:37 AM


The first time my husband and I argued it was terrifying. I thought it was the end of our relationship.

I've done a lot of meditation so during the argument I knew I should walk away, sit outside and observe...

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The One Big, Not-So-Secret Secret of a Happy Relationship

(4) Comments | Posted January 29, 2015 | 11:41 AM

Relationships. They're a source of endless joy and angst. We might be deliriously happy for a while, but then the gloss wears off and we're stuck with reality. Most people get into relationships expecting they'll feel better about themselves and their lives when they have someone to love them. We...

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Are Your Beliefs Sabotaging Your Relationship?

(0) Comments | Posted December 1, 2014 | 3:24 PM

When I first met my husband, I tried to ignore him, even though he fascinated me. We met at a dinner party; I thought my friends were trying to match-make us and being the mature and sophisticated woman I am, I avoided him for the entire evening. I didn't want...

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Does This Word Terrify You?

(1) Comments | Posted November 13, 2014 | 2:57 PM

Commitment. Why do so many of us find it so hard? I spent many of the early years of my marriage terrified. It was exhausting. Yes, some of our problems were real, but there were concrete things we could do to handle them. It was the things I made up...

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In a Relationship? You're a Hero.

(0) Comments | Posted November 7, 2014 | 4:01 PM

2014-11-07-HeartofLight2.jpgDo you dream of finding the right person to spend your life with? Are you in a strong relationship already and want to keep it that way? Or perhaps your marriage is a little tarnished and you hope to make it shine again?

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I Stopped Meditating: Here's What Happened

(22) Comments | Posted September 10, 2014 | 2:22 PM

2014-09-10-Sexdrugsmeditation5.jpgThis is a hard admission to make. After all I wrote a book about how meditation saved my job, changed my life and helped me find a husband. I've written columns and blogs about the countless benefits meditation...

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So You Think You Can't Meditate: Try Joyful Resting

(0) Comments | Posted June 5, 2014 | 5:57 PM


By now I think we've got the message. Meditation is good for us and we really should do it. Everyone from Russell Brand to Rupert Murdoch is espousing its benefits.

But do we really need another...

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For Me? I Don't Think So: Saying No to Unwanted Gifts

(0) Comments | Posted May 19, 2014 | 11:11 AM

People want to give us things all the time. Is it out of generosity? Out of the kindness in their hearts? Unfortunately, more often than not, the answer is no. But too often, we think we have to accept their gifts anyway.

What would you do if someone tried to...

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How to Eat Cake

(0) Comments | Posted May 2, 2014 | 12:37 PM

The other morning, I had a vision of the reality of life. It wasn't profound; it was prosaic, ordinary but delicious. The vision was of a cake. In this vision, I saw a big, round cake with icing on the top and one of those decorative cake wrappers around the...

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Why Acting Like a Toddler Is a Great Idea

(3) Comments | Posted April 10, 2014 | 5:08 PM

Have you ever seen what toddlers do when life bumps up against them unexpectedly? Think about what happens when they have just fallen over on their padded bottoms or experienced some other small event that didn't entirely delight them. They haven't hurt themselves, they've just been given a bit of...

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Meditation vs. Talking Therapy

(0) Comments | Posted April 1, 2014 | 2:31 PM


There's an old saying: "Least said, soonest mended." It's no longer heard very often. The expression, "The least said the better," is still used but in a very different context to the one that was originally meant. There was a time when people...

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3 dicas para se tornar, meditando, uma escritora melhor

(0) Comments | Posted March 18, 2014 | 2:48 PM

Caminho até o lugar e sento-me em uma esteira, com duas almofadas sob meu traseiro. Estou confortável agora, mas sei que isso não vai durar. Em dez minutos começarão as dores. No início leves e incômodas e depois, com o passar do tempo, cada vez mais intensas. Dez dias de...

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3 Ways Meditation Will Make You a Better Writer

(0) Comments | Posted March 9, 2014 | 5:21 PM

I walk to my spot and sit down, a mat beneath me and two cushions under my bottom. I'm comfortable now but I know it won't last. Within ten minutes the aches will begin. Dull and annoying to start and then as time drags on they will intensify. Ten days...

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If You Love Somebody, Set Yourself Free

(0) Comments | Posted March 3, 2014 | 3:02 PM

It was love at first sight. That clench of the guts, wallop in the heart, stars in the eyes kind of love. Handsome, talented, funny and creative, how could such a man want to be with me? But he did and I was in a haze of happiness. With his...

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Meditation and Mindfulness

(5) Comments | Posted February 20, 2014 | 3:40 PM

Many long-time meditators have watched the rise in popularity of meditation and mindfulness with great interest. For decades the research into meditation's benefits have been well documented, but it's the studies into such things as better performance and a rise in productivity that have attracted the...

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Restless? Try Resting

(0) Comments | Posted February 6, 2014 | 5:46 PM

Blaise Pascal was a clever man. He was a mathematician, physicist, inventor, writer and philosopher. He also worked out the solution to all our problems. Incredible, when you discover he lived almost 400 years ago. This Renaissance man from the 17th century had the answer to every single thing that...

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How Meditation Changed My Life, Saved My Job and Helped Me Find a Husband

(0) Comments | Posted January 27, 2014 | 1:04 PM


I sit still, close my eyes and breathe. That's it. Nothing more. Who'd have thought such a simple thing could change my life? A simple thing yes, but not an easy thing.

It wasn't happiness that drove me to a...

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