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Matthew B. James, Ph.D.
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Matthew B. James, MA, Ph.D., is President of The Empowerment Partnership, where he serves as a master trainer of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), a practical behavioral technology for helping people achieve their desired results in life. In his most recent book, Find Your Purpose, Master Your Path, Dr. Matt melds the ancient wisdom of Huna with modern psychology to assist us in leading conscious, purpose-driven lives. He carries on the lineage of one of the last practicing kahuna of mental health and well-being, and is a regular Psychology Today blog contributor on the topic of forgiveness.

Entries by Matthew B. James, Ph.D.

Get Rid of Procrastination Once and for All

(1) Comments | Posted June 11, 2014 | 4:47 PM
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"Procrastination makes easy things hard, hard things harder." -- Mason Cooley

Ugh! Procrastination!

Just in case you're one of those people who doesn't participate in the universal sport of procrastination, let me...

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Stop Letting Negative People Drag You Down

(1) Comments | Posted May 13, 2014 | 3:18 PM

"Being positive is like going up a mountain. Being negative is like sliding down a hill. A lot of times, people want to take the easy way out, because it's basically what they've understood throughout...

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How My Wife Got Me to Lose 85 Pounds

(1) Comments | Posted February 11, 2014 | 7:44 AM


"My doctor told me to stop having intimate dinners for four. Unless there are three other people." -- Orson Welles

In December, I wrote about New Year's resolutions and why so many of them are...

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Why Some People Almost Always Reach Their New Year's Resolutions

(1) Comments | Posted December 30, 2013 | 9:26 AM

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"Life can be pulled by goals just as surely as it can be pushed by drives." -- Viktor E. Frankl

I was at a gathering a while back and overheard someone say, "Oh, I never...

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Your Money IQ

(0) Comments | Posted November 13, 2013 | 9:56 AM

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"So you think that money is the root of all evil. Have you ever asked what is the root of all money?" -- Ayn Rand

Last month I talked about the benefits of being in a

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Your Resourceful State

(0) Comments | Posted October 16, 2013 | 12:30 PM

2013-10-15-superhero.jpg"A person who doubts himself is like a man who would enlist in the ranks of his enemies and bear arms against himself. He makes his failure certain by himself being the first person to be convinced of it." -- Ambrose Bierce

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Uncommon Wisdom About Your Body, Lifestyle and Spiritual Awareness

(0) Comments | Posted September 3, 2013 | 4:43 PM

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"When every physical and mental resource is focused, one's power to solve a problem multiplies tremendously." -- Norman Vincent Peale


It's what I'm all about. It's the name of my company. It's what I teach in both...

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4 Surprisingly Simple Steps to Forgive Anyone for Anything

(9) Comments | Posted August 13, 2013 | 1:39 PM

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In my last post, I talked about forgiveness and how lack of forgiveness can hold us back from becoming who we wish to be. Unforgiveness saps our energy, monopolizes our thoughts and keeps us stuck in the past. Whether...

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Get Over It to Get on With It

(0) Comments | Posted June 17, 2013 | 11:11 AM

"When you forgive, you in no way change the past -- but you sure do change the future." -- Bernard Meltzer

In my last couple of blogs, I talked about finding your purpose and tapping the energy needed to bring those big dreams into reality. But...

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Getting Clear on Your Purpose

(3) Comments | Posted May 5, 2013 | 9:35 AM

"Many persons have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification but fidelity to a worthy purpose." -- Helen Keller

In my last blog post, I talked about the alignment of energy to your purpose. That if you really connect to your...

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Energy to Fulfill Your Purpose

(11) Comments | Posted April 14, 2013 | 8:31 AM

"You will recognize your own path when you come upon it, because you will suddenly have all the imagination and energy you will ever need." -- Jerry Gillies

A friend of mine once said to me, "Matt, I have a big dream. It feels like my true purpose, or at...

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Finding the Juice in Small Steps

(1) Comments | Posted January 24, 2013 | 7:20 AM

"It is good to have an end to journey toward, but it is the journey that matters in the end." -- Ursula Le Guin

We've all heard it: The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. Lao Tzu told us that centuries ago. He forgot to...

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Ready, Set, Go!

(0) Comments | Posted December 27, 2012 | 4:40 PM

"The secret of getting ahead is getting started." -- Agatha Christie

Okay, so a new year is nearly upon us and we all have our goals ready, right? Each goal is measurable, stated in present tense and set within a time frame. We've visualized it, written it down, and maybe...

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Driving Your Basic Equipment

(0) Comments | Posted November 26, 2012 | 5:57 AM

Remember when you learned to drive a car? Didn't you need to know some basics about the car's equipment? Maybe you didn't need to know specifically how the fuel injectors interact with the fuel pump. But you at least had to understand that the gas pedal gets you moving, the...

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Déjà vu All Over Again?

(1) Comments | Posted October 28, 2012 | 10:00 AM

The autumn season is just beginning, and change is in the air. As I travel through the country, I see leaves turning, daylight getting shorter, and the air becoming noticeably cooler. These seasonal signs aren't as obvious in my home state, Hawaii. Traditionally, the Hawaiians only recognized two seasons: Kau,...

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Some Con-Text

(1) Comments | Posted October 5, 2012 | 12:24 PM

The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. -- George Bernard Shaw

You practically have to live in a cave to not be part of the texting revolution. Once, we used to pick up the phone and call to make connection. Today, we simply...

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Addicted to Facebook? NLP Tips for Cutting Back on Social Media

(5) Comments | Posted August 30, 2012 | 7:30 AM

Recently I got a message from a student asking what techniques I would suggest for helping people limit their time on Facebook. Specifically, this student requested suggestions for NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) techniques that could help.

I have to admit, when it first came along, I wasn't a big fan of...

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Keep Your Spark Growing: Rethinking the Western View on Commitment

(18) Comments | Posted August 3, 2012 | 8:03 AM

I was traveling to Phoenix to do a TV interview on forgiveness when the news broke that a politician was found to have cheated on his wife. He made a public declaration that he was sorry, and that he was wrong. But the news reports focused on this politician's prior...

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Fatherhood and Lineage

(0) Comments | Posted June 14, 2012 | 12:00 PM

Each year, I take my son Ethan to the Merrie Monarch Hula Festival in Hawaii where we live and where I teach Huna, the ancient discipline of energy, consciousness, and healing passed down to me through family lineage.

The late Uncle George Na`ope, founder of...

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Think The Grass Is Greener Over There? How Multitasking Wilts Your Results And Relationships

(13) Comments | Posted March 23, 2012 | 6:55 AM

Do you multitask? While many people say they get so much more done in a day doing many things at once, let's take a look at how splitting your focus can impact your results, relationships and overall health and happiness.

For years I've been teaching how you can empower your...

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