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Consult Your Inner Wisdom: It Has All the Answers

Posted: 08/20/11 12:17 PM ET

In recent years, I have experimented with a therapeutic technique that I cribbed from clinician/writer Sarah Krakauer. I found it useful both for my clients and for myself. I share it here.

The idea is simple: At bottom, no matter how fractured our identity, or sense of self, there is within us a wholeness and a wisdom that we can consult as a sort of inner gyroscope. The theory goes that there is a unity within, and if we can gain access we can find a treasure trove of wise guidance.

I have worked with individuals who were highly "fractured" due to a severe trauma history, as well as more intact individuals. The technique worked well with all kinds of people, but I found that individuals with these fractures had an easier time accessing their "inner wisdom."

The technique involves a simple visualization. One woman with whom I was working was diagnosed with Dissociative Identity Disorder, formerly known as Multiple Personality Disorder. This means, simply, that her identity is complex and multiple: She has very distinct and separate identities within a seemingly stable "self." Her appearance in the outside world is quite ordinary. It is mostly only within the consultation room that one can see clearly the multiple identities.

Each "part" of this individual has a discrete and often contradictory point of view on any matter you could imagine: What to buy at the supermarket, junk food or organic kale for instance. Or if on any given day, I, her therapist, am perceived as benign or as a threat. So checking across parts as to what the inner wisdom might suggest on any given topic is relevant to our enterprise.

What surprised me was that when we went through the inner wisdom, I got the same answer to the question of the day: no contradictions, no wildly fluctuating points of view, no evasions.

With this particular client I was often uncertain as to how to go forward in any given session, which part to address, how much to push for the traumatic memories that were just outside of her awareness. They could either liberate her from painful symptoms and/or de-stabilize her. Actually I was almost always struggling with these choices.

The inner wisdom always directed me to the traumatic material: Go for it, it seemed to say. Don't pay so much attention to the complaining about the pain that this causes. And the inner wisdom was right. After a period of turmoil, which was always difficult to weather, my patient was more solidly grounded, more mature and eventually more integrated.

Now this is not magic, if the client was in retreat, warding me off, defending herself from incursions, I might get nothing. But this was relatively rare.

I describe the technique so that you can try it yourself. It is probably better in the beginning to have some one read you the directions rather than just thinking it through.

Sit in a quiet place, close your eyes and visualize a corridor. This is a safe place. Off the corridor are doors. The door on the left is labeled "hall of inner wisdom." Open the door into a room that resembles a small movie theatre. The seats are comfortable. Sit down and see that at your finger tips is a keyboard. Type in the question that you are addressing: "Why does my hip hurt so much today? Or what should I do about a troublesome relationship? Should I change doctors?" Look up at the screen in front of you and there will be an answer.

Here you may see pictures or writing. You may just get thoughts or images popping into your head -- memories, strong feelings. If nothing comes, just sit quietly for awhile and see what happens. It usually takes a little bit of time.

I have tried this myself, going through the same steps of visualization. It feels a little like meditation, but with a very specific goal. Sometimes I get an answer. Not as frequently as my patient, alas. Often the answer surprises me. That's what makes me think that this really is coming from a source quite different than my logical, linear and deliberative mind.

What I think is going on here is that with the right tools, and probably a bit of practice, one can have access to a part of the mind that is less rigid, less defensive, more intuitive and more astute than the reasoning mind. I find it exciting and re-assuring that there is a guidance within with which we can make contact.

There is a lot of data that the mind takes in that is not necessarily available to the conscious mind. But it is there. We just need to be creative and we can have access to it.

 
In recent years, I have experimented with a therapeutic technique that I cribbed from clinician/writer Sarah Krakauer. I found it useful both for my clients and for myself. I share it here. The ide...
In recent years, I have experimented with a therapeutic technique that I cribbed from clinician/writer Sarah Krakauer. I found it useful both for my clients and for myself. I share it here. The ide...
 
 
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07:14 PM on 09/12/2011
"What I think is going on here is that with the right tools, and probably a bit of practice, one can have access to a part of the mind that is less rigid, less defensive, more intuitive and more astute than the reasoning mind. I find it exciting and re-assuring that there is a guidance within with which we can make contact."

I've come to learn about this access. I've also learned to 'personalize' it and call it my 'inner self'.!?!?
Not only can it answer any question I may sincerely have, it can direct the body to do things previously
I thought impossible. The main requisite for its working this way is to 'believe' it will work and not half-
heartedly.
I was a skeptic at first but through logical step-by-step processes by a powerful and extraordinarily
patient teacher, I now understand my world a little better. It is no longer the chaotic mess it so often
appears to be. ('When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.')
I hope more articles will be forthcoming from you. Thank you.
12:35 PM on 09/12/2011
What you are tuning in to is the Higher self . . this is part of us which is separate from the left brain/monkey mind which also holds our traumas . . .the Higher Self is that part of us which is
tied to the heart and the Soul . . . and so much more pure than the part we have been taught to
listen to in this society . . (the left brain) Your clients would also be helped through their traumas if they could release some of them through energy work since the trauma is held not only in their minds but rather each cell has memory . . .so we hold trauma in each cell of our bodies . . .hence why there is so much physical illness manifested . . .
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Kimberly Rex
Resonance Repatterning,Life Coach, Therapist for
01:36 PM on 08/30/2011
Thank you for posting this article. Allowing ourselves to listen to inner wisdom is a process. There is a wonderful practice/process that comes from Institute of Heart Math working with a pre and post message that makes this clear. It's the Freeze Frame. You start with asking the question and then writing down the thoughts/messages from your brain/mind. Then, tuning into your heart through breath and loving memory, compassion, image of joy...getting a message from your heart. The message is more compassionate and detailed. I've found that the message from the heart also offer greater possibilities. The reason for this is that the electromagnetics of the heart allow the systems of the body to entrain and increases problem-solving abilities. You are actually accessing more of your body-mind system information and wisdom through this process.
09:21 AM on 09/02/2011
Thanks so much for mentioning "heart math." I have heard of this system recently and would like to look further into it. Anything that increase mindful awareness is helpful and reduces suffering.
11:06 AM on 08/30/2011
Very nice practice. I tried it and got some surprising results...
09:21 AM on 09/02/2011
really glad to hear it.
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Robert Blackburn
03:26 PM on 08/29/2011
This "inner wisdom" that you describe might just be our native reasoning without overdue influence from our beliefs and fixed values. Yours may be but one method of allowing these beliefs and fixed values to become still enough for our native reason to provide the answer. We don't need less reasoning in our thought processes, but better access to the reason we have overridden with our beliefs and fixed values.
See: http://revolutionofreason.com and http://www.youtube.com/RobertLBlackburn
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Cammi Vaughan
Listening is giving.
09:48 AM on 08/28/2011
I too feel there is so much wisdom to be had if we can get around our thoughts and our ego. One way I've found helpful for me is to just put my attention on my heart. It takes a few seconds but the answer is always there. If someone has asked you a question and you go to your heart to find the answer, they'll just have to wait a few seconds, that's all!

I discovered this when I was teaching a challenging class and needed some help.
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crom14
06:24 AM on 08/26/2011
I appreciate this article very much! After being stuck for a very long time, I now understand that "thinking" too much is not good for mental health. Meditation, living and just being, is enough for some peace!
12:55 PM on 08/22/2011
Great post. Very inspirational. I've heard this type of thing before. My problem is that when an answer does come, in whatever fashion, I don't trust it because it could simply be my analytical mind generating something because I expect it to happen. Any thoughts on this?
12:20 PM on 08/23/2011
my only thought is to just wait a bit and see what happens.
also practice probably sharpens the tool.

i'm actually working on another post on the same subject.
lets see if that is helpful.

thanks for your comment.
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soma77
Author, Speaker, Retreat Facilitator
11:39 PM on 08/25/2011
I feel that is why the call it spiritual practice. You practice trust and learn if it is coming from the mind or the soul. It is worth the effort.
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jennielake
Intellect is Learned... Wisdom Already Knows
11:01 AM on 08/22/2011
After an experience with-in that changed my life forever...

... I built a Domestic Violence Prevention Agency using Inner Wisdom work.

( My life as a child was nothing but abuse and Mom died due to it )

Over 12,000 people have been taught this here - lives are changing forever.

Children and spouses have better loving, compassionate, wise parents - this understanding is a life saver - teaching the difference between innate understanding and the minds pre-occupation with its own chatter, conditioned beliefs and internal mental programming is new to our culture. Even down to jobs, housing and life itself - inner wisdom shows how powerful and creative we are as a people.

Problems only exist in the Minds limited view... Solutions and Resiliency exist in our Wisdom, and when the difference between Intellectual and Innate is understood - Both become a Gift.

- The greatest thing I have ever witnessed is watching someone Wake Up Inside - and I get to see it every day - what joy. If you would like more info just let me know, but I post this only to honor those who have been harmed, and to those who arer no-longer harming themselves and others.



Wisdom Rocks !!!!!!!!!

Thank you for this great Post - hugs
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TheWM
aka The Wrong Monkey
10:06 AM on 08/22/2011
ALL the answers?

That's great! I can get rid of all these books now! I'll have so much more space!
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jennielake
Intellect is Learned... Wisdom Already Knows
11:05 AM on 08/22/2011
All - and even the one about what to do with all those books - hugs

- pass them on - they are a path that lead you here to find what is real.

hugs...
03:43 AM on 08/21/2011
Love it, sounds like it's a useful tool/technique that bypasses all the chatter and unnecessary worrisome or conflicting thoughts/feelings. Sort of distracting that part of the brain while you go straight to your inner wisdom without delay. Let's just hope my keyboard doesn't fry out. :)
12:44 AM on 08/21/2011
Most would be surprised at the amount of information that is available from that "inner self".

Good article. Thanks.
06:58 PM on 08/20/2011
I love this technique of accessing you unified, inner wisdom. it is very similar to the technique taught by Martin Rossman, in Interactive Guided Imagery. It's a technique that I learned. It's very similar and you get in touch with your inner healer, who may appear as a wise person, an animal totem, a wise spirit. I found this to be a beautiful technique. Thank you for sharing your techniques.
09:28 PM on 08/23/2011
how do you do it? I'd love to know.
07:32 AM on 08/24/2011
Hi - well, take a look at the Academy for Guided Imagery website, there is an overview of the process, I think....Martin Rossman, MD & David Bressler, PhD, developed the technique...and Dr Rossman has written several books & has CDs abt it...basically, you get into a meditative state and are guided into creating your own safe place, and meeting your inner guide, you can m/b do this by imaging it on your own. Hope this helps, Kathy .
03:33 PM on 08/20/2011
We all do appear to have a "blueprint" we're working from, being functions of nature and such. Accessing it is the tricky part. Meditation is helpful in that regard. The inner dialogue clears away and we have the opportunity to see what we really are. Remarkable.
10:39 AM on 08/23/2011
i agree that meditation is the royal road to that inner voice.

thanks all for your thoughtful comments!