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10 Ways 10 Days of Silence Will Blow Your Mind

Posted: 05/05/2012 11:30 am

"One can have no smaller or greater mastery than mastery of oneself." -- Leonardo da Vinci

I'm sure you're aware what meditation is. But have you ever tried it for 10 minutes? An hour? A day? How about 10 full days? And during those 10 days, by the way, you're not allowed to speak to anyone else (trust me, you'll speak incessantly to yourself), nor are you permitted to read a book, write in your journal, exercise (beyond slow walking), or listen to music. All you do is hang out at the private party in your head.

Some might call what I just described prison camp -- and run like a criminal pursued by a posse of federal agents in the other direction. Others know it as Vipassana, or insight meditation, and consider it a vital spiritual practice. These crazy people view long, difficult, frustrating silent meditation retreats as the key to coping with suffering, making peace with what is so, and finding access to a deep, pervasive sense of joy.

I'm one of the crazy ones. Or not. I'm just an ordinary person who couldn't sit still for an hour when she first signed up for a Vipassana retreat yet has benefitted tremendously from the simple and challenging practice.

I returned last Friday from an eight-day silent Vipassana meditation retreat near Joshua Tree National Park with a team of spectacular Spirit Rock teachers. This was my third retreat. In fact, my first two were two days longer and totally free (donation only). I completed those Vipassana courses at a center near Yosemite organized and run by the followers of Indian teacher S.N. Goenka.

You can hear a light-hearted day-by-day recounting of my first Vipassana experience by watching my five-minute Ignite talk:

These three experiences allow me to feel confident in saying there is something in Vipassana for everyone who is brave enough to give it a go. It's hard, but it's doable. Even if you're terrified, even if you have no interest in being a monk and you're not an extremist by nature, I know that sitting in silence for 10 days will blow your mind. And so, without further ado, here are my top 10 reasons for attending a Vipassana mediation retreat.

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We're all gunning down the metaphorical freeway of our daily lives at 80 miles per hour. It's remarkable to watch how your mind and body react when you step away from the errands, ringing and beeping cell phones, TVs, computers, yanking feelings that you ought to be doing something else, and yes, other people -- even those who love you.

Eventually, whether it takes one day or five, your mind slows down and you become keenly aware of the present moment. You notice every fluffy cloud that floats across the horizon, every beetle that wiggles across your path. An intangible but deeply-felt sense of spaciousness opens up in your head and around your heart. It's enough to make you cry.

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"One can have no smaller or greater mastery than mastery of oneself." -- Leonardo da Vinci I'm sure you're aware what meditation is. But have you ever tried it for 10 minutes? An hour? A day? How abo...
"One can have no smaller or greater mastery than mastery of oneself." -- Leonardo da Vinci I'm sure you're aware what meditation is. But have you ever tried it for 10 minutes? An hour? A day? How abo...
 
 
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06:03 PM on 05/23/2012
I live near Joshua Tree and would love to attend a meditation retreat there or anywhere in southern
California. Is there someone I could contact to inquire regarding the next session date? cheers, j
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Namaste - Have a nice day!
03:00 AM on 05/12/2012
555555555 would be a bi-lingual (w/English) Thai person's LOL, because neung, song, sahm, see, ha; is 1-5.

I was in Thailand for a year. While back in the US, I heard of a Vipassana Center south of Olympia, WA, where I was staying. I thought about checking it out. Coincidentally, I met a student from there. They explained to me that I would have to learn Pali to study there. 555555555 was my response, followed by: Well, I guess I’ll just wait until I get back to Thailand.

I participate in a few cyberspace activities. Occasionally, I bump into folks who offer to answer any question one might like addressed. I always ask: Why are Thai people so happy? They are you know - world famous for it; with Thailand’s nickname being “The Land of Smiles.”

I started informal studying with a wonderful Thai restaurant owner. Great fare and food for thought there at Sushi Masa in Boca Raton, FL.

Since I’ve been back here ….. well, I get a lot of practice not talking and even more not understand. I really do like to listen to the monks chant, none-the-less. I think that has helped me become much more comfortable with my lack of understanding.

It might be good; it might be bad; I don’t know, but that’s the way it is.

PS: FYI readers: Spelt Vipassana; pronounced more like We pahs sah nah.

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10:03 AM on 05/09/2012
I thouroughly enjoyed the talk as well as the article that followed! I think this world could be dramatically changed forthe better if we were to teach our children to quiet thier minds.
Anyhow, I'm curious to know how a person comes to view the world when returning from something this life affecting?
04:00 PM on 05/21/2012
Couldn't agree more with teaching this to children. We use it as a punishment, we call it "timeout". Someone please tell me what I've got to do to put in "timeout".
05:21 AM on 05/08/2012
Hi Mei Mei. Beautiful post. I have a friend who entered a Thai convent for 10 days of total silence and meditation. He says this experience changed his life, and I believe him.
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MeiMei Fox
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12:33 PM on 05/09/2012
Thank you for commenting, Anna. I think spending ten days in silence with yourself is a very powerful experience for most people.
02:51 PM on 05/07/2012
Congratulations Mei Mei on your ability to find peace & enlightenment in your daily life and to inspire others to do the same! You inspire and amaze me with your prolific output and your beautiful and generous spirit! You're the bomb.
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10:16 PM on 05/07/2012
Thank you, my talented friend!
07:58 PM on 05/06/2012
What then is the next step?

Now that the mind is quieted can it serve the heart?

Rather than overshadow the heart, the mind becomes the heart's spokesperson.

Then what thoughts will emerge that express the heart's contentment?
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03:23 AM on 05/12/2012
An opinion:

The mind is NOT necessarily quieted. The distraction of the chatter is withdrawn from, perhaps ignored or at least relegated to non-importance. Most importantly the chatter is not engaged with the willful behavior of "thinking". In addition to the human activity of thinking, the brain is also involved in (has evolved with) offering "thoughts" for our consideration. My belief is: there is a Universal Consciousness that produces vibrations; those vibrations form images in a brain; the holder of said brain translates those images into their language of choice. A whole lot a stuff can get "lost in translation". To answer your last question indirectly, it is possible that the inception of "thoughts" are born in The Hearts Contentment.

Other considerations are: Can we befriend the mind, take ownership of the responsibility of dominion over thinking and gratefully accept the gift of messages (aka thoughts) regardless of our understanding?
02:58 PM on 05/06/2012
Wow. I wonder why this article attracted all the nasties! Many people benefit from meditation. A daily witnessing meditation practice saves me from being on anti-anxiety medication. You can't beat that. Obviously, the author wants to share the benefits of meditation with others. Why the hate?
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05:22 PM on 05/06/2012
Thank you! My question exactly. I was careful not to present this as "the answer for everyone" in any way - just some benefits... I am delighted to hear that meditation helps your anxiety. It literally cured my insomnia, and for that I am forever grateful!
03:42 AM on 05/06/2012
Sounds like another luxury those well-off enough to take a week off and fly across the world enjoy.
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MeiMei Fox
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05:21 PM on 05/06/2012
Actually, Vipassana retreats are free of charge and the Goenka centers are literally located around the world. So the only real "luxury" is the time off. I have sacrificed vacations in other places in order to make meditation a priority.
01:04 AM on 05/06/2012
Wonderful article MeiMei. I wouldn't concern myself with silly comments like those of old Abe. Written with absolutely no understanding of meditation at all.

Personally, I think everyone on the planet should be fed a tab of LSD, then one year later be required to attend a vipassana retreat to process the experience. We'd see some remarkable changes around here.
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05:21 PM on 05/06/2012
Thanks for your comments, sunnylo1. You crack me up! It'd certainly be a mind blowing experience in more ways than one! :-)
06:39 PM on 05/05/2012
Some of the best meditations are nightmares for they reveal to us our deepest fears, they are a place of accountability and confrontation, a meeting between cowardice and courage, a room where one may catch a glimpse of his darkest secrets and his truest character. This is why they scare. 
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07:43 PM on 05/05/2012
Beautifully stated, Colonel Muttonfield. Thank you!
03:28 AM on 05/06/2012
Thank you or your kind words to an old soldier.
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AbeMartin
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12:47 PM on 05/05/2012
I would like to know Ms. Fox' motivation for writing this piece. 

The Vipassana Meditation movement is based upon millennia of Buddist and meditation practice.  Those who embark on a one week or longer meditation often have been deepening their ability to meditate for years until they feel confident enough to visit one of the centers.  The extended meditation programs are not for dilettantes (such as those who buy a red thread bracelet from a Kabbalah Center and claim to understand Kabbalic mysticism (and are by extension presto-chango! "Jewish").

The course is rigorous, the silence is enforced, the sexes segregated, and food consumption for the day ends at lunch.  One should also be aware that there are any number of "Vipassana Meditation Centers."  However, many of those are, like Ms Fox, seem to seek only to personally profit by charging for meditation counseling or selling books, tapes, or lining up public speaking gigs.
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01:43 PM on 05/05/2012
It is all rather suspect isn't it. Like a 10-day college course to enlightenment. This is not to say that the author didn't learn something from the experience...but instead of simply living her truth has chosen to capitalize on it.
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02:32 PM on 05/05/2012
All of us, of course, must look at ourselves; our envious, fault-finding minds void of lovingkindness, sympathetic joy, and compassion. If we don't, we end up very stressful and very ego-centric.
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04:27 PM on 05/05/2012
Please see my comment to AbeMartin. I don't see how I am "capitalizing" on my experience, but I'm sad to hear you feel that way. Metta to you!
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04:26 PM on 05/05/2012
Interesting perspective. I'd like to point out that I do not gain personally in any way from these articles. I don't even get paid to write them (nor did I get paid to give that Ignite talk)! I share solely with the goal of letting people know about this amazing - FREE - opportunity to get insight into their minds, free themselves from damaging patterns, and experience a deep connection to themselves, the planet, and all living beings.

I personally did not feel any need to have a long history of meditation practice. In fact, going on these retreats is exactly what has brought me into a daily mediation practice. This benefits me, my family, and all those I come in contact with -- by making me less reactive, more compassionate, and happier.

While I had a serious background in Buddhism prior to going, I do not feel that is necessary either. This is NOT a religious practice. It is a "science of the mind" - a method for studying how we all operate through mindless habits of craving and aversion. People who go don't have to be Buddhist or come out Buddhist on the other end to benefit from mindfulness practices. In fact, hard criminals in India & deep south of the USA, schoolkids as young as 10 years old, and many of my friends have benefited from Vipassana retreats. They feel more peaceful, wiser, stronger and healthier as a result. I have trouble understanding what is wrong with
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08:36 AM on 05/08/2012
I had just watched The Dhamma Brothers film on how Vipassana is changing the lives of inmates in an Alabama prison when I found your article. What a lovely "coincidence". It'll be repeated on OWN channel, I'm sure, and is well worth watching. Seeing the transformation of life-long bad asses made me almost jealous of the inmates who were so enriched by the Vipassana practice.