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Melissa Chapman blogs about her marriage and everything in between at www.marriedmysugardaddy.com and her kids and parenting at The Staten Island Family and her work has appeared in The Staten Island Advance, Care.com, ABC News,BlogHer, Baby Center, Momtourage, Babble, The Washington Post, Time Out NY Kids, iVillage and Lifetime Moms

Entries by Melissa Chapman

Reasons Why Trash Talking Your Spouse Is Bad For Your Marriage

(1) Comments | Posted October 16, 2014 | 2:39 PM

When I first got married I had a lot of fire in my belly. And I will even admit that I was immature. I had no real understanding of what being married entailed. I still thought of myself as an individual and not as a partner in both good and...

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4 Signs You Are a Slacker Mom (Like Me)

(0) Comments | Posted October 16, 2014 | 2:26 PM

My parenting style has definitely evolved in the 13 years I've been entrenched in motherhood. I can say with certainty that 13 years ago -- after what felt like an eternity of back labor with my daughter, and me screaming at my husband to force the doctors to give me...

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Love Is Waiting For a Test Result and Having Someone Hold Your Hand

(3) Comments | Posted September 26, 2014 | 1:23 PM

There I was, driving my daughter to her dance class, and I get that call that no one expects they will get. I had gone in for a routine sonogram of my ovaries, and then on what felt like an insignificant, take-my-daughter-to-her-first-of-two-dance-classes-for-the-week runs my gyno tells me, "Miriam (FYI for...

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In a Marriage You Can Allow Mistakes to Eat Away at the Foundation of Your Union or You Let Them Empower You

(0) Comments | Posted August 28, 2014 | 1:32 PM

We all make choices. As I get ready to step into my 41st year on this planet -- and having spent 17 years of that time with my husband -- I can readily admit that some of the choices I've made during my marriage I do regret. But I do...

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A Good Marriage Requires Both Spouses to Embrace Sacrifice and Change

(0) Comments | Posted August 4, 2014 | 2:28 PM

At least once a week people ask me this question: So What is your husband doing now? The title of this my blog is Married My Sugar Daddy, as a tongue in cheek take on the absurdity of being a young girl who assumes that marrying a man...

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5 Things I Know for Sure About True Love

(0) Comments | Posted July 15, 2014 | 8:25 PM

There's a new reality show on the block and it's called Married at First Sight. That's right, these "contestants" have all agreed to legally marry a stranger who, based on the show's expert opinions and calculations, is their scientifically compatible soul mate. The new reality show follows six New York...

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The 5 Arguments You Should Avoid AT all Costs in Your Marriage

(1) Comments | Posted July 1, 2014 | 2:43 PM

There are five arguments that no matter how often you remind yourself NOT to have them with your husband, somehow they manage to rear their ugly head. And as a woman who has been in the marriage trenches for 15 years, while I don't have a degree in counseling, my...

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5 Ways Your Last Kid Gets the Short End of the Stick

(0) Comments | Posted July 1, 2014 | 1:19 PM

My 9-year-old son has become fascinated by our old family videos, particularly the ones where he can glimpse himself at a younger age and our daughter at his current age. Much to our chagrin, they made him realize we suck as parents. We're burned out. My husband and I haven't...

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What I Learned About LOVE Watching My Mother Go On Her FIRST DATE In 51 Years

(8) Comments | Posted June 26, 2014 | 6:41 AM

I don't think any marriage or relationship is perfect. I think I learned this watching my parents alternate between arguing with great passion and heat -- and in the very same breath bearing witness to that same intensity spill over into their love for one another. I also think as...

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Five Secrets of Happyish Married Couples

(1) Comments | Posted June 2, 2014 | 4:59 PM

I would be doing you a huge disservice and basically lying through my teeth if I told you that marriage is always smooth sailing. It isn't, but nothing that is truly worth it's weight is easy. Marriage is a work in progress, it is a patchwork comprised of a million...

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Sometimes We Need to Walk in Our Spouse's Shoes Before We Can Truly Understand Them

(0) Comments | Posted May 21, 2014 | 1:46 AM

When I first told my mother that her son-in-law (aka my husband) was leaving his medical practice, she looked at me like I just asked her if she wanted a hit of a crack pipe. And to be perfectly honest that was the reaction I got from many people. Most...

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In My Marital Courtship Timing Was Everything

(1) Comments | Posted May 8, 2014 | 12:57 PM

People are losing their minds over the fact that George Clooney -- the guy who was very publicly adamant about never getting married is indeed engaged after what seems like a short, whirlwind courtship with Amal Alamuddin, an Oxford-educated lawyer from England. And here is my feeling about Clooney's sudden...

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3 Reasons Getting Rid of Fleas Is the GLUE That Holds a Marriage Together

(0) Comments | Posted April 18, 2014 | 4:40 PM

I was recently on Facebook and someone asked a question, "Would you consider the first year of marriage to be a honeymoon?" To which I responded, "Hell to the No. It is a period of adjustment and trying to find your new normal." And here's the cold hard truth about...

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In the Mundane and Ordinary of Motherhood I've Found my Happiness

(0) Comments | Posted April 9, 2014 | 2:43 PM

Before I got married I had all these ideas swirling around in my head. There were so many exotic locations I wanted to visit; I was determined to strap on a backpack and peruse European hostels, model string bikinis on the French Riviera, uncover all the hidden gems I knew...

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4 Things I've Learned About Life From My 9-Year-Old Birthday Boy

(0) Comments | Posted March 14, 2014 | 10:01 AM

When I was a little girl I remember telling anyone who would ask me the question, " How many kids do you want when you get older?" AT LEAST FOUR.

Of course I never anticipated that the actual act of getting pregnant for a second time would...

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There Are Some Arguments That a Marriage Must Endure

(0) Comments | Posted February 25, 2014 | 2:53 PM

I'm an ex-Yeshivah girl. For those of you who don't know what a yeshivah is, it is an academic program where students spend half the day studying Hebrew and Jewish subjects and the other half immersing themselves in English subjects. There is also a good dose of religious schooling based...

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4 Ways Having a Son Has Helped Me to Better Understand My Husband

(3) Comments | Posted February 19, 2014 | 9:52 AM

I've been married for 15 years and with my husband for 17 years. I met him when I was 23 years old, and while I truly believed I knew all there was to know about men, the bottom line is I knew NOTHING. I mean, how could I...

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Laura Linney Gives Birth to a Baby Boy at Age 49 and the Question Remains, Should You Ever Give Up Your Dream to Conceive?

(0) Comments | Posted January 20, 2014 | 11:00 PM

It is hard to imagine that a 49-year-old woman could give birth to a HEALTHY baby boy without any medical intervention -- and while it was reported that Laura Linney was pregnant and just had a baby, well we can all only speculate that the act of getting...

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Rules for Raising a Mama's Boy: There Are No Rules

(0) Comments | Posted January 13, 2014 | 10:43 AM

I grew up in a house full of women. By the time I was 12 and my mother finally gave birth to a son after having three daughters, I'd been surrounded by so much estrogen I wasn't even sure that there was room for any testosterone in my life. By...

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15 Reasons Why Being Married Doesn't Suck

(4) Comments | Posted December 20, 2013 | 1:59 PM

I just celebrated 15 years of marriage this December 19. It is hard for me to believe that I have survived 15 years of living with another person. A person who has the memory of an elephant and can whip out (and quite often does) something I've done in the...

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