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Melissa Chapman blogs about her marriage and everything in between at and her kids and parenting at The Staten Island Family and her work has appeared in The Staten Island Advance,, ABC News,BlogHer, Baby Center, Momtourage, Babble, The Washington Post, Time Out NY Kids, iVillage and Lifetime Moms

Entries by Melissa Chapman

Four Things I Learned About My Marriage When My Husband Left Me

(100) Comments | Posted August 15, 2015 | 10:41 AM

Okay- first let me preface this post with this disclaimer- when I say my husband left me- I am referring to his recent road trip with our son to Cooperstown when he LEFT ME for two nights and three days to fend for myself aka take out the garbage and...

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I Still Don't Have All the Answers and Other Parenting Nuggets of Wisdom

(1) Comments | Posted April 14, 2015 | 6:40 PM

In the almost 14 years I've been a parent, I would have to say as my daughter nears her 14th birthday this April 17, my take on motherhood and my role in her evolution as a person has undergone some major growing pains. First of all, I had...

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A Letter to My Teenage Daughter

(3) Comments | Posted February 20, 2015 | 11:57 AM

Dear Teenage Daughter,

Last night when you told me that you liked listening to me give advice, I felt like I had literally won the lottery. Not because you complimented me (although as a mom, I will take all the compliments you would like to dish out), but because I...

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On Being OK With Putting My Supermom Cape Away

(7) Comments | Posted January 29, 2015 | 10:56 AM

I wish I had all the answers. In fact, I was sure at 41 years old that I'd have answers to just about any question or be prepared to tackle any situation my kids came up against. And when they were toddlers and pre-schoolers and even early on in grammar...

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Anatomy of a 16-Year Wedding Anniversary Present (or What Not to Give Your Wife)

(1) Comments | Posted December 29, 2014 | 9:36 AM

Sugar Daddy (aka the husband who is currently sleeping on the couch): "I don't want to talk about it -- I'm sorry I made a mistake. I bought you a practical gift. I thought you would like it, I thought you would think it was cute I thought you would...

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Reasons Why Trash Talking Your Spouse Is Bad For Your Marriage

(1) Comments | Posted October 16, 2014 | 2:39 PM

When I first got married I had a lot of fire in my belly. And I will even admit that I was immature. I had no real understanding of what being married entailed. I still thought of myself as an individual and not as a partner in both good and...

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4 Signs You Are a Slacker Mom (Like Me)

(0) Comments | Posted October 16, 2014 | 2:26 PM

My parenting style has definitely evolved in the 13 years I've been entrenched in motherhood. I can say with certainty that 13 years ago -- after what felt like an eternity of back labor with my daughter, and me screaming at my husband to force the doctors to give me...

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Love Is Waiting For a Test Result and Having Someone Hold Your Hand

(3) Comments | Posted September 26, 2014 | 1:23 PM

There I was, driving my daughter to her dance class, and I get that call that no one expects they will get. I had gone in for a routine sonogram of my ovaries, and then on what felt like an insignificant, take-my-daughter-to-her-first-of-two-dance-classes-for-the-week runs my gyno tells me, "Miriam (FYI for...

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In a Marriage You Can Allow Mistakes to Eat Away at the Foundation of Your Union or You Let Them Empower You

(0) Comments | Posted August 28, 2014 | 1:32 PM

We all make choices. As I get ready to step into my 41st year on this planet -- and having spent 17 years of that time with my husband -- I can readily admit that some of the choices I've made during my marriage I do regret. But I do...

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A Good Marriage Requires Both Spouses to Embrace Sacrifice and Change

(0) Comments | Posted August 4, 2014 | 2:28 PM

At least once a week people ask me this question: So What is your husband doing now? The title of this my blog is Married My Sugar Daddy, as a tongue in cheek take on the absurdity of being a young girl who assumes that marrying a man...

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5 Things I Know for Sure About True Love

(0) Comments | Posted July 15, 2014 | 8:25 PM

There's a new reality show on the block and it's called Married at First Sight. That's right, these "contestants" have all agreed to legally marry a stranger who, based on the show's expert opinions and calculations, is their scientifically compatible soul mate. The new reality show follows six New York...

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The 5 Arguments You Should Avoid AT all Costs in Your Marriage

(1) Comments | Posted July 1, 2014 | 2:43 PM

There are five arguments that no matter how often you remind yourself NOT to have them with your husband, somehow they manage to rear their ugly head. And as a woman who has been in the marriage trenches for 15 years, while I don't have a degree in counseling, my...

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5 Ways Your Last Kid Gets the Short End of the Stick

(0) Comments | Posted July 1, 2014 | 1:19 PM

My 9-year-old son has become fascinated by our old family videos, particularly the ones where he can glimpse himself at a younger age and our daughter at his current age. Much to our chagrin, they made him realize we suck as parents. We're burned out. My husband and I haven't...

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What I Learned About LOVE Watching My Mother Go On Her FIRST DATE In 51 Years

(8) Comments | Posted June 26, 2014 | 6:41 AM

I don't think any marriage or relationship is perfect. I think I learned this watching my parents alternate between arguing with great passion and heat -- and in the very same breath bearing witness to that same intensity spill over into their love for one another. I also think as...

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Five Secrets of Happyish Married Couples

(0) Comments | Posted June 2, 2014 | 4:59 PM

I would be doing you a huge disservice and basically lying through my teeth if I told you that marriage is always smooth sailing. It isn't, but nothing that is truly worth it's weight is easy. Marriage is a work in progress, it is a patchwork comprised of a million...

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Sometimes We Need to Walk in Our Spouse's Shoes Before We Can Truly Understand Them

(0) Comments | Posted May 21, 2014 | 1:46 AM

When I first told my mother that her son-in-law (aka my husband) was leaving his medical practice, she looked at me like I just asked her if she wanted a hit of a crack pipe. And to be perfectly honest that was the reaction I got from many people. Most...

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In My Marital Courtship Timing Was Everything

(1) Comments | Posted May 8, 2014 | 12:57 PM

People are losing their minds over the fact that George Clooney -- the guy who was very publicly adamant about never getting married is indeed engaged after what seems like a short, whirlwind courtship with Amal Alamuddin, an Oxford-educated lawyer from England. And here is my feeling about Clooney's sudden...

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3 Reasons Getting Rid of Fleas Is the GLUE That Holds a Marriage Together

(0) Comments | Posted April 18, 2014 | 4:40 PM

I was recently on Facebook and someone asked a question, "Would you consider the first year of marriage to be a honeymoon?" To which I responded, "Hell to the No. It is a period of adjustment and trying to find your new normal." And here's the cold hard truth about...

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In the Mundane and Ordinary of Motherhood I've Found my Happiness

(0) Comments | Posted April 9, 2014 | 2:43 PM

Before I got married I had all these ideas swirling around in my head. There were so many exotic locations I wanted to visit; I was determined to strap on a backpack and peruse European hostels, model string bikinis on the French Riviera, uncover all the hidden gems I knew...

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4 Things I've Learned About Life From My 9-Year-Old Birthday Boy

(0) Comments | Posted March 14, 2014 | 10:01 AM

When I was a little girl I remember telling anyone who would ask me the question, " How many kids do you want when you get older?" AT LEAST FOUR.

Of course I never anticipated that the actual act of getting pregnant for a second time would...

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