This is a message for my brothers and sisters who have fought so long and so hard for gay rights and liberty. We have spent a long time climbing up this mountain, looking at the impossible, changing a thousand year-old paradigm. We have asked for the right to love the human of our choice, and to be protected equally under the laws of this great country. The road at times has been so bloody, and so horrible, and so disheartening. From being blamed for 9/11 and Katrina, to hateful crimes committed against us, we are battle weary. We watched as our nation took a step in the right direction, against all odds and elected Barack Obama as our next leader. Then we were jerked back into the last century as we watched our rights taken away by prop 8 in California. Still sore and angry we felt another slap in the face as the man we helped get elected seemingly invited a gay-hater to address the world at his inauguration.
I hadn't heard of Pastor Rick Warren before all of this. When I heard the news, in its neat little sound bite form that we are so accustomed to, it painted the picture for me. This Pastor Rick must surely be one hate spouting, money grabbing, bad hair televangelist like all the others. He probably has his own gay little secret bathroom stall somewhere, you know. One more hater working up his congregation to hate the gays, comparing us to pedophiles and those who commit incest, blah blah blah. Same 'ole thing. Would I be boycotting the inauguration? Would we be marching again?
Well, I have to tell you my friends, the universe has a sense of humor and indeed works in mysterious ways. As I was winding down the promotion for my Christmas album I had one more stop last night. I'd agreed to play a song I'd written with my friend Salman Ahmed, a Sufi Muslim from Pakistan. The song is called "Ring The Bells," and it's a call for peace and unity in our world. We were going to perform our song for the Muslim Public Affairs Council, a group of Muslim Americans that tries to raise awareness in this country, and the world, about the majority of good, loving, Muslims. I was honored, considering some in the Muslim religion consider singing to be against God, while other Muslim countries have harsh penalties, even death for homosexuals. I felt it was a very brave gesture for them to make. I received a call the day before to inform me of the keynote speaker that night... Pastor Rick Warren. I was stunned. My fight or flight instinct took over, should I cancel? Then a calm voice inside me said, "Are you really about peace or not?"
I told my manager to reach out to Pastor Warren and say "In the spirit of unity I would like to talk to him." They gave him my phone number. On the day of the conference I received a call from Pastor Rick, and before I could say anything, he told me what a fan he was. He had most of my albums from the very first one. What? This didn't sound like a gay hater, much less a preacher. He explained in very thoughtful words that as a Christian he believed in equal rights for everyone. He believed every loving relationship should have equal protection. He struggled with proposition 8 because he didn't want to see marriage redefined as anything other than between a man and a woman. He said he regretted his choice of words in his video message to his congregation about proposition 8 when he mentioned pedophiles and those who commit incest. He said that in no way, is that how he thought about gays. He invited me to his church, I invited him to my home to meet my wife and kids. He told me of his wife's struggle with breast cancer just a year before mine.
When we met later that night, he entered the room with open arms and an open heart. We agreed to build bridges to the future.
Brothers and sisters the choice is ours now. We have the world's attention. We have the capability to create change, awesome change in this world, but before we change minds we must change hearts. Sure, there are plenty of hateful people who will always hold on to their bigotry like a child to a blanket. But there are also good people out there, Christian and otherwise that are beginning to listen. They don't hate us, they fear change. Maybe in our anger, as we consider marches and boycotts, perhaps we can consider stretching out our hands. Maybe instead of marching on his church, we can show up en mass and volunteer for one of the many organizations affiliated with his church that work for HIV/AIDS causes all around the world.
Maybe if they get to know us, they wont fear us.
I know, call me a dreamer, but I feel a new era is upon us.
I will be attending the inauguration with my family, and with hope in my heart. I know we are headed in the direction of marriage equality and equal protection for all families.
Happy Holidays my friends and a Happy New Year to you.
Peace on earth, goodwill toward all men and women... and everyone in-between.
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I understand her premise here and in a lot of ways I agree with her. But, I still think Obama made a mistake in allowing Rick Warren the kind of honor that is being bestowed on him.
But the bottom line is this: if you don't listen to someone, what chance do you have of understand
Keep the lines of communicat
I am an avid listener of The Randi Rhodes Show, so that was how I'd learned about the whole meeting-Re
However, as Mr. Warren had been selected by the President Elect for the inaugurati
Blessings to you for all that you do, my dear brave lady.
I applaud you for trying to build bridges with people who hate gays, overemphas
At this point I would like to remind everyone that gay people who have decided that they want to serve in uniform have, for the most part, decided that they are wiliing to keep their mouth shut about sexuality so they can continue to serve. So I told this friend in a one-on-one conversati
Now it is true people in uniform can out themselves with unwanted results but in that case it did not affect our friendship in a negative way and I helped her overcome really bad preexistin
As you know, so many gay people have been stabbed in the back by religious figures who made nice at first, only to betray later. Forgive the venom from some of us in the gay community, and PROCEED WITH COURAGE. MANY of us have your back. Remember, MLK Jr. took a lot of heat for talking to the opposition
Your longtime fan,
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I'm confused. You legitimize my hurt and anger and heartbreak ("Many gay people have been stabbed in the back...") and then you go on to dismiss the legitmacy ("Forgive ... Many of us have your back")
Which is it?
That said, it's possible to reach out without hoping so much that we're devastated if the other party doesn't come through. It speaks well of Melissa that she made a true effort with Warren, and if she made only a small impact, well, that's still progress. I think one of the reasons Prop H8 passed here in CA is that not enough of us reached out and made ourselves visible, and did our part in advocating for our perspectiv
I totally understand the hurt and anger coming from some people in the gay community on this forum. I think some people went too far with the harsh comments to Melissa. She's trying to do a good thing. She's not giving any ground, she's not compromisi
As you, I am one of 1800 same sex couples who took advantage of the opportunit
Because those who are for what is right and good should always take the highroad. Otherwise, like Melissa said, you're no better than them.
So, if Melissa has the courage to step up and be and be an emissary, bravo for her. Who knows, maybe her and Pastor Rick can inspire millions to build bridges of peace and understand
The man is a profession
As Randi Rhodes said, when they show you who they are, believe them.