This article originally appeared on MeritalBliss.com.
I've received backhanded compliments and straight-up aggressive remarks about my engagement ring. And it made me wonder if others have, too, so I asked on Facebook and Twitter. I truly was hoping I wouldn't get any responses because no one wants such a symbolic, important purchase criticized. Alas, I was barraged with replies. Here they are:
About a ring with a halo setting:
"It looks like a fat diamond popping out little baby diamonds."
About a ring with a moissanite stone (instead of a more expensive diamond):
"The cost of it equals his lack of love for you."
About a ring that needed to be sized:
"While you're at it, you should resize the diamond too."
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Upon seeing her friend's ring for the first time:
"You could always trade up."
After everyone told her that her great-niece's ring was amazing:
"Oh, I've seen better. It's nothing special."
About my pal's BEAUTIFUL ring:
"Is that the one you wanted?"
After seeing the ring in photos:
‎"It seemed like yours was bigger than mine in pictures. It's definitely cute, though."
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About a friend's double-band estate ring:
"How are you supposed to wear a wedding band on the same hand as that?"
About a ring for a gal who doesn't like a lot of bling:
"Is that the engagement ring or just the wedding band?"
About a friend's breathtaking ring:
"It makes you look like a trophy wife."
About my ring:
"It'd be nicer if you cleaned it more often." (Fair enough, but why say that to me?!)
After showing her grandmother her new ring:
"I need a magnifying glass to see that diamond."
And here's one about my buddy's gorgeous ring, which may possibly be my favorite of all the ones I've ever seen:
"That's exactly what I used to want my ring to look like. But now I want something more sophisticated."
Can you believe that last one? Which remark do you think is the rudest? And what's the worst thing you've ever heard about your gorgeous engagement ring?
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I'll agree that some of the remarks you quote are mean (Although The trophy Wife one, in the right context, could be funny!) Some are probably from insanely jealous Women and are best ignored. However I'll bet at least some of these remarks are in response to the attitude of the bride to be. It's amazing how some Females think that the purchase of a ring marks their relationship as somehow better than one without a ring. My other half and I have been together over fifteen years through good times and bad to some of the recently Engaged Women our proven level of love and commitment to each other means nothing because they've got a ring!
My husband and I were together for 10 years before we got married, and had been together for 6 years when my sister (who'd known her husband for less than two years) got married. Shortly after her wedding she had the nerve to tell us (in the middle of a family trip) that we couldn't understand the depth of her relationship because we weren't married. Totally clueless.
A close friend's younger sister dramatically left her Husband of 3 months (Married after knowing each other for about a year) Her reasons for ending the marriage included he hasn't brought me a present for a month, he leaves things lying around and my personal favourite his feet smell!!! When her older sister and I tried to tell her this was the reality of living with the person you love. That you have to learn to compromise,communicate and be more patient. Six months later and I still can't work out if her response was insulting or hilarious. She looked at me and said "It's not the same as your relationship we are married you 'just' live together" When her sister tried to point out that the whole point of a successful marriage is the ability to live together she turned to her sister and said "You don't understand relationships your'e Gay" This despite the fact that her sister and her partner have been together for 17 years and have 3 kids!!! I'm sure you won't be surprised to hear that there has been no reconciliation.After much weeping about her failed marriage her grandmother (married 50 years and counting!) remarked "Sweetheart when people keep things in their fridge for longer than you keep a husband it is not a marriage it's a holiday romance" there was a lot of staring at walls,feet and ceilings to prevent everyone laughing!!!
I keep telling my boyfriend that I don't want a ring at all, of any type, and especially not a diamond ring. I'm not a huge fan of jewelry in the first place and I can think of thousands of more important (and more fun!) things that money can be spent on. If he insists on getting me something, I'd want an engagement puppy... much more enjoyment to be had out of a dog than a ring, and it would be something that we could both enjoy. Men are too often left out of the engagement gift-giving! Why can't it be more mutual?
My "favourite" comment I have heard a lot of women say "Oh it must be a Ken Hardly diamond" as in, you can hardly see it.
yep...haters gonna hate.
Now with wedding cakes, I interned after I graduated pastry school with one of the top cake decorators in the world. As in, when Elton John needed a birthday cake for his 60th birthday, he called this guy. The work and detail, the amount of time spent on actually decorating a confection that is literally a piece of art, is underestimated by a lot of people. HUNDREDS of hours get spent on making some of these cakes. With that being said, they usually taste terrible, as they have been sitting out for days being worked on, and are covered in fondant, which is inedible and horrid. Hardly anyone eats them either...they go to the chocolate fountain that has become so popular.
The wedding is the start of a MARRIAGE...a new life together and a commitment, and hopes for a happy and healthy future. Most people forget that part. It should not be the start of massive debt, especially since financial issues are one of the biggest causes of tension in a marriage.
Thomas Stevens
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