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The Realities of Domestic Violence and Its Impact on Our Society

10/19/2015 01:44 pm ET | Updated Oct 19, 2016

A domestic or dating violence incident takes place every 24 minutes in the U.S. One in four women and one in seven men are victims of such violence.

Increasingly, we are becoming aware of the scope of the domestic violence problem and the extent to which it can and does impact an individual's mental and physical health, and the overall mental health and well-being of a family. Post-traumatic stress disorder, depression, and anxiety are common among survivors, and a significant majority are at a higher risk than average for strokes, heart disease, asthma, and substance abuse.

The ripple effects, unfortunately, don't stop there: Children who witness domestic violence can experience lifelong effects from poor performance in school to early death; domestic violence costs more than $5 billion in medical and mental health care each year, and an estimated 8 million days of paid work are lost annually because of domestic violence.

We must all come to terms with the prevalence of domestic violence and better understand the impact on families, society, and even our economy. We must also step up to support those who have experienced it and, as importantly, find ways to prevent it.

While it is often assumed that domestic violence involves physical abuse, this is not always the case. Domestic violence can involve psychological, verbal, sexual, or economic abuse. Contributing to the isolation frequently experienced by victims, these forms of domestic violence can be difficult to spot. Abusers often exhibit certain attributes, however, that can serve as warning signs, including jealousy, controlling behavior, isolation of their partner from friends and family members, hypersensitivity or being quick to anger, and cruelty toward animals or children.

Loved ones who may experience domestic violence also exhibit certain behaviors. Sudden changes in their appearance, personality or interests, becoming withdrawn, avoiding eye contact, and physical bruises can all indicate that someone may be in an unhealthy and abusive relationship. Other signs may also include frequently being absent from school or work, exhibiting a sudden fear of conflict, and frequently accepting blame for arguments or other situations at home or work.

As with many personal or family-related problems, there is a tremendous stigma that prevents victims from coming forward to share their experiences and to seek help. This stigma, along with overwhelming feelings of shame or embarrassment, can be particularly damaging for male domestic violence survivors. Men often don't want to be seen as weak and thus remain silent about their experiences.

The U.S. Office on Women's Health suggests several actions that can be taken if someone recognizes the behaviors of a potential abuser or victim.

It is also often assumed that domestic violence only occurs in lower-income, minority or rural communities. The truth is that domestic violence can happen to anyone, regardless of who they are, what they do for a living, or where they live. Recent headlines about NFL Hall of Famer Warren Sapp and U.S. soccer player Hope Solo prove that even celebrities are far from immune.

Dating and domestic violence have also become of particular concern on college campuses. Twenty-one percent of students say they've experienced dating violence by a current partner.

At The Chicago School, as part of our commitment to provide a safe learning and working environment, implemented the federal Jeanne Clery and Campus Sexual Violence Elimination Acts (SaVE) to help identify, prevent, and respond to sexual and domestic violence.

Students who experience or are aware of domestic violence are encouraged to speak with our Student Affairs and Human Resources Offices for support on seeking legal protection, medical treatment, counseling, and other supportive services.

The Chicago School also maintains two active Counseling Centers in Southern California that provide domestic violence survivors and their families with high-quality and affordable mental health services. We are proud to have run these facilities for nearly 10 years, and that they have become an important resource for our surrounding communities.

This month, let us recognize Domestic Violence Awareness Month as one of our nation's most important public health issues, and to also shed light on the experiences of millions of women and men whose struggles with partner abuse remain in the shadows.

Need help? Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit www.thehotline.org for more information.