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Michelle Renee
Michelle Renee
Creator of Extreme Resiliency
Owner of VERB Entertainment Group
Founder of Rock to STOP Violence

Mom; Author/Producer (book to film memoir, Held Hostage); Entrepreneur; Resiliency Expert & Speaker; Anti-Violence Activist; Cause Related Event Director; Animal Lover; Travel Enthusiast.


Michelle was named in the "Top 100 Leadership Experts to Follow on Twitter".

Recently named one of the Top 20 Women Who ROCK San Diego by SD Metro Magazine!

"Michelle Renee is an author, speaker, and non-violence activist. Her amazing triumphant story premiered on Lifetime in early 2010. But to hear it from her will inspire you, shock you, and leave you committed to releasing any story that could keep you hostage." Jana Fleming-Emotional Healing Systems/Journey to Wholeness Retreats

About Michelle Renee
Michelle Renee is an author, freelance writer, speaker, activist, leadership & resiliency expert. She is also the Founder of Rock to Stop & Extreme Resiliency. Her journey has been filled with heartbreaking violence, her daughter's severe MS diagnosis, and uplifing, inspiring success. Her story and message is one of a mother's love, courage, determination, and EXTREME RESILIENCY.

Leaving behind emotional and physical abuse, Michelle Renee became a homeless runaway at age 15. Determined to make a life for herself, she climbed the corporate ladder to become an Assistant Vice President/Executive Banker by the time she was 30. Her career ambitions were shattered when three masked gunmen broke the door to her home down, held her and only child hostage for 14 hours, taped explosives to their bodies and forced Michelle to rob the bank she managed to save their life.

It was in those 14 hours held hostage, as she was preparing to die, that Michelle knew it was time to heal her life...all of it. It was time to face all that had been holding her hostage for as long as she could remember.

In the aftermath of the violent home invasion kidnapping, hostage, and bank robbery ordeal, Michelle chose to follow her dream of becoming an entrepreneur. She, while awaiting the criminla trial of their attackers, returned to college at the University of Alaska Anchorage at age 35 enrolling in Communications courses with an emphasis on public relations, and created her non-profit focused on positive change.

Today Michelle Renee an award-winning author, International speaker, respected activist, and extreme resiliency coach/educator. Michelle’s debut memoir, Held Hostage, is now a Lifetime world premiere movie starring Julie Benz; a project she served as Creative Consultant and Associate Producer on. Michelle and her daughter are honorees shown on the Chicago Survivor Wall alongside Oprah Winfrey, Maya Angelou, Joe Torre and Shelby Lynn, to name a few. Their story is featured on E!, 48 Hours, Fuji TV in Japan, and Discovery. Michelle has also been seen on Good Morning America, W Network(Canada), Lifetime, A & E, BIO, Fox, CBS, NBC, KPBS, and numberous other television and radio shows. She was recently a contributor to NY Times, Washington Post, is a featured Huffington Post blogger, and More Magazine online contributing writer. She is an MSN Hometown Hero and recent Women Changing the World honoree.

Michelle is currently working on her sophomore book, EXTREME RESILIENCY. Visit www.EXTREMERESILIENCY.COM for more information or contact Phyllis Parsons of The Parsons Company for Booking: 925-934-5300 or

She resides in Southern California with her daughter Breea and two dogs, Gypsy and Spike.

Entries by Michelle Renee

Turning 50 Can Be an Adventure

(0) Comments | Posted October 30, 2015 | 9:44 PM

Hello from Barcelona!

I turn 50 this week. I remember being in my 30's thinking, wow, my 40's are going to be amazing. I find myself saying the exact same thing but with a different number just up ahead of me. There was talk of a party. Yes, I will...

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5 Life Changing New Year's Resolutions

(1) Comments | Posted December 29, 2014 | 5:03 PM

I was sitting in my living room thinking about the offers coming my way for New Year's Eve plans. Parties, live bands, the big countdown. For some reason none sounded all that interesting to me. I've been there, done that multiple times. I feel such an urge to do things...

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5 Things to Do When Your Daughter Is Heartbroken

(0) Comments | Posted September 12, 2014 | 3:17 PM

I could hear her crying from her bedroom. By the time I entered her room, she was saying, "No, this isn't happening. This can't be real." Her face was soaked in tears. Her boyfriend of nearly four years, her high school sweetheart who had just left for his senior year...

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Dear Inner Child

(0) Comments | Posted July 29, 2014 | 9:44 AM

I have been sitting at my computer for two weeks off and on searching for places to go. Yes, I am an adventurer. I love to travel, meet people, live in the moment. But when this feverish type of behavior showed up a couple weeks ago and has been picking...

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3 Clues That You Need to Regroup

(0) Comments | Posted July 1, 2014 | 1:24 PM

There are moments when I least expect resiliency to pop up and remind me that I need to regroup. Sometimes those moments show up at the beach, on the sand, in the form of a bee.

Clue #1: Indecisiveness

The other day I was seriously pondering how to spend my...

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Concious Uncoupling Isn't New or News

(0) Comments | Posted March 28, 2014 | 1:32 PM

You know it is a slow news day when we are bombarded with fake news like Gwyneth Paltrow saying her and her husband have chose to consciously uncouple. Really? Let's not get all caught up in a new phrase for what is known as an AMICABLE DIVORCE....

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Mom I'm Disabled, Not Dead

(0) Comments | Posted March 25, 2014 | 4:26 PM

Here's the thing: being disabled comes with some serious challenges. But we have the choice of allowing those challenges to keep us stuck at home or we can say hey, this makes me appreciate life so much more and I am going to LIVE IT! At least that is what...

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Put Down Your Anger

(0) Comments | Posted February 19, 2014 | 6:59 PM

He passed away just over a year ago. The man that truly took my breath away and scooped up my heart in the palm of his hands in 1987. As I processed the one year anniversary of his moving on to another lifetime I began to sob.

I looked at...

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Hallo 2014: 21 Tipps für mehr innere Stärke

(0) Comments | Posted January 8, 2014 | 9:33 AM


Mit diesen 21 Tipps wirft Sie 2014 nichts mehr so schnell aus der Bahn.

1. Setzen Sie vernünftige Grenzen - die Ihnen passen und nicht den anderen. Ganz oben auf der Liste der Grenzen, die Sie künftig zu Ihrem eigenen Wohl setzen werden, sollte folgender Satz...

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Hello 2014: 21 Ways to Live a Resilient Life

(0) Comments | Posted January 1, 2014 | 10:18 AM

Here are 21 ways to lead a resilient life:

1. Set healthy boundaries that work for you and not everyone else. Put this phrase at the top of your healthy, self-loving boundary setting list: "That doesn't work for me." If others don't understand your boundaries, so what? You are...

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Stop, Listen, Pray, Meditate

(2) Comments | Posted December 5, 2013 | 1:32 PM

I woke up yesterday morning and for some reason I felt an urge to sit on the side of my bed and immediately began to meditate and pray. I usually go into the living room, relax with a cup of my homemade tea or some coffee, and ease into my...

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A Mother's Resilient Heart

(0) Comments | Posted December 2, 2013 | 11:09 AM

I could never have prepared my heart for this: "Mom, my left arm isn't working and I can't do my own hair for the dance tonight. I am trying to find someone to help me." She is away at college.

Do I want to hop on a jet and be...

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Ditch Your Pity Party Invites!

(1) Comments | Posted October 4, 2013 | 5:17 PM

Pretend you received this in your mailbox or via Evite in your email:

You are Invited to the Ultimate Pity Party!

Please join me as I sulk and cry, whine, lay around and feel bad for myself.

Party begins each day as I wake up and lasts at least an...

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Warning: Emotional Flash Flood Zone!

(0) Comments | Posted September 10, 2013 | 2:14 PM

Emotional immaturity stemming from past hurt, unresolved anger, or childhood wounds can come on so fast its like a flash flood leaving the adult version of you going under and swept away. By the time you come up for air, finding some sort of branch of reality to cling to,...

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Filling Up Your Child's Inner Tank

(0) Comments | Posted August 16, 2013 | 1:11 PM

Sometimes -- actually nearly all the time -- it takes the strength and love and support of those in your corner to help get you back up on your feet and back on the path to resiliency.

One example is a recent tragedy that my wonderful friends are facing....

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Is It Time to Get Serious About Your Personal Sanctuary?

(0) Comments | Posted August 5, 2013 | 5:31 PM

I had the best time hiking Torrey Pines State Reserve yesterday and in the midst of all that natural beauty and calming space a topic came up. My single mom friend and I began discussing the importance of making our homes sanctuaries.

Making personal space a sanctuary when it...

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Extreme Resiliency: Indulge Your Playful Spirit

(0) Comments | Posted June 14, 2013 | 3:19 PM

The trees lining the streets in our neighborhood are bursting with the most beautiful color: light purple that makes me smile every time I see them. Lately I have noticed the flower petals falling off and drifting down to the ground collecting in piles under the trees.

Last week...

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Extreme Resiliency: Rewrite Your Life Script

(0) Comments | Posted June 6, 2013 | 4:53 PM

A relationship can be a very complex mix of emotions, past programming, and many times have "stuff" from generations that has been carried forward into it.

I was taking time recently to meditate in my room and became overwhelmed by emotions related to my relationship with my mom. I...

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Extreme Resiliency: Owning Where We Are

(0) Comments | Posted May 30, 2013 | 8:06 PM

A client said to me yesterday, "The worst part is that he makes me feel like I am a burden." This is a sensitive one to address when speaking to someone that has had a life altering event happen to them at age 27. But even when someone is in...

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5 Year-Old Hostage Victim "Unharmed"?

(5) Comments | Posted February 1, 2013 | 4:00 PM

I was sitting in my living room this morning watching the Today Show when I heard Matt Lauer say that the 5 year-old being held hostage by a total stranger in an underground bunker is being reported as "unharmed." Really?

This child may not be physically harmed as of the...

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