Tips for Divorced Dating Divas

I decided to start out my new year with a blog that reflects my how I want to focus my energy this year: light and fun! Oh, and I have set an intention to get out of my hyper-focused haze of 2008 and date more!

After 15 years of juggling single momness with career, other well known challenges as penned in my book, Held Hostage, and a bit of dating here and there, I sure hope I have learned a thing or two along the way. At 43 one thing I have discovered for sure is that being alone, and even learning to enjoy it, is far better than being with Mr. Not So Wonderful. No settling ladies!! But that isn't one of my tips.

I was recently asked what tips I would give other divorced moms venturing out into the dating world. So...being the dating diva that I am...haha..I came up with my personal top five tips to date by:

1) Never let a date pick you up at your home. Keep space that you share with your children sacred and safe. Once you exit dating and enter a "relationship" (minimum of 6 months of exclusivity required) you can think about giving out your address and discussing it with the kids.

2) Best accessory that goes with any outfit? Self-confidence!

3) Know that what Rumi said is true: the day you start loving yourself is the day you begin a lifelong romance. Take time to get to know and love YOU first before jumping into the dating fast lane.

4) Five words to help you set healthy boundaries: That Doesn't Work For Me. Say it loud and proud!

5) Embrace your sexy goddess! Buy lingerie and other fun and sexy things for YOU not him.

So, if you are starting out your new year with a new dating plan, include these five tips to help you stay safe, have fun, set healthy boundaries and of course... love yourself first!

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[Cach]

6) Be sure to inform your dates about how wonderful you are. Use words like diva and goddess proudly. People love that!

7) Remember, you only need to 'think' about controlling your paranoia after 6 months. With the right attitude you could keep him in the dark for a whole year. Don't worry, he won't feel disrespected.

8) By all means, focus a lot of attention on yourself. Love yourself, admire yourself, buy sexy lingerie that's just for YOU and admire your sexy self in the mirror when no one is around to distract you. Narcissism is very healthy after all.

[Michelle Renee - Huffpost Blogger]

Ahhh...self-love and narcissism could not be more different from one another. Admiring oneself and honoring oneself are also not the same and diva and goddess...well those are just fun to say!

Your comment made me laugh...love the sense of humor :)

[Cach]

"Your comment made me laugh"

ahhh... no.... I don't believe it did.

[leftcoastindy]

It took me 6 dates to decide I liked my wife very much. 6 weeks to ask her to marry me.
I can't imagine how you would -or even could- date someone for more than a few weeks without knowing where they live.

[Michelle Renee - Huffpost Blogger]

In this day and age and was she a dingle mom? For me, my daughter and our safety come first. It takes a long time to get past the honeymoon phase and into the reality of a realtionship. Introducing her to multiple men and having them in our environment isn't the best example for her. I prefer to wait and see if he is in it for the long haul and if I am before involving her and our space! Congrats on the relationship though! Love to hear love stories like yours...gives me more hope that it can happen for me again :)