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Mike Alvear
Mike Alvear co-hosted HBO's sex-advice series and is the founder of the gay advice website Gay Dating Success.

Entries by Mike Alvear

7 Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Penis

(0) Comments | Posted December 12, 2014 | 7:37 PM

'Tis the season for showing how much you care about the dude down there. Instead of showing him off on the hookup apps, why not spend a little quality time making his life better? Here are seven great ideas that will make Mr. Happy even happier:

1. Make him stronger.

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No, I Don't Have a Dick Pic, and Here's Why My Dignity Is Still Intact

(0) Comments | Posted October 2, 2014 | 11:48 AM

Last week Noah Michelson, Executive Editor of HuffPost Gay Voices, wrote a blog post called "Yes, I Have a Dick Pic, and Here's Why I'm Not Ashamed of It."

Noah, you made some interesting points about nudity and prudishness, but come on. The dating and hookup apps are...

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Flirt! Texts That'll Make Him Bend Over (With Laughter)

(1) Comments | Posted August 11, 2014 | 7:14 PM


Is your texting giving guys "Anal Glaucoma?" That's when they look at your lame texts and think, "I can't see my ass in his life." Guys who don't know how to make guys smile over text get Glaucoma'd all the time. I wrote...

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LOOK: 19 Breathtakingly Overconfident Texts. Are You Brave Enough to Send Them?

(0) Comments | Posted July 17, 2014 | 4:18 PM

You got his number. You'd leave home family and career to smell his dirty shorts but maybe he's a little bit out of your league. Or maybe you just want to set an alpha male tone that'll entice him. Either way, you have to be careful because there's a thin...

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Why Do So Many Hot Young Gay Celebrities Go After Older Men?

(2) Comments | Posted July 10, 2014 | 8:53 AM


When we made up our list of the The Hottest Intergenerational Gay Celebrity Couples we thought we'd get a handful. We got 14 instead, including movie star Matt Bomer, Olympic diver Tom Daley, and fashion icon Tom Ford. We probably could...

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Free Your Mind Your Crotch Will Follow

(23) Comments | Posted July 2, 2014 | 11:56 AM

When was the last time you heard someone make fun of a top? Never. But bottoms? Wow. How many times have you heard friends say things like, "Oh, he's just a big bottom." Or heard jokes like, "Why did the gay man cross the road? He heard the chicken was...

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Dating Younger: Have We Become the Men We Used to Run Away From?

(0) Comments | Posted June 21, 2014 | 7:40 PM

When I was 24 my idea of "dating older" was dating somebody who was 26. I was so age-phobic I didn't even have friends who were more than ten years older than I was. Now that I'm of a certain age, I'm...

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Why Is Fashion Dipping Its Chocolate in Porn's Peanut Butter?

(0) Comments | Posted June 11, 2014 | 1:27 PM

It used to be that the only thing male fashion models had in common with gay porn stars is that they both had to sleep with people they didn't like. But now that's changing. The middle circle in the venn diagram between fashion and gay porn is well, filling out...

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Is Being Well Endowed a Blessing or a Curse?

(95) Comments | Posted May 27, 2014 | 12:27 PM

In, Help! I'm Hung Like A Bear And I Can't Get Guys To Pay Attention To Anything Else! a reader to my sex advice column complains that guys are obsessed with the least important thing about himself:

Why is being hung a problem for me? That seems to...
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What the 15 Most Popular Gay Porn Stars Are Doing on Twitter

(0) Comments | Posted May 15, 2014 | 11:52 PM

When a friend first told me that he follows a couple of gay porn stars on Twitter, my first thought was, "Why? What could he possibly get out of it?" Plenty, it turns out. He gets to, um, reach out and touch performers in a way never before possible.

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Are Straight Men Getting Comfortable With Guys Kissing Them on the Lips?

(69) Comments | Posted April 25, 2014 | 7:57 PM

As my team made a compilation of the funniest "gay kiss" GIFs we were surprised at how many straight guys made our list. And how violent their reactions were. In fact, there were so many that we had to re-title it, "12 Man-On-Man Kissing GIFs That Went Terribly...

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How to Write Bitchy Profiles on Grindr and Other Dating Apps

(0) Comments | Posted April 24, 2014 | 11:26 PM

What is it about gay dating apps that brings out the bitchiness in us boys? When my team set out to find the bitchiest app profiles (see our 10 bitchiest app profiles here), we noticed a pattern: The successfully bitchy profiles (not everyone made our list; only the...

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Matthew Ebert, Here's Why You and Other HIV-Positive People Should Never Refer to the Virus as a Gift

(0) Comments | Posted February 5, 2014 | 11:23 PM

Recently there was a good old-fashioned media smackdown when Matthew Ebert took an ax to my blog post "Why Are Some HIV-Positive Gay Men Grateful for Their Disease?" My basic premise was that you should be grateful that you have the strength, support and resources to...

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Is It Unethical to Post GrindR Photos on a Blog Without Asking Permission?

(5) Comments | Posted January 30, 2014 | 5:02 PM

When my team came up with the idea of posting top 10 hottest GrindR profiles in Atlanta (where we are based), we had an internal debate: Is it ethical for us to post pictures on a popular blog without asking permission?

There are hundreds if not thousands...

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Why Are Some HIV-Positive Gay Men Grateful for Their Disease?

(16) Comments | Posted January 24, 2014 | 8:19 PM

If I hear one more HIV-positive man tell me he's "grateful" for the disease because it made him a more peaceful, loving, open, honest person, I'm going to scream. Those afflicted by disease, any disease, whether it's cancer or HIV, have taken a pernicious slide toward rationalizing their conditions as...

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'Would You Have Sex With a Guy If You Knew He Was HIV-Positive?'

(46) Comments | Posted January 14, 2014 | 6:35 PM

As a gay sex advice columnist I'm often asked about my own sexual habits, which I mercifully decline to answer. But I'm making this one exception because a reader thought I was being hypocritical.

"It's so easy for you to pass judgment on people who refuse to sleep...

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Who's Better-Looking: Gay or Straight Porn Stars?

(57) Comments | Posted January 10, 2014 | 8:28 PM

We set out to answer that question in an online poll that shows a side-by-side comparison of the top five gay and straight porn stars (NSFW).

We got the idea for the poll after hearing several straight women complain that the guys in heterosexual porn are so ugly...

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Why Were There So Few Gay Covers in Straight Magazines This Year?

(0) Comments | Posted December 30, 2013 | 4:08 PM

Given the epic gains in gay rights over the past year you would think that a lot of magazines would have put gays on their covers, but they didn't. As far as my research team could tell, only six straight magazines had gay covers.

But really there were four --...

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What Types Of Bodies Do Men Prefer?

(0) Comments | Posted December 18, 2013 | 11:35 AM

What do men want in a woman? What do they want women to look like? It's important to know because you'll have a much better chance of attracting male attention if you know what makes men say "hubba hubba." This is simple evolutionary mate selection at work, and it applies...

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The Funniest Gay Segments On The Daily Show With Jon Stewart

(1) Comments | Posted December 16, 2013 | 10:25 AM

Does anybody do funnier segments on gay issues than Jon Stewart of the Daily Show? (Okay, Colbert, MAYBE). Stewart's wacky on-point segments like Gay Watch are bacon bits of comedy genius.

When my team decided to get a list together of the funniest clips that have aired on the Daily...

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