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Mike Alvear co-hosted HBO's sex-advice series and is the founder of the gay advice website Gay Dating Success.

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Are PrEP-Refusing Gays the New 'Anti-Vaxxers?'

(36) Comments | Posted August 11, 2015 | 5:13 PM

A friend recently called me an "anti-vaxxer" because I refuse to take Truvada, the PrEP drug that's proven to stop the spread of HIV.

"You're just like those parents who refuse to vaccinate their children," he said. "No matter how solid the science they stick with their misinformed opinions...

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How to Stop Sugar Binges Using Psychiatric Treatments for Drug Addicts

(0) Comments | Posted August 9, 2015 | 1:11 PM

Like many people using benzodiazepines, I got addicted to Clonazepam (Klonopin). When I first realized it I simply quit cold turkey. That didn't work out so well. I started sweating, shaking and felt so disoriented I thought I was going out of my mind. I went back on Klonopin and...

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Why Do Gay Men Have So Little Sex?

(22) Comments | Posted July 14, 2015 | 2:08 PM

Millions of us are on the hookup apps. Gay porn is wildly popular. Most of us think about sex most of the time. We are sexually liberated. So why do we have so little sex?

By sex I don't mean "Bill Clinton sex" (oral). I'm talking penetration--where the hardware goes...

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Would You Date a Drag Queen?

(2) Comments | Posted June 24, 2015 | 4:35 PM

In an essay titled "You Do What?" Eileen Dover, a Boston-area drag queen artist asks gay men an interesting question: Would you date a drag queen?

According to Dover, the answer is as painful as tucking her candy. Very, very few guys would date a drag queen, according...

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Are Gay Men More Racist Than Straight Men?

(0) Comments | Posted April 1, 2015 | 8:41 AM

My friend Colby thinks so. He's half white/half black/all gay. "I've had people come up to me in predominantly white gay bars and say, "Shouldn't you be at the black bars?" I constantly overhear gay men say, "Eeew, I'd never date a black guy."

Of course, there are certain beliefs...

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And the Winner of our National Survey on Funniest Drag Queen Name Is...

(2) Comments | Posted March 30, 2015 | 1:17 PM

The results from our national Funniest Drag Queen Name poll are in! With 4,293 votes cast on 40 finalists we finally have our winners:

10. Georgia O'Queef

9. Lois Common Denominator

8. Frida Slaves

7. Sheilita Buffet

6. Ida Dunham

5. Iona Traylor

4. Hedda Lettuce

3. Annie Depressant

2....

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83 Percent of Gay Men Have Sent a Dick Pic on Dating Apps, Says Survey

(7) Comments | Posted March 18, 2015 | 4:09 PM

Are other guys having the same experience you are on the gay dating apps? We wondered, too. So we conducted a a nationwide survey of nearly 4,000 gay men last month to gauge their behavior. It was no ordinary survey -- not with questions like, "Have you ever sent...

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Is Our Controversial Gay-App Infographic 'An Exercise in Fat Shaming' or an Accurate Reflection of Hookup Culture?

(1) Comments | Posted February 9, 2015 | 6:56 PM

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Within hours of publishing a funny infographic about gay hookup culture, our inboxes were flooded with complaints. As major gay media outlets published the infographic, they too got their fair share of commenters who wanted them to pull it down. "Can...

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The New Gay Flake: He'd Rather Text Than Meet

(15) Comments | Posted February 6, 2015 | 12:31 PM

There's a new flake in town, and he's popping up everywhere -- bars, parties and social events. But, mostly, he's on the dating and hookup apps. He's the cute guy that flirts like crazy, but never quite commits to seeing you in person.

Like most people, I'm running in...

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Why Are Whites Always the Bottom in Interracial Porn?

(84) Comments | Posted January 23, 2015 | 9:13 PM

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Ever notice how hard it is to find blacks bottoming for whites in interracial porn? With few exceptions, porn studios seem to think there is only one acceptable way to show interracial sex: The hyperaggressive African-American top and the submissive white bottom.

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These Are the 10 Funniest Drag-Queen Names, According to Our Ongoing Poll

(32) Comments | Posted January 9, 2015 | 2:20 AM

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"What's in a name?" asked Juliet of Romeo. "That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet." Yeah, well, Juliet never met my drag-queen friend Rose Royce.

Drag-queen names are really important in gay life. (Why else...

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The Top 10 Sexiest Men GIFs of 2014

(0) Comments | Posted December 24, 2014 | 1:20 PM

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You can clock a man's sexiness in about two seconds flat. You don't need a stopwatch when you can just take a look at the two-second captures in...

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The Top 10 Bestselling Gay Sex Books of 2014

(0) Comments | Posted December 19, 2014 | 8:53 PM

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As a sex-advice columnist, I like to keep up with the latest books on gay sex. Given how obsessed gay men are with the subject, you'd think this category would be producing more titles than an automatic profile generator on Grindr, but it...

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7 Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Penis

(0) Comments | Posted December 12, 2014 | 6:37 PM

'Tis the season for showing how much you care about the dude down there. Instead of showing him off on the hookup apps, why not spend a little quality time making his life better? Here are seven great ideas that will make Mr. Happy even happier:

1. Make him stronger.

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No, I Don't Have a Dick Pic, and Here's Why My Dignity Is Still Intact

(0) Comments | Posted October 2, 2014 | 10:48 AM

Last week Noah Michelson, Executive Editor of HuffPost Gay Voices, wrote a blog post called "Yes, I Have a Dick Pic, and Here's Why I'm Not Ashamed of It."

Noah, you made some interesting points about nudity and prudishness, but come on. The dating and hookup apps are...

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Flirt! Texts That'll Make Him Bend Over (With Laughter)

(1) Comments | Posted August 11, 2014 | 6:14 PM

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Is your texting giving guys "Anal Glaucoma?" That's when they look at your lame texts and think, "I can't see my ass in his life." Guys who don't know how to make guys smile over text get Glaucoma'd all the time. I wrote...

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LOOK: 19 Breathtakingly Overconfident Texts. Are You Brave Enough to Send Them?

(0) Comments | Posted July 17, 2014 | 3:18 PM

You got his number. You'd leave home family and career to smell his dirty shorts but maybe he's a little bit out of your league. Or maybe you just want to set an alpha male tone that'll entice him. Either way, you have to be careful because there's a thin...

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Why Do So Many Hot Young Gay Celebrities Go After Older Men?

(2) Comments | Posted July 10, 2014 | 7:53 AM

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When we made up our list of the The Hottest Intergenerational Gay Celebrity Couples we thought we'd get a handful. We got 14 instead, including movie star Matt Bomer, Olympic diver Tom Daley, and fashion icon Tom Ford. We probably could...

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Free Your Mind Your Crotch Will Follow

(23) Comments | Posted July 2, 2014 | 10:56 AM

When was the last time you heard someone make fun of a top? Never. But bottoms? Wow. How many times have you heard friends say things like, "Oh, he's just a big bottom." Or heard jokes like, "Why did the gay man cross the road? He heard the chicken was...

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Dating Younger: Have We Become the Men We Used to Run Away From?

(0) Comments | Posted June 21, 2014 | 6:40 PM

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When I was 24 my idea of "dating older" was dating somebody who was 26. I was so age-phobic I didn't even have friends who were more than ten years older than I was. Now that I'm of a certain age, I'm...

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