My friend C. thinks so. He's half-white, half-black, and all gay. "I've had people come up to me in predominantly white gay bars and say, 'Shouldn't you be at the black bars?' he recalls. "I constantly overhear gay men say, 'Eww, I'd never date a black guy.'"

C. is upset,...

Valentine's Day usually cleaves single people into two camps: The happy couples lording it over the unattached and the unattached scurrying to singles events like The Bitter Ball.

But there's a third camp you don't read about too much these days: The unattached who are too coupled to...

Some guys are so clueless on the gay dating sites that the only thing they attract is dust. There are certain rules to meeting gay men on the singles sites -- some are common sense; some are counter-intuitive. Here are my favorite six:

1. Show your face. Profiles with...

A gay friend:

"I've been told that I shake hands like a Viking. When I softened it I was accused of shaking hands like a limp Tilapia. Then I changed it again and somebody said I shook hands like a dog (whatever that means).

His question was...

Are you asking the same boring questions on a date? Such as, "When did you come out, what interesting movies have you seen and did you like this week's Glee?"

Getting to know someone without sounding like a scratched record isn't very hard if you just follow a few simple...

Grindr? Manhunt? Gay.com? A lot of gay men are having a bad experience when guys show up at their door looking 20 years older and three inches shorter than they advertised. Is it bad karma to turn away a guy at your door if he totally lied about...

Is there anything more nerve-wracking than coming up with a creative text message for somebody you're interested in? You try and try but everything seems like a version of "nice meeting you."

Soon, you get Texter's Block. You're as nervous as Paris Hilton on Jeopardy. You're shaking like a...

"What do you call a gay guy who got infected in the '80s? A victim. What do you call a gay guy who gets infected in 2010? An idiot." Well put by a reader to my gay dating column, but way off the mark.

According to the CDC, new...

You met the love of your life. (Again) Time to text. But what?

"How are you?"

"Nice to meet you?"

Yes, show them you have the personality of a Kansas zip code.

You start typing and... BRAIN FART! You can't think of anything clever! You're as nervous as Paris Hilton...

Recently, I got an email from a 19-year-old who slept with half the city and got tagged with the kind of reputation that made him dating Kryptonite. "Whenever I meet someone new they either know me as a slut or they find out through their friends," he said. "How can...

Can men get rid of unwanted hair without popping Xanax? If I were selling the hair removal options I'd tell you it can be somewhat uncomfortable. But I'm not selling them so I'm free to tell you my experience: Every option available to you includes ear plugs for the person...

Why do so many effeminate gay men prefer in their partners the very masculinity they've bleached out of themselves?

The obvious answer is that they're attracted to their opposites. But that answer only goes so far. Effeminate men may lust for their masculine counterparts but most masculine men don't return...

You can't meet Mr. Right (Or Mr. Right Now) if you're riddled with a fear of rejection. Approach anxiety --the fear of starting a conversation with an attractive stranger--gets...

How many more dates would you have?

How much more sex?

How many more relationships?

Most guys can't get themselves to talk to a guy they're attracted to because of something called Approach Anxiety -- the fear of starting a conversation with an attractive stranger. A lot...

Or do they claim it to boost sales?

Most people seem to think straight sex workers in gay porn are either closet case exhibitionists, money-hungry heteros or want-it-all versatiles. Personally, I don't think they're gay, straight or bi. I think they're "buy-sexual."

Gay guys should understand that term better than...

"He's hot," I thought as I rifled through a local magazine. But my panting turned to laughing when I saw it was a friend posing in the shirtless shots. Coleman (his name is changed to protect his guilt) appeared as a cover-boy in what can only be described...

The Dewey Decimal system can't compartmentalize love and sex the way gay men can.

Like a lot of gay men, I seem to be stuck doing guys I don't want to date and dating guys I don't want to do.

Take this guy I met playing volleyball. We went up...

Glee creator Ryan Murphy is leading a boycott of Newsweek after one of its columnists said openly gay actors playing straight characters alienate audiences.

Calm down, Ladyface. The columnist has a point. It is hard to believe Sean Hayes...

Nothing keeps us further away from guys we're interested in than the fear of rejection. Even if the guy you like rejects you nicely, a no is a NO. The thought of him looking for something better as you're talking or excusing himself from the conversation is too much...

Straight women aren't the only people who can't seem to meet the right...