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Mike Elk

Posted: December 11, 2009 02:00 AM

My Grandmother Takes a Stand for Gay Marriage in Church Despite Loving Glenn Beck

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I was shocked when I heard that my conservative Grandma had stormed out of church after her pastor denounced "being gay as the worst sin." My 81-year-old grandmother, who has two gay grandchildren, wasn't taking any of that shit, and made my mother, my aunt, uncle and cousins leave the church after having attended it for nearly ten years.

Doing such a thing in a small town in western Pennsylvania, which fits Barack Obama's definition of a "bitter town" almost perfectly, is unheard of. It was an absolute scandal throughout the small town where she lives.

However, what was even more shocking was that when, at Thanksgiving dinner, I asked my grandmother which book she was reading, she responded, "Glenn Beck's 'Common Sense.'" Fortunately, my mouth was full of mashed potatoes so I had a few moments to gather myself before responding politely, "Oh, yes, that Glenn Beck, he's a passionate fellow." My aunt, responding genuinely, replied, "Oh, yes, Glenn Beck he really makes you think about things in ways that nobody else ever does. I watch Glenn Beck's show everyday."

My uncle Billy, a Vietnam veteran who's been laid off seven times, looking to start a fight, piped up, "Michael, do you like Glenn Beck?" The whole table turned to me, and for the first time in my life I was glad I suffered from a stutter. Fortunately, my grandmother mercifully invoked the "politics and religion at the dinner table" rule before my stammer came to a standstill.

There are at least eight million daily followers of Glenn Beck in America, and a good chunk of them are people like my grandmother and my uncle Billy - well-intentioned people that care about their country, their families and their communities, otherwise they wouldn't watch a show about politics. However, to label all these Glenn Beck followers as unreachable, bigoted racists is an extraordinarily dangerous and misleading move for the progressive movement, which aims to include all people.

My grandmother's own vocal protest for gay rights in her church disproved that Glenn Beck followers tend to vote Republican merely because of gods, gays and guns. Sure, this wins over a large portion of them, but it doesn't explain how the Republican Party is able to win over people like my grandmother, who were once hardcore Democrats and never fell prey to such hate-baiting tactics in the past.

My grandmother is a registered Democrat, the widow of a union leader and local Democratic leader, whom my mother claimed must have rolled over in his grave when he heard my grandmother voted for a Republican. My uncle Billy comes from the same place; growing up, he told me that we needed to abolish both parties and form a worker's party, due to his deep distrust of both major parties.

The right has been winning over working-class whites by fostering hate since Richard Nixon. They are good at targeting groups. However, there has always been an equal number of white working-class people who never fail prey to such fear-mongering tactics. They voted for plenty of the most elite sounding northeastern liberals like Michael Dukakis because they knew Republicans were on the side of big corporations - the true elitists. However, this has all changed dramatically in the last 20 years because Republicans are actively targeting those working-class people using a different appeal.

The county where my grandmother is from -Westmoreland County, Pennsylvania - in 1988 voted for card-carrying ACLU member Michael Dukakis by an 11 point margin of victory, yet voted for McCain in 2008 by a 17 point margin. What happened in between, you might ask?

Tens of thousands of manufacturing jobs disappeared, and Westmoreland County was turned into a degraded version of its former self. Democrats on the national level did nothing in response to challenge the corporate ideology that wiped out their community and their way of life.

Glenn Beck followers tend to primarily be these inhabitants of the "bitter towns" who lost faith in government. As my colleague Sara Robinson points out, why would working-class people trust a government that is "so clearly rigged to suck money straight out of their pockets into the tax-free offshore bank accounts of the wealthy - who, of course, turn right around and use that money to buy off our government"?

The fight then becomes over who controls government, and cable TV news presents them with faces that fight the Ivy League liberal-elite stereotypes. Glenn Beck and his followers attack liberals as being out-of-touch Ivy League elitists, neglecting to mention that most prominent conservatives are also Ivy Leaguers.

We respond by calling the other side "stupid" in cable news sound byte clips, and they respond back at us by calling us "elitists"; this quickly devolves into an endless series of glorified name calling.

As Matt Taibbi notes in his must-read piece "Sarah Palin - WWE Star,"  about the soap operatization of politics via cable news:

What we call "politics" has devolved into a kind of ongoing, brainless soap opera about dueling cultural resentments, and the really cool thing about it, if you're a TV news producer or a talk radio host, is that you can build the next day's news cycle meme around pretty much anything at all, no matter how irrelevant ...

And while some of us are old enough to remember that once upon a time these arguments always had at least some sort of ideological flavor to them, i.e. the throwdowns were at least rooted in some sort of real political issue (war, taxes, immigration, etc.) we've now got a whole generation that is accustomed to screaming at cultural enemies as an end in itself, for the sheer dismal fun of it.

This is the dilemma that relying on impersonal communications leaves us in. Cable news and other forms of electronic communication tend to win ratings using name calling and conflict. The blogosphere has done incredible things in educating the base, educating a young net savvy generation, funding political causes and holding cable news personalities like Lou Dobbs accountable. However, it hasn't changed the fundamental dynamic of cultural resentment between social and economic classes that cable news breeds. In some way, the Internet fuels it even more - just Google Sarah Palin and you'll see what I'm talking about. Cable news breeds a cultural resentment that creates a sense of distrust between college-educated liberals and potential allies in the working-class communities. In order to restore trust in government, we must restore trust in the people that are supposed to run government - ourselves.

In his famous book "Bowling Alone," Robert Putnam shows that trust among people disappears when members of different socio-economic classes don't interact and get to know each other through social organizations. He aptly names his book "Bowling Alone," based on the statistics that more Americans are bowling than at any time, but in fewer and fewer bowling leagues. What we need to do to rebuild trust among classes is to bring people into organizations where they can realize through interaction their shared interests.

Currently, there is only one place in America where illegal immigrants and Glenn Beck followers sit down together on a regular basis and fight for their collective self interests - the halls of organized labor. Unions unite people behind shared self-interest and a common social purpose: making their jobs better - something we all desire. Through working together, they gain trust of one another and are less likely to be victims of conservative scare tactics.

The statistics don't lie. Obama won by 23 points among white, noncollege graduates who belong to a union, even as he lost by 18 points among all white, noncollege voters.

Working-class whites aren't just more likely to vote for progressives when organized labor is strong, so are people of color, women and young people. As the landslide loss of corporate, anti-workers' rights Democrat Creigh Deeds in Virginia shows, working whites will vote for Republicans for cultural reasons when a Democrat fails to stand up for them. However, people of color, women and young people don't have a cultural punching bag in "liberal elites," so when Democrats disappoint, they simply don't vote.
Thus, keeping people from joining unions and thereby upsetting the conservative ruling class that thrives on cultural resentment is the number one goal of conservatives. The biggest barrier for making strong unions is the fact that 30,000 workers are fired from their job every year for trying to join a union. In the United States, an employer has to post a piece of paper saying they fired a worker for trying to a join. As my father, a union organizer, always said, "If the penalty for robbing a bank was you had to post a piece of paper saying you robbed a bank, we'd all be bank robbers!"

Killing the Employee Free Choice Act is the number one priority of the Chamber of Commerce for this reason. It's more urgent for them to squash than climate change and health care reform put together. They know that increased unionization threatens their whole balance of power.

It is time that we realize that the Employee Free Choice Act is this important. The Employee Free Choice Act is not just a union issue. Without a revitalized labor movement, we get bogged down in the cultural wars of TV, and any progressive change we make is unsustainable. We need to create organs of social dialogue.

 

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02:07 AM on 12/15/2009
You are so right in so many places and so wrong in some. The Republican's don't win over working people. The Democrats chase them away. Few people vote FOR either party, they just vote for the one they hate the least at the moment. Democrats want to spend, spend, spend and tax, tax, tax forgetting who pays the price of those policies. They chase the working people away with their Big Government tax and spend policies. The Republicans may win the fundy vote on antigay matters but that is a small and shrinking population. They only win by not being Democrats, much as Obama won a landslide because he was the antiBush candidate. Fiscal responsibility, a pro peace foreign policy and civil liberty for all is the best formula for winning.
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kcflood
04:39 PM on 12/14/2009
My grandma is pro-gay marriage, too. Isn't it great?
04:04 PM on 12/14/2009
Mike: solid column, and great news about your grandmother.

I'm from Westmoreland County originally, myself - spent the first 18 years of my gay boy life there - and you describe it pretty accurately. (I also have a paradox of a grandmother, as it turns out, who's quite gay-friendly, loved Jimmy Carter, but hasn't voted for a Democrat for president since 1980.)

I would, however, qualify your argument about these kinds of voters by pointing out that, while Westmoreland County has shifted to the right in recent decades, Dukakis lost PA in 1988. Since then, it's gone Clinton, Clinton, Gore, Kerry, Obama (albeit by close margins in most of those instances). While working-class whites are voting Republican more often, they're also representing a smaller portion of the electorate in PA and across the US.

This isn't to suggest that their concerns aren't as legitimate, somehow, but I wanted to point that out.
03:50 PM on 12/14/2009
What a great example this grandmother has set. Now if we could just get her away from Glen Beck.
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floridafun
Yes We Are!
05:49 PM on 12/13/2009
mike--very well written! and i think your grandma is one of the few beck lovers i could wholeheartedly embrace ;-)
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03:07 PM on 12/13/2009
Clearly, it's great that your grandmother had gay family members which caused her to walk out of church, but it's also clear that she has no clue about the larger spector of social justice (which is obviously something you need to teach her and the rest of your family about).

While some of the things you say have merit, it seems like you think progressives and liberals should be silent when conservative pundits speak nonsense in some effort to attract the uneducated whites...this is just plain ignorant, foolish and dangerous. It is the duty of rational people to speak out against lies and misinformation. If you consider yourself such it would behoove you to go back to granny and set the factual record about GB straight, even if she stood up for gay rights...

And for you to keep your mouth shut and let her think that GB says anything of value, when he has taken his ideology from history's biggest crack pots, raci sts and big ots, tells us all we need to know about you. Don't take that as a silight, but a call to action...Stand up for what's right even if it's not popular (in that sense your grandmother has it right) GB may be popular in your family, but right is right and wrong is wrong.
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billy goat
Sniffing Out Bad Cheese Everywhere!
02:34 AM on 12/13/2009
As someone wrote earlier, your grandma's progressive thinking about gay people is likely the result of her experience. It's wonderful! For everyone of her, there are probably ten others who have gay family members, still watch Glenn Beck et al, and while they may love their gay kin, still can't quite get as far as your grandma. That's why these conservatives and religious people are so evil. Nothing good has ever come from them!
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LMPE
I connect the most dissimilar things
07:04 PM on 12/12/2009
Finally!
04:56 PM on 12/12/2009
Except for his implied belief that the Democratic Party is redeemable, Mike is spot-on.

All but the very well-off have had it "up-to-here" with the powers that be and are plenty angry. The only issue is whether rightist or leftist populism will win out. Let's hope it's leftist, because otherwise we are looking at the US becoming very inhospitable for all ethnic and religious minorities. Eg. tea-baggers here in California are advocating mandatory Christmas carols in public schools.

Obama is the most recent in a long line of personally opportunistic inauthentic neo-liberal pols who betrayed (upper-class traitor) FDR's Democratic party from within beginning in the 1940s. (This may well have been done in an organized way via a Cold War classified program; if so it won't come out for decades, if ever, but would explain a lot.)

Hopefully the SCOTUS will soon eliminate on First Amendment grounds all restrictions on donations to parties or candidates provided they are instantly disclosed online. That way a newly chartered serious social democratic party can accept ample contributions from numerous multi-millionaires of conscience along with legions of small contributions and become highly competitive overnight.

Once they can be properly amplified by a combination of traditional and online media and serious field organizing (and presuming ballot counting can be kept honest) the egalitarian prescriptions of the left should rather easily dominate the politics of the 21st century.

Eric C. Jacobson
Public Interest Lawyer
Culver City, California
01:01 AM on 12/12/2009
i agree with the sentiments and sensibility of this article -- and i applaud the author for his correction of the progressive knee-jerk dismissive response to social conservatives.

what about trying something different -- what about marrying social conservatism (guns, gays, god) with economic progressivism? i think such a ticket -- say: palin/kucinich '12 -- could harness the power of a majority of americans ('elites' and 'stupids') together.

if you think your arugula-eating, npr-listening, starbucks-sipping, aclu-loving social progressivism is getting in the way of the developments of a cross-class coalition for socio-economic justice, then what about a back-door sneaky operation in which we, for a time, pipe down about abortion, go back in the closet, parade the guns, and praise jesus? it just might be worth it -- and then when those 'bitter towns' come to see a better economic day, i imagine many of those social conservatives will be willing to be much more generous about gay rights, abortion rights, and other social issues that otherwise foment their resentments when the crumbs on the table are so few.

but most of my left-wing friends aren't willing to lay down their socially progressive sword and shield -- even for the potential for socio-economic liberation. kind of sad -- and a good reason to loathe the bohemian-bourgeois who choose self-satisfying 'charity' over substantive change.

the only thing worse than a conservative is an unreconstructed social liberal!
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LeftRight
TANSTAAFL
11:45 AM on 12/13/2009
Do you REALLY think that Palin could not only win the Presidency, but do ANYTHING remotely RESEMBLING good in the job???????
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zanzig
11:19 PM on 12/11/2009
I'd venture to suggest that your grandmother's strong support of gay rights was fuelled only by her feeling for her family and not from some larger general view of rights for all. That being the case I see no contradiction in her support for Beck's inflammatory nonsense.
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Yellowstonedemocrat
lives in Yellowstone
12:38 PM on 12/12/2009
While your grandmother may be an exception to the rule, I continue to believe that Beck feeds the paranoia of r.a.c.i.s.t.s. and other not-so-educated types. He pumps them up and gets them all atwitter against anything that is to the left of Genghis Khan.
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lynjs
Take each day as it comes.
08:57 PM on 12/11/2009
Kiss your granny for me. That lady is fantastic. Talk about a tough old gal. Reminds me of my own great-grandmother. We know who rules that roost. Your Uncle Billy has an idea considering the spinelessness of the Democrats. Abolish both parties because one is spineless and the other always says no!
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ladyfractal
Bioinformatician
05:39 PM on 12/11/2009
Herein we see part of our problem as Americans: neither party *really* gives a tinker's damn about people who get up everyday, work a hard day (be that white or blue collar work--anyone who thinks white collar people don't work hard has never worked in tech support) and play by the rules not trying to get over.
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vew
04:59 PM on 12/11/2009
To really "frame" a political argument you have to use the stories of people that match the lives of the people who's ideas you are trying to change. Most of us are middle class and hard working. Want to help those in true need and care for the "widows and orphans" as the Bible says. The issues are not race and/or ethnicity but the problems of the working poor. The party that really can identify with those needs and can develop ways to help without destroying the middle class and our economic system will be the party most vote for in the coming elections. The Democrats have a lot of work to do to get back to their roots!
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Mike Elk
05:05 PM on 12/11/2009
exactly
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floridafun
Yes We Are!
05:56 PM on 12/13/2009
?? i found it difficult to think its specifically then dems who need to get back to their roots. seems to me they worked awfully hard the past couple years to do that. we didnt expect perfection from obama regardless of the repubs screaming we think he walks on water. but with what he inherited, some of which has been brewing for 20 years or so..i commend what he has done and is working on for our foreseeable future.
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Anym
Obama is GoldmanSachs
04:26 PM on 12/11/2009
We used to have a workers party back when we had FDR, Truman, and LBJ.

Now we have 2 banker parties.
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floridafun
Yes We Are!
05:58 PM on 12/13/2009
you shoulda watched pbs today, coverage of fdr, truman, etc. fascinating and factual.