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Leadership: It's a Female Thing

Posted: 02/22/2012 4:10 pm

Last week, I found myself on Manhattan's West Side in an exquisitely decorated loft owned by Winds of Change philanthropist Shamaya Gilo. Sixty powerhouse women were gathered together for wine and cheese and to strategize about how to support women's leadership through cold-hard cash. The loft was filled with talented and accomplished women of wealth -- women who were personally wealthy or those who pulled the strings at some of New York's top financial institutions. Present in the room were wealth managers, venture capitalists, fixed income and equity traders, professional investors, lawyers, quants, mutual fund managers, bankers, heads of family foundations, philanthropists and market makers of all kinds and a couple of token (and sympathetic) males thrown into the mix. We had one thing in common: the drive and ambition to push more capable and accomplished women into the ring.

What is the "Ring?" It is the corporate boardroom, the C-Suite at Fortune 500 companies and top levels of financial institutions. The ring includes politics, finance, business and generally anywhere that women have been traditionally marginalized, which let's face it, is everywhere that matters aside from the home front. The question we are asking is why are women deliberately kept out of key roles in world affairs and what can we do to change that?

The New York gathering of high-powered women, organized by Criterion Ventures under the direction of the indefatigable Jackie VanderBrug, encouraged women to invest in each other. Speaking to the crowd of well-heeled power women were Nada Jain (Golden Seeds), CJ Juhasz (ISIS Fund/Women's World Banking), Jo-Ann Tan (Acumen Fund), Georgie Benardete (Multicultural Capital), Sally Boulter and Noelle St. Clair of Calvert Foundation who detailed each organization's mission to empower women. The event marked a shift in action -- we are tired of waiting for men to open the door for us. Ladies and gentlemen ... in the 21st century, we are opening the doors for ourselves.

What makes the world go around is money. The Criterion Ventures model aims to put money behind women-centric ventures and entrepreneurs. (Women investing in Women.) We have seen how money in the wrong hands, evidenced by the global economic crisis, has thrown the scales of power completely out of whack and left behind whole portions of the population on both sides of the Atlantic. Women, it may come as no surprise, have fared worse than average. The poor are getting poorer and the majority of poor in the U.S. and around the globe are women. They are the last to get hired and earn substantially less than their male counterparts.

I am not going to pretend that I don't think women should have seats of power. I am not going to play nice and say it doesn't matter. I am not going to quietly and apathetically marginalize my own gender by politely acknowledging that men are wonderful and capable of handling world affairs without us. Yes, many men are wonderful and ladies what would we do without them? But what we would do with them as co-creators of the world is the real issue.

The first and critical question is: What would men do without women? I'll start by answering that from my home turf in the U.S.

In the last twelve years since the end of the 20th century and the birth of the new, America has started two wars that have cost millions of people their lives and changed the world order permanently. We have given birth to a devastating global financial crisis that has plunged millions of innocents into starvation, joblessness and homelessness. The wars and the economic collapse have resulted in international chaos and unrest and launched movements of desperation like the 99 and 1 percent. All of these disastrous events occurred under male leadership-- without the help or input of women. Gentlemen, you have done such damage to the world we share, why you continue on that path and do not see the wisdom of incorporating women into top leadership positions is beyond logic. Yet women continue to be disenfranchised.

So enough. Enough of testosterone-fueled aggression whether it is the violence of economic greed or the guns of bloody wars. It is time for western civilization to enter the enlightened age. Women are the key to a more sustainable world in the new millennium.

Why are women the key to changing the world for the better? Because very simply: we are the life-givers, not the life-destroyers. It is in our DNA to create and nurture life, not desecrate it. Yet somehow, despite the fact that we carry, create and protect life, women are raped, murdered, mutilated, marginalized and humiliated every second of every day somewhere in our world. The issue becomes which kind of world do we want to carry forward -- one that destroys life or one that creates it? If the choice is the latter, then the inclusion of women is essential.

In my work at the United Nations over the past several years, I had the honor and privilege of knowing one of the great men in this world and a true champion of women: Ambassador Anwarul Chowdhury. As President of the Security Council in 2000, the Ambassador introduced Resolution 1325 which endorsed urgently needed economic and educational opportunities for women. The resolution was the result of his experience as a diplomatic leader in Bangladesh where women were routinely violated physically and materially. His work has greatly advanced the plight of rural women around the globe.

Yet our work in this decade necessitates more than helping women. In very direct ways, the world desperately needs women to help it. We need every bit of TLC for people and our planet we can muster. For women, this is second nature. Strength is no longer measured in an enlightened world by brute force. True courage can be seen in the stoic stamina, tolerance, patience and big-picture vision of women.

Something Ambassador Chowdhury once said stuck in my mind. He explained that at UN mediations to resolve global conflicts, the men at the table invariably wanted to know, "What's in it for me?" They would ask how the solution would affect them personally in power and privilege before giving their consent. Women, according to the Ambassador, were more concerned with what kind of world they were leaving for their children.

The stark difference in thinking jolted me and I realized this was true. Women naturally think in terms of creation and cooperation, not domination and aggression. These qualities, however, are a double-edged sword. In one way, this is precisely the reason we have been held back. In many ways, we have held ourselves back. We have not fought tough enough or hard enough to say: This is our world too; you don't have the right to destroy it for me or my children.

In this century of women, we -- the feminine gender -- and the men who see us as friend, not foe, need to pool our resources, money, votes and support and put these behind women in leadership roles. Only with the direction and input of women can we build a more sustainable world based on mutual cooperation and constructive solutions.

We are proud of the women on the world stage handling the complex chaos around them with grace, brilliance and courage: the Hillary Clintons, Christine Lagardes, Angela Merkels and Ellen Johnson Sirleafs. But they can't do it alone. They need our help -- every one of us, male and female.

Hillary Clinton said of empowering women, "It's not just the right thing to do; it's the smart thing to do." Jackie VanderBrug explains why: "Gender diversity [in companies, on corporate boards and in leadership roles] works for all of us. It allows you to see things that you would not otherwise see."

The time to step up, step out and make our voices heard is now. Not a moment should be lost, because without our help and the feminine sense of balance and wisdom we naturally bring to problem solving, the world is a sad and sorry place. Our only hope for a better future lies in the power, appreciation and inclusion of women.


Monika Mitchell is the CEO of "Good-b," New York's award-winning CSR and sustainable business news journal and the co-author of a ground-breaking new book, "Conversations with Wall Street: The Inside Story of the Financial Armageddon and How to Prevent the Next One."

 
 
 

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Last week, I found myself on Manhattan's West Side in an exquisitely decorated loft owned by Winds of Change philanthropist Shamaya Gilo. Sixty powerhouse women were gathered together for wine and che...
Last week, I found myself on Manhattan's West Side in an exquisitely decorated loft owned by Winds of Change philanthropist Shamaya Gilo. Sixty powerhouse women were gathered together for wine and che...
 
 
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livefortruth
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09:17 AM on 02/25/2012
"In very direct ways, the world desperately needs women to help it. We need every bit of TLC for people and our planet we can muster. For women, this is second nature. Strength is no longer measured in an enlightened world by brute force. True courage can be seen in the stoic stamina, tolerance, patience and big-picture vision of women."

That's not so hard to swallow is it?
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IslamicPacifist
Her body- Her choice- Her problem.
02:35 PM on 02/23/2012
Also consider that there have never been a matriarchy that has ever advanced past mud huts. And pretty much all of the western civilization has been on a free-fall as soon as we removed all restrictions from women voting.
This is because women are economic net negatives as a class. They're resource hogs who don't produce much of anything. They make poor leaders because they only think about what the group can do for them instead of what they can do for the group. They make poor leaders because no one respects those who don't earn their position
12:12 PM on 02/24/2012
Wow, it's kind of hard to gauge, but this may just be the most misogynist post I've ever seen on the HP.

"And pretty much all of the western civilization has been on a free-fall as soon as we removed all restrictions from women voting."

Let's see you back that one up, buddy. Western civilization has been in free fall since 1920? Yes, because we here in the feminist West are the ones living backwards lives of ignorance - not like all those Saudi Arabian masses who are sitting at the top of the cultural heap, out there where they keep women in their place like cows. LOL.

That must be why the feminist cultures of Scandinavia have the highest standard of living AND the highest quality of life. It's incredible to see how misogyny warps the minds of its most desperate adherents.
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IslamicPacifist
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03:32 PM on 02/24/2012
"this may just be the most misogynist post I've ever seen on the HP"
It's not. but if so, "SO WHAT?"

"Let's see you back that one up, buddy."
You're not going to read anything that I post that proves me right, so I'm not going to bother. If you cared, you would seek out the information yourself.
But I will go as far as to say: "look at all of the social programs that women have voted for themself, and look at all of the (lack of) social programs for men, and lastly, look at our national debt.
Compare and contrast.

"not like all those Saudi Arabian masses who are sitting at the top of the cultural heap, out there where they keep women in their place like cows"

What do Saudi Arabians have to do with anything? Is this your attempt at racism? or some kind of insult on religion? If so, you fail because I'm black. Also...I'm American, and I'm atheist
But thanks for playing...
11:26 AM on 02/23/2012
Woman good, man bad.
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07:54 AM on 02/23/2012
Any thinking person sees the need for our society to assure equal opportunities for women, and men. Monika Mitchell goes way over the top, however, when she claims that the recent wars and economic collapse “occurred under male leadership-- without the help or input of women." What?

We live in a DEMOCRACY in which the majority of voters are women. In the Clinton-Bush-Obama years, many members of Congress were/are women, and a woman has served as Speaker of the House and serves as Minority Leader. A woman was been nominated for Vice President.

Another woman launched a viable presidential candidate, claiming qualification in part based on her experience and INFLUENCE as First Lady in her husband's presidency, which included free trade agreements, repeal of Glass Steagall and welfare reform that contributed directly to the current economic collapse. She claimed to have great influence as a Senator, including votes for wars in Afghanistan and Iraq.

Three of the last four U.S. Secretaries of State have been women, ALL supporters and leaders in use of aggressive military force and WAR. Her fans attribute great influence to our current SoS, who has been the leading advocate for escalation in Afghanistan, expansion of profiteering "defense" contracts, and violent regime change.

It seems Ms. Mitchell wants women to have disproportionate credit for good decisions, and claim no responsibility, “help or input” when decisions are bad. It is certainly harsh commentary on the effectiveness of women as current leaders.
11:55 AM on 02/23/2012
She is demanding that women be appointed to positions of power, instead of earning it, wanting all the privileges without the responsibilities. The real reason so few women hold these positions is they don't want to make the sacrifices it takes to get there. As for women being the givers of life, she fails to mention that women also destroy life to the tune of more than a million each year in the united states alone. When you look at it that way, they don't seems to gentle and caring.
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IslamicPacifist
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05:47 AM on 02/23/2012
Sigh~
Yes...throughout history, it has always been men fighting in wars...For the protections, and provision of women and children...

Only a feminist would look at the history of men fighting and dying for women and frame it as "OMG MEN ARE IMMORAL, VIOLENT KILLERS!"
09:35 AM on 02/23/2012
That is a fallacy. Men fight and die in wars for many reasons - for country, for treasure, for adventure, or because they're forced to do it by a government (the most common reason nowadays). They don't fight for women and children. They may think of their families while they're away from them, but they are not fighting FOR women. And they never have.
Morrisfactor
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01:10 PM on 02/23/2012
GG-

"They don't fight for women and children."

A breathtakingly stupid comment. Throughout history, men have died defending their families. For every invader who sacks a city or steals a country, there have been men opposing who tried to protect their families.

You claim to have two sons. With a comment like yours above, you devalue them.
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IslamicPacifist
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05:32 AM on 02/23/2012
"The question we are asking is why are women deliberately kept out of key roles in world affairs and what can we do to change that?"

The question you should be asking is "Why are we blaming our own inadequacies on someone else?"
03:01 AM on 02/23/2012
Wow this piece is so loaded down with sexist tropes it would take forever to tackle each one. Good thing the other guy's got here first. You see us men are capable of cooperation and instead of testosterone fueled aggression we prefer a sensible well reasoned debate. This article was not that. It was female chauvinism fueled by some women's pride in her gender. Sadly she relies on sexist stereotypes about men and women to make her points making them illegitimate for the purposes of equality.

Leadership by women will not end all wars. It will not end equity bubbles or over leveraged banks. Women doing what men do end up playing whatever game the men were playing. When women play tennis the sport does not become less aggressive. When women box they don't avoid hitting each other in the face. It's the game that makes you aggressive not your gender. I am all for equality because I would not want to see any talent being sidelined but it's not because women are some how better than men.
02:02 AM on 02/23/2012
i will say this though, reading the comments below, it's interesting to note that some if not all of you are harshly criticizing the author for promoting a more aggressive agenda for women--when men really don't do as much, or at all, for women as they promised or care to. there are men in positions fo power who don't hire or promote women within their ranks, even if they're just as qualified, experienced or as accomplished as the men who are hired or promoted. there are men in positions of influence that do nothing for any woman except seek to restrict her rights, decrease her status and marginalize, if not deny, her accomplishments. and those men DO exist and are many, many more than the men you work with everyday who cannot deny the skill, leadership ability, worth, expertise, experience and capability of women.

so is this article a bit sexist? yes, but its no more than what men have been doing for centuries to women and not even to the same degree as they have. she does not even try and make this a platform to promote the idea of seperating compeltely from the men, as some radical feminists have said we should do. she simply promotes a more financially-backed, aggressive agenda for including and empowering women in the workforce and in positions of power and leadership.
Morrisfactor
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04:14 AM on 02/23/2012
Michelle-

The author seems uninformed of the advances of women in business.

I suggest that you watch a short video by hosted by Hanna Rosin speaking at the TED conference in which she illustrates how well women are doing.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ZymFMmpOa0

Or just Google: Hanna Rosin Speaks at the TED

It's very informative and well worth listening to.
02:01 AM on 02/23/2012
it's true that women need to be more aggressive when it comes to demanding more rights and putting fiscal power behind women-centred inititatives and female (or female-identified) entrepeaneurs is a good idea, not to mention more female candidates or male candidates with a stronger support for women's rights in general and reproductive rights, specifically--but, even though its true that men have been in positions of power and leadership, and that under their leadership with few women in the same roles or in any such roles at all, it is wrong to place the blame of some (or most men in those positions of power or with the ability to change/support women) on ALL men.
01:44 PM on 02/23/2012
Women need to demand more rights? Precisely, what rights would those be? Seriously, what rights do men get that women don't? If anything, women have more rights than men. Both get to vote, but only men are required to register for selective service.
09:23 PM on 02/28/2012
perhaps it would be easier to see my point of view if i replaced the word 'rights' with 'privileges'?

let me rephrase my comment, women technically have (most of the) same rights as men but the difference in theory and practice is visible; how many women (in comparison to men) are in positions of power, influence or wealth? how many are leaders in the business, political and scientific community? communities that have been, traditionally, male-oriented and still dominated by men in general. how many have been honored, acknowledged or revered for thier accomplishments, abilities or skills? and im sure we can both come up with many more, "how many women...?" but let's move on, shall we?

"women have more rights than men"? right. if that's true, then would you willingly spend a day as a woman? if such a thing were possible and you made that choice, and at the end of that day (and night) were able to truthfully say that being a woman and being treated like a woman, that your statement still held true...then my opinion would be invalid.

as for my thoughts on selective service, that's a government policy not a societal one, so any complaints or concerns you have about it should be directed toward the government. i do believe, however, that it's not necessary nor 'right' to force men to register...were it up to me, i would abolish the policy.
Morrisfactor
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12:18 AM on 02/23/2012
"All of these disastrous events occurred under male leadership-- without the help or input of women."

I believe women cast 54% of the votes in the last couple of presidential elections, therefore, wouldn't you say they had a lot of input? It was married women who overwhelming voted for George (Don't change horses in mid-stream) Bush during his reelection and put him over the top.

"Gentlemen, you have done such damage to the world we share, why you continue on that path and do not see the wisdom of incorporating women into top leadership positions is beyond logic."

Wait a minute, Haven't our last two secretary of states been women? Isn't that a pretty major leadership position? And they both seemed to be just as warlike as any men.

And don't overlook power by proxy. Certainly Bidden/Obama are just as beholden to females (and just as pandering to them) as any female president. I can't imagine any female president being more "female friendly" than our current leaders. You don't necessarily need a women to be president if the males do feminist bidding.
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07:59 AM on 02/23/2012
I posted above before I saw your comment, which makes important points much better than I did. Applause.
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MissTake1989
Equal means equal, hypocrites.
10:30 PM on 02/22/2012
"In the last twelve years since the end of the 20th century and the birth of the new, America has started two wars that have cost millions of people their lives and changed the world order permanently. We have given birth to a devastating global financial crisis that has plunged millions of innocents into starvation, joblessness and homelessness. The wars and the economic collapse have resulted in international chaos and unrest and launched movements of desperation like the 99 and 1 percent. All of these disastrous events occurred under male leadership-- without the help or input of women."

Actually, Condi Rice was the NSA who pushed for war. Hillary Clinton was one of the many woman who both voted for and pushed for the war in Congress. Angela Merkel was one of our key allies in starting those wars.

Are they men now?
09:14 PM on 02/22/2012
The whole system is way out of balance. Way too much testosterone and not enough estrogen. Our corporations, financial institutions and government. This is true for business, finance and our government. If we had a more evenly distributed mix of male and female decision makers we would not be in the mess (and that is putting it mildly) that we are in now.
09:54 PM on 02/22/2012
Actually estrogen increases violence.
09:37 AM on 02/23/2012
Source that claim please.
11:25 AM on 02/23/2012
Hmm, you do realize that both testosterone and estrogen are shared by both men and women, and that they are simply molecules, not socio-political statements?
08:32 PM on 02/22/2012
It is true females do think more in terms of creation and cooperation,while males think more in terms of domination and aggression.The worlds societies are a complete mess because we have allowed such physically negative behavior of men to perpetuate itself into being the "norm"...when its actually not normal to beat the crap out of someone,rape them or kill them simply because they are not doing what you want them to.I am seeing a surge in mens hate and violent behavior towards women and i dont get it.I guess its because we have something they dont,the ability to create life and have it be the center of our being.Men will never have that and for them that means becoming secondary and i guess that fuels their insecurities and perpetuates the lame excuse for all the bad things they choose to do to women and girls.Personally i have never wanted to be a guy.I always knew in my heart that being a female was something special.Just knowing what my gender is capable of makes me so very proud.And whether the male of our species likes it or not,they are not the chosen ones.They are not the center of Gods universe.Thats a fake title they gave themselves...and it will always only be just that,fake!
Morrisfactor
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02:42 AM on 02/23/2012
Kriss999-

"I am seeing a surge in mens hate and violent behavior towards women and i dont get it."

Sorry if you notice this in your own small circle of friends. According to FBI nationwide stats, violence/rape against women (and the crime rate in general) has dropped for nearly two straight decades. But you would be correct if you think the media stirs the pot and they do it because negative news sells and increases readership.

In sixty years on planet earth, and having met hundreds and hundreds of men, I've never known them to think as you state: "its because we have something they dont,the ability to create life and have it be the center of our being.Men will never have that and for them that means becoming secondary and i guess that fuels their insecurities and perpetuates the lame excuse for all the bad things they choose to do to women and girls."

Believe it or not, the vast majority of men protect and help women. You are letting the bad 5% of people (both male and female) put fear into your heart.
03:29 AM on 02/23/2012
Sexism breeds sexism. Your sexist perspective on women for example could cause people to conclude female leaders would be too soft. Your sexist interpretation of men could cause people to assume men are superior soldiers and military leaders. Men and women need to be judged as INDIVIDUALS. That is what not being biased is all about. If you want to use bias to justify pushing one into a position and another one out, then you are being sexist.

For the record men have always avoided violence against women, that's why a tribe or nations warriors almost always consisted of only it's men. Women were to be fought over and not to be fought. Women who only want to protect women from violence lack empathy for male victims of violence. They are interested in getting what they want from men but care little for what happens to men. We can't build a society based on the whims of self centered, self serving individuals like this. We need to be lead by people who care about everybody.
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MissTake1989
Equal means equal, hypocrites.
07:53 PM on 02/22/2012
Congrats.

This is the absolute most sexist tripe I have ever read here. EVER. That's a stunning achievement.

"All of these disastrous events occurred under male leadership-- without the help or input of women. Gentlemen, you have done such damage to the world we share, why you continue on that path..."

All men are not responsible for the actions of some men. Stating otherwise is a sexist generalization.

"Why are women the key to changing the world for the better? Because very simply: we are the life-givers, not the life-destroyers. It is in our DNA to create and nurture life, not desecrate it."

Yes, Susan Smith, Casey Anthony and Andrea Yates are fine examples, right?