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Monique Honaman
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Part auto-biography/part self-help, Monique’s first book, “The High Road Has Less Traffic: honest advice on the path through love and divorce,” (2010) shared her personal journey through divorce. The second book in the series, “The High Road Has Less Traffic ...
and a better view” (2013) is all about providing perspectives.

She is not a divorce attorney, nor a clinical psychologist, or a marriage therapist ... just a regular person like you — having experienced the complexities of love, marriage, divorce, parenting, dating, remarriage, and everything in between. Her goal is to share perspectives from life along the way that are inspiring, motivating, and thought-provoking ... and, of course, at times witty, sarcastic, and challenging. In the spirit of giving back, a portion of proceeds from speaking engagements and book sales are donated to organizations that help families transition through divorce.

Monique is also a partner in ISHR Group which provides global solutions in the area of leadership assessment, development and coaching. She started her career with GM, and later joined GE. She earned certification as a Six Sigma Quality Black Belt, and is a certified practitioner of the Herrmann Brain Dominance Instrument (HBDI) and the Birkman Profile.

Monique received her B.A. from the University of Michigan, a Masters of Labor and Industrial Relations from Michigan State University, and a Juris Doctorate from Albany Law School. In 2007, Monique was profiled by the Atlanta Business Chronicle as one of the “40-Under-40” and named one of the “Enterprising Women of the Year” by Enterprising Women Magazine. She was named a “2011 Women Business Enterprise (WBE) Star” by the Women’s Business Enterprise National Council (WBENC), and a 2012 POW! Winner by Womenetics. She is a member of the Women Presidents Organization (WPO), the Zoo Atlanta Leadership Council, and the Emerge Leadership Council. Her articles have appeared in Enterprising Women, Shape, and Focus on the Family. She is a regular contributor to The Huffington Post, HopeAfterDivorce.com, eHarmony.com, FamilyShare.com, and DivorcedMoms.com, and recently appeared on NBC’s Today Show.

Monique lives in Atlanta, Georgia, with her husband, Justin, and her two children. In her free time, she enjoys being outside, traveling, boating, reading books and taking photographs.

For more information, please contact:

Monique A. Honaman
Monique@HighRoadLessTraffic.com
www.HighRoadLessTraffic.com

Entries by Monique Honaman

Having fun with my EX- ... !

(2) Comments | Posted April 6, 2016 | 6:37 PM

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I recall speaking to a divorce support group a few years ago. Whenever someone referenced their EX- (e.g., EX-husband or EX-wife), each person was careful to use the phrase, "my former husband" or "my former wife." This wasn't just something that one person...

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Hook, Line & Sinker!

(0) Comments | Posted March 29, 2016 | 12:57 PM

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"The charm of fishing is that it is the pursuit of what is elusive but attainable, a perpetual series of occasions for hope." ~ John Buchan

Back in February, I spoke with a friend who told me that she was struggling with the...

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I Didn't Marry My Best Friend

(2) Comments | Posted March 29, 2016 | 9:54 AM

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"Reminder: your girlfriends will probably outlive your husband. So find good ones."

My sides still hurt from laughing so hard! I just returned from spending a long weekend with five friends I have known since elementary and middle school. The...

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A Compelling Reason to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone!

(1) Comments | Posted March 11, 2016 | 10:22 AM

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My heart is racing. The adrenalin is flowing. I'm trying to act brave, but inside I'm a bundle of nervous energy. "Just lean back into the crevice and let go," he says. I conceptually understand that I am in my safety harness...
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Is Anyone Out There Having Sex?

(0) Comments | Posted September 16, 2015 | 9:50 PM

Sex is as important as eating or drinking and we ought to allow the one appetite to be satisfied with as little restraint or false modesty as the other. Marquis de Sade

I find that I speak with many men and women about the state of their relationships. Friends, acquaintances,...

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Don't Worry... I Was Only Looking!

(1) Comments | Posted September 9, 2015 | 7:44 AM

"Cheating doesn't mean you have to kiss, or meet or have sex with someone else... Once you find yourself deleting messages or hiding your internet activity so your partner will not see it, then you are already there."

I was in the bed the other night, surfing the web, and,...

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iCaught on iCloud

(0) Comments | Posted February 9, 2015 | 11:49 AM

"In the South, there was a gentle tradition of 'it's only a crime if you get caught doing it.' Sometimes it was known as the Eleventh Commandment. Thou shall not get caught." ~ C.L. Bevill, Bubba and the Dead Woman

My, we love our technology. It makes life so much...

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I'm a Certified Pre-Owned Spouse!

(0) Comments | Posted July 23, 2014 | 5:40 PM

"When buying a used car, punch the buttons on the radio. If all the stations are rock n' roll, there's a good chance the transmission is shot!" -- Larry Lujack

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I just completed the grueling process of buying a used car. It was...

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How Dare You Bring My Kids Into This!

(1) Comments | Posted July 10, 2014 | 6:00 PM

"Never lie to someone who trusts you. Never trust someone who lies to you."

I ran into an acquaintance the other day. Last time I saw her, nearly 10 months ago, she was bursting at the seams with joy. After surviving an ugly divorce, and slugging through...

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I'm Done Being a Parasite!

(0) Comments | Posted May 8, 2014 | 11:00 AM

ap·pre·ci·a·tion (from Dictionary.com)
noun
1. The recognition and enjoyment of the good qualities of someone or something.
Synonyms: valuing, treasuring, admiration, respect, regard, esteem
2. Gratitude for something.
Synonyms: gratitude, thanks, gratefulness, thankfulness, recognition,

Appreciation. This word keeps smacking me in the face....

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How to Lose a Woman in 90 Minutes

(9) Comments | Posted May 5, 2014 | 2:13 PM

How do you lose a woman in 90 minutes?

When I was dating my husband, I recall telling him (and this was before he met my children), "I am falling in love with you, but if my kids don't like you, we're going to have a problem." Harsh? Yes....

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When Group Fun Covers Up Marital Loneliness

(2) Comments | Posted March 31, 2014 | 11:58 AM

"The most comfortable prison is still a lonely place." Kenneth Kolb

"Should we go out to dinner and go dancing with the gang, or stay in, cook-out and watch a movie together?"

"Should we invite our neighborhood social group to join us on a hike, or should we disappear...

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No Kids! High Five!

(1) Comments | Posted February 19, 2014 | 10:01 AM

"No kids tonight ... Is it wrong that we high-fived in the kitchen this morning?" - Facebook post

"Absolutely not," I wanted to scream at my laptop, "Enjoy your night - just the two of you -- alone! No guilt!"

An old friend (one of those people that you knew...

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Retaliation Nation

(0) Comments | Posted February 11, 2014 | 10:50 AM

"Without forgiveness life is governed by ... an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation." ~ Robert Assagioli

In the agony, angst and anger of divorce, we often retaliate against our former spouses to the detriment of our own children. Makes no sense. Shouldn't the responsibility and honor of parenting come...

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Fine Is a Four-letter Word That Begins With "F"

(1) Comments | Posted January 24, 2014 | 2:35 PM

"They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself." -- Andy Warhol

We are a few weeks past the New Year! How are you doing on your resolutions? C'mon, be honest! We typically vow to "change" something, and have all good intentions, but change is...

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Oh, the Hypocrisy! "Don't Tell Them I Did That!"

(2) Comments | Posted December 6, 2013 | 9:26 AM

"The way to gain a good reputation is to endeavor to be what you desire to appear." - Socrates

I spoke with a woman on the phone the other day who confided in me that she is getting a divorce. After years of putting up with her husband's many...

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(Don't) Call Me Mommy!

(5) Comments | Posted August 26, 2013 | 3:52 PM

When last summer's hit song "Call Me Maybe" (Carly Rae Jepsen) came out, I would break into my own freelance version and start singing "Call Me Mommy" every time we heard it on the radio. I could improv the lines to talk about doing laundry, driving carpool, helping with homework,...

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She's How Old? Do Age Differences Really Matter?

(3) Comments | Posted July 31, 2013 | 5:06 PM

"Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter." ~ Mark Twain

My kids make faces and say, "That's so gross!" when I tell them that I was in college when my husband, their step-dad, was in middle school. We get a good laugh...

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No High Road in this Parking Lot! What Would You Have Done?

(1) Comments | Posted July 10, 2013 | 12:07 PM

My mantra is all about taking the high road, although I usually write about taking the high road as it relates to love, marriage, divorce and everything in between. But, as we all know, the high road is applicable to all other aspects of our life as well. The high...

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Staying on the High Road When the Low Road Is Calling

(5) Comments | Posted June 6, 2013 | 4:39 PM

'The high road has less traffic' is a life philosophy that says you maintain your moral compass, your personal code of ethics, and your values, at all times. Taking the high road means you are able to look yourself in the mirror and be proud of how you acted, or...

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