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A Great Excuse to Have a Party (a Profile-Writing Party, That Is!)

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"Dating is a numbers game, and online dating has the best odds." -- Judsen Culbreth, The Boomer's Guide to Online Dating

One of my dear friends told me the other night that she is finally "giving in" and joining the on-line dating revolution. She told me she thinks, "it's finally time" to see what's out there, although she is "leery" of what she might find. I laughed! She is making it sound just miserable. She shared this announcement with as much enthusiasm as a woman who says she has just scheduled her mammogram and annual visit to the gynecologist for the same day.

I am excited for her. I know several people who have met amazing partners through online dating and can count more than a handful of couples who are now married after meeting online. Why not take advantage of technology? We use match services and networking sites to find everything these days -- employees, employers, nannies, contractors, hair stylists, dog groomers and everything in between. Why shouldn't we use online dating to find some great dates, potential partners, and future spouses (if things go well!)?

After announcing her intention to join the online dating revolution (let's be real ... this isn't a revolution: Internet dating has been around for a while!), our conversation quickly turned to what in the world she was going to write for her profile.

She was grappling with what I think so many online daters grapple with: Just how do you take your life, your personality, your passions, your interests, your fears, your habits, your pet peeves, your dreams, your hopes, and your goals, and string all of that into a series of words, written in black and white, that will hopefully be intriguing enough to someone else to have them reach out to you to learn more? Perhaps even more importantly in the world of online dating, she wondered what pictures she should!

My friend is very humble. She's beautiful inside and out. She has a great job. A great family. A great faith. She's athletic, kind, empathetic. She has a heart of gold. She's fun and funny. She loves college football. She is independent. Oh great ... now this is starting to sound like the start of a tacky dating profile for her.

And that leads to what we have planned!

As she asked me what she should write in her profile, we decided it would be fun to have a profile-writing party for her! We decided we would invite a few friends over (add another friend named Kendall-Jackson) and put pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard) to create what we hope will be the perfect profile for her. After all, who better to provide some "insight to the world" on who she is than her friends. Who better to help her find the right words to navigate that balance between being "too arrogant and too boring" than her friends? Who better to help her walk that tightrope between "too much, too little and just right" than her friends?

As I already mentioned, we know there are many success stories that come from online dating. We also know there are plenty of creepy stories that come from online dating. Our goal is to increase the odds of meeting a few good men (I guess in theory it only takes one!), and do all we can to screen out the creepers (although I hear that is inevitable).

As we finished planning our little profile party, I smiled as I stole a line from Jerry Seinfeld. I told her, "What is a date, really, but a job interview that lasts all night?" (I modified it to say, "that lasts though lunch or dinner!"). I told her to have fun with it ... and I know that we are going to have fun at our profile-writing party!

Our party is planned for three weeks from now (it's hard getting everyone's schedule synced!). That's where you come in. I know many of you have used online dating and here's my question for you: What has worked? What hasn't? Any clichés we should avoid? Thanks!