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Nancy Wurtzel
Nancy Wurtzel blogs at Dating Dementia ( about her life journey as she makes big changes at midlife. Read her slightly twisted and often funny take on marriage, divorce, parenting, baby boomer issues, careers, relationships, moving back to her rural hometown and caring for an aging parent with dementia.

Entries by Nancy Wurtzel

The 4 Lessons Of Festivus

(2) Comments | Posted December 23, 2014 | 8:14 AM

What modern holiday made its debut on a popular television show in the late 1990s? Seinfeld devotees know the answer. Festivus!

Today, Festivians around the globe commonly mark the holiday on December 23. The celebration comes with a catchy tagline, "Festivus for the rest of us," and little else. Yes,...

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Grandchildren? This Baby Boomer says, 'No, Thank You.'

(383) Comments | Posted September 6, 2014 | 8:11 AM

Sunday, Sept. 7 is National Grandparents Day. I thought about this day of recognition when my best friend told me she and her husband will soon have another grandchild, their sixth. My friend is excited, and she can't wait to learn if it is boy or girl and...

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Bloggers Beware: Think Before You Post Images Online

(0) Comments | Posted February 19, 2014 | 3:08 PM

Last November, I wrote a post about my mother's final days on this earth. Mom had battled Alzheimer's for more than eight years, and her sad, drawn-out journey was almost at an end.

The image I chose for my post was a beautiful Tree of Life creation, which fit perfectly...

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Caring for My Mom in the Latter Stages of Alzheimer's Disease

(0) Comments | Posted November 21, 2013 | 3:06 PM

My 92-year-old mother is in the final stages of Alzheimer's disease. Last week, when my sister and I brought Mummy, as we call her, to live in my home, she was still able to walk with the aid of a walker, say a few words, eat and experience some basic...

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Do You Remember Your First Day of School?

(1) Comments | Posted September 3, 2013 | 3:23 PM

Do you remember your very first day of school? I recall having mixed feelings about starting Kindergarten in 1960 and I can recall the day quite clearly. Here's my story.

Situated in the center of our small town, the old brick building had creaky wooden floors, wide staircases and high,...

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Dear God, Please Help My Mother Die

(12) Comments | Posted August 1, 2013 | 12:49 PM

I am not a religious person. I'm not even sure I believe in a higher power, let alone one true God. Even so, for the past several years I often find myself praying.

When I do pray, it is always about my mother who has Alzheimer's disease.

My prayers are...

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Helen Thomas Paved the Way for Women Journalists

(9) Comments | Posted July 21, 2013 | 1:28 PM

She was a fixture. She sat in the center seat of the front row. She usually asked the first question and then closed the press conference with the simple phrase, "Thank you, Mr. President."

Indeed, presidents showed Helen Thomas, who died Friday at age 92, deference. Deference for the longevity...

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Bringing Comfort: Alzheimer's Sufferers And Baby Doll Therapy

(4) Comments | Posted June 11, 2013 | 8:42 AM

Those of us who are Alzheimer's caregivers are used to seeing our loved one's abilities ebb away. My mom -- whom we often call Mummy -- was once a highly social person who always had to stay busy. Cooking and baking were her passions, and so were endless games of...

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My Droid Is Dead, Long Live the iPhone

(1) Comments | Posted April 4, 2013 | 6:41 PM

Sometimes I procrastinate. Always I regret it. Take my cell phone, for example. I knew it was time to upgrade my nearly three-year-old Droid, yet I kept putting it off.

I certainly desired the latest iPhone, but the thought of transferring all my data and then mastering a new device...

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My Divorce No Longer Defines Me

(32) Comments | Posted February 21, 2013 | 7:39 AM

I'm currently settling into life as a single person with a new home in a new city. I am also looking to make some new friends. Thanks to the Internet, it's now fairly easy to connect with people who have similar interests and also live nearby.

After doing a bit...

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What I Felt When I Watched Oprah Interview Lance Armstrong

(3) Comments | Posted January 19, 2013 | 12:32 AM

I felt nothing. That was my reaction to watching the much ballyhooed two-part Oprah Winfrey interview with Lance Armstrong. The big frenzy turned out to be a little fizzle.

Yes, Armstrong admitted to doing wrong, very wrong, and to doing it often.

He told how he systematically, over the course...

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My Quest for a Cool Nickname?

(2) Comments | Posted January 10, 2013 | 3:14 PM

I've always wanted a cool nickname. My parents chose "Nancy" because it was a fairly fashionable girls name in the 1950s. It was a safe choice. However, Nancy wasn't popular for very long. Today, hardly anyone picks Nancy for their newborn; it's a name forever stuck in the middle of...

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Seinfeld Remembered: Festivus, for the Rest of Us

(261) Comments | Posted December 23, 2012 | 6:27 AM

Happy Festivus!! Today is the most wonderful of holidays -- "Festivus, for the rest of us." If you are a Seinfeld devotee, then you probably mark this special December 23 celebration.

But do you know the story of how Festivus actually began?

Festivus was started innocently enough in the 1960s...

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Falling Off the Alzheimer's Cliff: Moving My Mother Into Assisted Living

(5) Comments | Posted December 7, 2012 | 11:12 AM

Deep down, we knew it would happen, but we didn't really have any other choice. It was just not safe for my mother to continue to live in her senior-living apartment. She needed more care, more activities, more everything.

My sister and I were exhausted and we'd reached that tipping...

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A Blogger's Nightmare

(5) Comments | Posted November 27, 2012 | 5:11 PM

Rarely do I remember my dreams, but when I do they usually make a big impression.

A few nights ago, I had one of those exhausting dreams that went on and on with no good resolution. You know the type: The school bus is waiting and you can't find your...

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Caregiving: Not Just for Women Anymore

(2) Comments | Posted October 17, 2012 | 8:09 PM

When I conjure an image of a caregiver, I picture a woman. I know I'm being sexist but I always think of a female. Why?

First, I don't personally know many male caregivers. In fact, I can only think of one or two. Also, in my family, the women did...

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Taking Care of Someone With Alzheimer's Can Take its Toll

(1) Comments | Posted September 12, 2012 | 6:38 PM

Evelyn, one of my dad's older sisters, was truly a world-class complainer. Long before I was born, someone in the family bestowed on her the unlikely nickname, "Auntie Honey," and somehow the name stuck.

Growing up, I remember Auntie Honey harping constantly about almost everything. Her most bitter comments were...

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Helen Gurley Brown, I'll Miss You

(3) Comments | Posted August 14, 2012 | 2:56 PM

As a kid growing up in rural Minnesota, I remember watching Helen Gurley Brown on "The Tonight Show." An insomniac, I'd probably tossed and turned for a long time before finally slipping out of bed and padding down the hall to find my mother sitting in our darkened living room....

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Hey Roger Ebert, I Saw Ted and I Want My Money Back

(56) Comments | Posted July 9, 2012 | 12:53 PM

Roger Ebert, I may sue you. Last night my sister, brother-in-law and I went to a movie based upon your recommendation and it was the worst. No, it was the worst of the worst. It was horrid.

Not only did I lose 45 minutes of my life (and, since I...

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Dementia: When the Book and Its Cover Don't Match

(1) Comments | Posted July 2, 2012 | 6:08 PM

Looks can be deceiving. Mary, a slight, sweet woman, moved into my mother's independent living home about six months ago. My mom can't remember her name and instead calls her "the little young gal."

Mary's actually 83, which makes her no spring chicken. However, she might indeed be considered young...

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