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True LGBTQ Stories: Growing Up Transgender in Mississippi: 'I've Been Put in Trash Cans' (VIDEO)

Posted: 01/30/2012 1:19 pm

I'm From Driftwood is a 501(c)(3) non-profit forum for true lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer stories. Earlier this year, founder and Executive Director Nathan Manske and two companions successfully completed a four-month, 50-state Story Tour collecting LGBTQ stories from towns and cities across the country. They're pulling some of the most relevant, important and sometimes just enjoyable stories from their archives and sharing them with HuffPost Gay Voices.

Krystal Summers, from Laurel, Miss., was once a little girl trapped in a little boy's body. From the time she was very young, she and those around her knew she was different:

I changed schools when I was in sixth grade. The first day of school, the teacher took the whole class to the bathroom, and you divide up and go to your respective bathrooms. I, of course, went into the boys' bathroom, and the teacher ran in behind me and told me, "Oh, you're in the wrong bathroom, you're in the wrong bathroom." And it was so embarrassing because all the kids were laughing at me.

The ridicule didn't stop there, even as Krystal grew older:

The kids used to make fun of me at the swimming pool because I didn't want to take my shirt off, and all the other little boys would take their shirts off and go swimming. When they would play basketball and they would pick teams, there would be shirts and skins, and I would not want to be on the skins team. And it was just little things like that, and I've been put in trash cans, I was shoved against my locker, the name calling, it's just something I'd never want to relive again.

Krystal grew up in a Southern Baptist family, so she was not optimistic about her family accepting her identity or her transition. She had to wait until she went to college, immediately after high school, in order to properly match her body to her gender:

My parents dropped me off at school at my first apartment, and I went and got my first caboodle, bought a bunch of makeup, and I would just sit around in dresses, and it was just a very happy time in my life.

From then on, Krystal rarely dressed up as a boy, except to see her parents. Once they did find out about Krystal's transition and her identity as a woman, they were not onboard at all. It took several years of not talking and a few more years of adjusting before they finally started coming around. In the meantime, Krystal started living her life as female full-time:

They're finally starting to accept me for who I am. And that is just cherry on top of the cake, you know? It's just awesome.

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I'm From Driftwood is a 501(c)(3) non-profit forum for true lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer stories. Earlier this year, founder and Executive Director Nathan Manske and two companions su...
I'm From Driftwood is a 501(c)(3) non-profit forum for true lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer stories. Earlier this year, founder and Executive Director Nathan Manske and two companions su...
 
 
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Christina-Xena
That little Voice in your Head...is mine.
06:58 PM on 02/06/2012
Summers, you looookkkk and sound marvelous!

Such a great story of overcoming a major childhood obstacle of an unaccepting family, mostly due to their ultra-conservative religious views, combined with being in a deeply southern state. The sad part is a missed-out-on girlhood, but the good part is she kept it sufficiently hidden till she went off to college. Then quicky transitioned and well blossomed into her feminine self.

I love her feminine spirit, her lack of anger and distain for her family.

And wish her continued success in her amble womanhood.
12:30 PM on 01/31/2012
Krystal Summers,, I to grew up in the Mississippi Delta back in the 1950's and can only imagine the hurt you were exposed to...Intolerant churches of which there are plenty,,especially in Mississippi should have come to your aid but OH,,NO lets continue the unfounded Hatred and keep on Bible Thumping,,,,,Teachers and others in authority(I'm sure there were some) should have shielded you and especially your parents but this meat-grinder made you what you are today.....All the best to you and hopefully your life will continue to get better..........................................Charles Belenchia
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09:08 AM on 01/31/2012
Sadly, I have the feeling that as Southern Baptists they have perfected the skill of being nice to her face but have a collective "freak out" when she leaves. Baptists have highly honed hypocrisy skills
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08:21 PM on 01/30/2012
move to MN we love everyone !!!!!!!!!!!!!
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01:15 AM on 01/31/2012
Especially tall women. MN is the only place I've ever felt short. (I'm 5'10)
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04:00 AM on 01/31/2012
Except in Bachmann's district.
v2787
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07:58 PM on 01/30/2012
As the product of a Southern Baptist upbringing myself, I can totally relate to Krystal's experiences as a trans child. (I'm now a recovering Southern Baptist who is grateful to have escaped from the clutches of that sad, sick pseudo-religious group. The Southern Baptist mindset is a twisted version of what Jesus taught. It's spiritually toxic, and I highly recommend that any self-respecting LGBT Southern Baptist leave that warped "Christian" sect as soon as you can. They will do nothing but despise and hurt you--all in the name of Jesus, of course. I'm here to tell you that living out the accepting, all-embracing love of Christ is not on their agenda.) I'm glad Krystal's family is starting to come around, but my guess is that they're never going to fully accept and be proud of their child as long as they remain Southern Baptists. I hope I'm wrong about that, but I know how Southern Baptists operate and so I have little hope that they'll see the light in any sort of lasting, meaningful way.
04:03 PM on 01/30/2012
"I have a dream that one day, even in the state of Mississippi, a desert state, sweltering in the heat of injustice and oppression, will be transformed into an oasis of freedom and justice." (Martin Luther King from his "I Have a Dream" speech, 28 August 1963) "Nuf" said.