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Nedda Alammar
Nedda Alammar is a humorist and essayist, and writes screenplays as well. She carries a BA in American History from Barnard College and an MFA in nonfiction writing from Sarah Lawrence College. She is currently working on her first novel.
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Entries by Nedda Alammar

Can You Pre-empt a Hate Crime?

(0) Comments | Posted June 27, 2014 | 3:52 PM

One week ago, a friend of mine walked across the street of her Manhattan apartment to a café she often goes to. As she entered, she noticed a gentle sable-colored leashed puppy attracting much attention. Everyone was petting that puppy. The owner, a handsome, well-groomed man in his late forties,...

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Muslim Women and the Bedroom Question

(2) Comments | Posted May 13, 2013 | 3:18 PM

I recently read a sterile article about sex called "What Muslim Really Want in the Bedroom." Given that I am a Muslim woman and have no idea what I want in the bedroom, a weakness I attribute to my Arab mentality of how shameful it would be to...

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Why Do We Say Yes, When We Really Mean No?

(1) Comments | Posted August 8, 2012 | 4:47 PM

I recently experienced one of those rare days when everything was going right for me; my job, my hair. A day I just knew that something good could happen, was supposed to happen. And I would be ready to embrace it. "But he's twenty-six," I said to my girlfriend the...

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What His Wedding Photos Taught Me About Our Breakup

(62) Comments | Posted July 17, 2012 | 11:09 AM

With curiosity that I deluded myself into thinking was harmless, I found out that an ex-boyfriend just got married. I immediately opened my emergency bottle of wine and called my best girl friend.

"Ew," she said.

"I know," I said. Gulp.

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Out with the Old, Out with the New

(62) Comments | Posted July 12, 2012 | 10:32 AM

I recently fooled myself into thinking I was going to a party "to catch up with friends," a bad habit that I thought I'd left in my 20s, along with midori sours and tight black pants.

When I was in college, the possibility of haphazardly running...

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Committed to Ourselves... or Just Committed?

(16) Comments | Posted July 5, 2012 | 7:00 AM

I recently met up with a girlfriend for drinks who had some news.

"I guess I'm... happy," she said quizzically, as if 'happy' was so foreign a word she wasn't sure if she was pronouncing it correctly.

But it was foreign. Because something...

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You Can't Be Gay; You're Arab

(3) Comments | Posted June 22, 2012 | 5:30 PM

A friend of mine accidentally came out to his parents on his birthday. I say "accidentally" because he wasn't planning on it -- not ever. He's Arab.

As if the birthday weren't already bad enough.

It was a birthday that only reminded him that he had just broken up...

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On Dating: New Rules for an Old Game

(140) Comments | Posted June 14, 2012 | 8:26 AM

A week after my 30-ish birthday, I met a guy I knew I should not date -- easy smile, warm eyes, sun-tanned skin, athletic build. Your basic nightmare.

I admired the cheeses he'd ordered; he admired how much I appreciated it. He asked me questions about...

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Who Will Help Syria? Or Must Syria Help Itself?

(4) Comments | Posted June 4, 2012 | 11:22 AM

The image of a wounded baby is the uprising in Syria. Videos and photos from the massacre in Houla last Friday flood the media. Families executed in their homes. Women and children shot at close range. On CNN's 360, Anderson Cooper pleaded with viewers not to change the channel from...

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A Cautionary Tale: When Your Boss Wants to Become Your Friend

(3) Comments | Posted May 22, 2012 | 6:22 PM

Today recently had a segment called "Should You Be Friends with Your Boss" addressed the question us lowly employees have pondered since the beginning of time. How much should our bosses really know about us? How much should we tell them? After all, the boss has the all the power....

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Will Press Become a Hot Mess?

(0) Comments | Posted May 7, 2012 | 10:34 AM

In 1993, the General Assembly of the United Nations declared May 3 as World Press Freedom Day, a day dedicated to the rights and protection of journalists. Although 1993 was not too long ago, it was during the down days of dial-up Internet. The days before Twitter, before Facebook, before...

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The Job Market: Stand Out or Put Out

(1) Comments | Posted May 1, 2012 | 9:04 AM

I recently bumped into my very fancy-looking, highly-educated, unemployed girl friend who was frustrated about being so fancy-looking and unemployed. Life has not treated her well, she said. "I went to an Ivy league school. I have a master's degree," she explained. "And," she paused, "I'm not 25. I cannot...

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On Syria: Does Might Need to Be Right?

(1) Comments | Posted March 15, 2012 | 3:01 PM

When rumors that former Secretary General to the United Nations Kofi Annan was to be the joint special envoy to Syria, the mood at the UN, where I intern, was very good. With Kofi Annan, the end to the horrible crisis in Syria was surely near. The...

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Love And Marriage: Are We Settling to Settle Down?

(24) Comments | Posted February 16, 2012 | 10:46 AM

As a woman who has made a career out of dating men beneath her, I can honestly say that when I read the NY Times Op-Ed this past Sunday in which Stephanie Coontz suggested to smart women everywhere the ticket to happily ever after could be pairing off...

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Iraq -- Too Much, Too Soon

(13) Comments | Posted December 27, 2011 | 7:18 AM

As the war in Iraq comes to a close, some of us Americans sigh in relief. Finally, it is over. But as an Iraqi-American, I am not quite sure what to make of this war.

While I cannot say that we have won (who did we beat?) -- or...

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Reality Bites

(4) Comments | Posted August 24, 2011 | 11:54 AM

Everyone wants to be famous. And anyone who denies this sweeping generalization may just be waiting for their opportunity. There are tons of them. Just the other day I was subjected to hearing a teenager yell to his friends, "Hey, that's how you become famous on YouTube!" These days, anyone...

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Can America Speak Muslim?

(2) Comments | Posted August 8, 2011 | 2:49 PM

I recently read an article in the NY Times that announced the simplest and not yet talked about solution to protecting the US against Muslim extremists. How this was possible, I did not know. No one ever strives for simplicity and everyone talks about everything to the...

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Bin Laden's Been Dead, Right?

(1) Comments | Posted August 2, 2011 | 12:44 PM

When Osama bin Laden was killed, I thought 'Wow. This is a big moment. The kind of moment that changes everything.' 'Maybe,' I thought, 'just maybe this will be the end of all of the fear. The profiling. The lines at airport security. After all, bin Laden was the...

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I'm Pretty. Should I Date Someone Ugly?

(0) Comments | Posted July 22, 2011 | 2:03 PM

I've always dated ugly guys. Mostly because they were so lucky to have me because I'm so pretty. Such benevolence in a person is hard to come by, but I had it. I did. Truthfully, I've always felt fulfilled, committed to my civic duty of allowing these offenses to...

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Not Another Immigrant Story

(1) Comments | Posted July 7, 2011 | 10:14 AM

In celebration of American Independence Day, I rolled out of bed, cracked open a Skinnygirl margarita, and proceeded to flip through the channels of network television.

I was in the mood for festive. Recipes for the tastiest potato salad, the danger of fireworks, how to make the...

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