I have a confession to make: I spent my 20s as one of the most insecure, unsure, conflicted people you could ever hope to meet. Looking back, I realize that the vast majority of the way my 20s played out was my own doing.
People like to idealize perfectionism. They convey it as an endearing quirk, a Woody Allen-esque neurosis. But here's the thing: Striving for excellence and setting unrealistic expectations for yourself are very different things.
We were untamed, raw and daring. We used words like f*ck and sh*t proudly and loudly at stupid boys and into thin air. We didn't worry about what others thought about us, because we were happy with who we are.
I never knew how much I was truly cared about or that I actually influence people's lives. Society has a tendency to see me as a broken individual, but with love, I've learned to shatter those lenses and begin to see myself as a source of love.
I no longer want a $500 leather jacket that will probably get beer spilled all over it at a party. My ideal Christmas list simply consists of one intangible item that certainly cannot fit in Santa's bag: future employment.
From one disheveled, stressed out twenty-something to another, you are not alone. Step back and enjoy this time of your life -- it may seem overwhelming, but these years fly by. Don't take any of these experiences for granted.
So what if some days you wake up and decide that you need to go vegetarian and then have a cheeseburger for dinner? So what if you have no clue what you want or what you're doing most days? Here's a little secret: no one really does.
I've always liked including myself in the 20-something category. Growing up, but not quite grown up. But it seems like the older I've gotten, the more aware I've become of my short-lived stay in the '20s' and the pressure to fit the mold of all of the rest of the twentyfivers.
The New York Times article, "What Is It About 20-Somethings" has missed the amazing success stories of so many in this generation, and the unprecedented levels of accomplishment and achievement of so many of its members.