Forgiveness is a gift to yourself. It frees you from the past, past experiences, and past relationships. It allows you to live in present time. When you forgive yourself and forgive others, you are indeed free.
My aunt is nearly 99. She will not live to be 100. Her photo will not be on the television recalling the date of her birth, with Willard Scott announcing she likes the opera and still volunteers. She will no longer volunteer. There will be no Today for her then.