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Redefining Success in Sobriety

Elisa Hallerman | Posted 04.28.2015 | Healthy Living
Elisa Hallerman

As the epidemic of addiction grows, it's imperative we do not "debunk" the spirituality of AA just to raise up the scientific community.

A Promised or Chosen Land?

Francis Levy | Posted 04.03.2015 | Arts
Francis Levy

The Exodus story is potent not only because it's a narrative of freedom from oppression, but because in microcosm it's about how human beings deal with freedom and negotiate the difficult life passages that occur once they receive the gift of choice.

They Are Not a Glum Lot

Cynthia Catania | Posted 04.01.2015 | Gay Voices
Cynthia Catania

Lesbians are like Al-Anon and gays are like AA. They are not a glum lot! They are fun and cheeky and beautiful (sometimes). They are clearly enjoying their lives or at least the parts they can actually control.

Impossible Goals and My Quest to Lose 175 Pounds

Don McNay | Posted 01.01.2015 | Business
Don McNay

Some people think aiming to lose 175 pounds is insane. For me, it is the only way to get there. When I've set "impossible" goals in a business setting, I've always made them. I get excited and motivated. Small goals don't interest me at all.

Hitting Rock Bottom and How The Walking Dead Kind of Saved My Life

TueNight | Posted 12.22.2014 | Healthy Living
TueNight

Some people tell me I should take that post down: What if someone finds it when they Google you? What if they see it while researching you for a job interview? All valid points. But I'm not taking it down. I need it there to remind me of where I was, of how close I was to killing myself, and to perhaps help someone else who might read it and resonate with it.

My AA Sponsee Died Of An Overdose

Substance.com | Posted 11.03.2014 | Healthy Living
Substance.com

Not everyone I reach out to will stay sober, and some might never come back. But the moment with Kelly's family at her wake renewed my determination to keep being there, as much as I can, for anyone who asks for my help.

American Airlines Adds Charge For Solo Teens

AP | Posted 08.22.2014 | Travel

FORT WORTH, Texas (AP) — American Airlines says it will charge a $150 fee each way for minors between 12 and 14 who fly alone. The change starts Se...

11 Warning Signs You May Have A Problem With Alcohol

Beth Leipholtz | Posted 10.13.2014 | Healthy Living
Beth Leipholtz

Probably the biggest tell-tale sign of the alcoholic is the inability to stop drinking once we have started. "One more, one more, one more" is always running through our minds.

I Dated an AA Newcomer

Anna David | Posted 10.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Anna David

"I'm hot and you're hot," the message read. "Plus I'm sober and you're sober." This was a missive that appeared in my MySpace message box back when referencing MySpace didn't make you feel old. And look, I knew it was an incredibly douche-y introduction.

Why Dating Sober Was Great for Me

Substance.com | Posted 09.24.2014 | Women
Substance.com

Mike wasn't the first guy to be put off by my drinking. In fact, I'd never been able to hold on to any guy for longer than a month or two.

On 'Coming Out' As An Alcoholic

Fran Moreland Johns | Posted 09.17.2014 | Women
Fran Moreland Johns

When describing myself list-wise, alcoholic would probably come after writer, wife, activist, mom etc; but I am still, and in a very public way, an alcoholic.

Let's Be Clear Who Has Caused the Border Crisis -- Us and Drugs

Stanton Peele | Posted 09.14.2014 | Politics
Stanton Peele

The massive influx of young refugees from Honduras and other Central American countries is due to the drug war, to the illegality of drugs, to the com...

I Loved AA: Here's Why I Left

Substance.com | Posted 08.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Substance.com

I respect and admire those who choose AA as their path. But I'm happily, for now, on the other side. Life after AA is indeed a mixed bag and I cannot handle it alone -- but I have learned how to find my own kind of fellowship.

5 Words I Found Myself Using in Weird Ways in Recovery

Anna David | Posted 07.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Anna David

Words take on certain new meanings when you get sober -- or at least I should say some words. Yes, you learn new ones -- those types of things you're never going to find in the Oxford English Dictionary or outside of recovery circles probably -- like normie, sponsee and step work. But there are also a slew of words you're probably going to learn to use in new ways.

10 Ways College Life Has Changed Since I Stopped Drinking

Beth Leipholtz | Posted 07.22.2014 | College
Beth Leipholtz

Because I am a college student and binge drinking is part of the culture, I think people assume that I didn't really have a drinking problem, that I wasn't an alcoholic, that I was overreacting to the situation. Hell, I was guilty of that thought process for a long time.

7 Reasons to Risk an Intervention

Heather Kopp | Posted 05.26.2014 | Healthy Living
Heather Kopp

Regardless of outcome, stepping in to urge treatment and set boundaries is a way of showing an addict just how far they've fallen at the same time that you're showing them how deeply you love them. Being part of such an event can be a profound, even sacred experience. If it doesn't change the addict, it might change you.

My Adult Kids Think I Drink Too Much and Won't Let My Grandkids Spend the Night

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 05.24.2014 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

Although it may be painful to hear, it is possible that your kids are seeing what has become for you a blind spot with regard to your drinking.

Is Gratitude a Tool for Patience?

Wray Herbert | Posted 05.11.2014 | Science
Wray Herbert

In AA and other recovery programs, willpower is an unreliable tool for abstinence. Effortful self-regulation can and does fail us, and such failures can leave us vulnerable to impatient decision making. A better alternative can be seen in another practice well known in the rooms of recovery -- the gratitude list.

No Longer Selling My Soul for Love

Edie Weinstein | Posted 04.26.2014 | Healthy Living
Edie Weinstein

I believed that unless I had an open-door policy, eventually no one would come knocking and I would be rendered lonely and isolated. I can laugh at that now, but back then, my "savior behavior" that had me believing that I needed to be spontaneously available to provide whatever was asked of me, as an insurance policy against abandonment.

5 Helpful Tips for Hanging Out With This Alcoholic

TueNight | Posted 04.01.2014 | Healthy Living
TueNight

It took me a while to come out of my safety shell and start to enjoy life as a sober person. To see people again, in the "going out" kind of way. No wonder my friends are confused. They probably have no clue what the hell to do with me. Or what's appropriate and/or safe to say around me.

Holiday Gifts for the Sober Addict

Anna David | Posted 02.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Anna David

In recovery, we've entered this whole new world -- often a world people don't completely understand -- and those outside the circle can feel daunted by the task of trying to get how we now tick.

How I Caught Alcoholism

Anna David | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Anna David

I announced that I finally understood what everyone had been saying about how alcohol was a clear gateway to drugs, a fact I'd never known before because I'd always done drugs all the time -- without ever needing alcohol to ease the transition or give me the idea.

How I Broke Up (And Eventually Got Back Together) With AA

TueNight | Posted 12.24.2013 | Healthy Living
TueNight

Call it a "cult," call it a "clique," call it whatever you want. To me, AA is like a tribe, and I know that whatever I go through, for the rest of my life, someone from that tribe will always be there to hold my hand.

Leaving the Rest

Scott Alexander Hess | Posted 11.10.2013 | Books
Scott Alexander Hess

Suffice to say that when I wrote the piece I was very single and engaging in a lot of wild sex to fill that illusive life void. The conclusion of the essay is deliberately open-ended, for at the time I was envisioning a hoped-for romantic life.

When Sin Is a 5-Letter Word

Heather Kopp | Posted 09.17.2013 | Religion
Heather Kopp

The original meaning of the word "sin" is to fall short of an ideal or to "miss the mark." That's all of us. Every day. But these days, we're more likely to equate sin with evil and immorality. We imbue the word with a dark and loathsome intent.