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20 Ways Not to Talk to Your Teenage Daughter - Then How to Fix Things

Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. | Posted 11.21.2015 | Parents
Laurie Hollman, Ph.D.

Teenage girls are sensitive to the way people in authority talk to them, especially their mothers. They are easily wounded, feel criticized, and vulnerable when they sense or get outright disapproval. However, mothers are only trying to shape them up to be young women and don't understand their sensitive narcissism.

Why Does Divorce Create Such Turmoil?

Susan Anderson | Posted 10.12.2015 | Divorce
Susan Anderson

Primal fear is what makes going through divorce, separation, bereavement, loss of a job, loss of a dream so difficult. It triggers abandonment -- our first fear -- a fear universal to all human beings. It is a feeling of being left on the doorstep, of feeling left behind.

4 Ways to Reframe Being Abandoned

Tracy Schorn | Posted 10.06.2015 | Divorce
Tracy Schorn

After infidelity, a lot of the advice is about no contact, or assessing the sincerity of a cheater's remorse, or decoding the cheaters' manipulations after discovery. But what about the ones who just go without a fight? Who just abandon? Who never come back?

Overcoming Love's Invisible Barriers: 12 Helpful Preparations

Susan Anderson | Posted 09.28.2015 | Healthy Living
Susan Anderson

Has it ever occurred to you that love may be staring you in the face, but you just can't recognize it? Maybe the person is too easily taken for grant...

Insecure and Not Sure Your Partner Is Fully Committed? Here Are 12 Tips

Susan Anderson | Posted 09.16.2015 | Healthy Living
Susan Anderson

Weather the storm by using it as grist for developing some emotional self-reliance. By increasing your own stability and constancy, you gain strength and help to advance the relationship. When your partner starts treating you ambivalently, here are a few tips for handling it:

Are You Alone, Stuck in a Pattern, and Can't Get Out? 12 Ways Out

Susan Anderson | Posted 08.21.2015 | Healthy Living
Susan Anderson

Are you and anyone you know caught up in cycles of abandonment? Why do people keep repeating the same patterns over and over? What can they do to bre...

Honoring Rockhaven Sanitarium, America's First Feminist Asylum

Sezin Koehler | Posted 08.13.2015 | Arts
Sezin Koehler

The intersection of stardom and madness, mystery and decay meet at the crossroads of Rockhaven Sanitarium. The once-thriving refuge for troubled minds now sits fallow, crumbling and silent as it awaits an uncertain future, much like its past residents.

How to Quell Intense Anxiety and Panic

Susan Anderson | Posted 07.15.2015 | Healthy Living
Susan Anderson

The part of you that is usually reasonable and self-reassuring has been momentarily knocked out of commission. You feel out of control, helpless, demoralized by the emotional excesses running rampant within you, at loss for your usual coping mechanisms. Regardless of what causes the emotional hijack, how to quell it?

We Don't Always Get Wonderful Fathers

Julie Maida | Posted 06.22.2015 | Women
Julie Maida

If the story had ended there, it would have most likely been a tragic one. On days like this, I think about how grateful I am for the man who was under no obligation to be my father -- the man who chose me.

Reclaiming My Dad On Father's Day

Dawn Q Landau | Posted 06.21.2015 | Fifty
Dawn Q Landau

When life throws you a 100 mph curve ball, that hits you in the face ... and then another, and another, there are lots of things you can do. If you're a child, set on survival, you block it out and move on.

How to Survive a Breakup: 12 Ways to Stop Blaming Yourself and Gain From It

Susan Anderson | Posted 05.20.2015 | Women
Susan Anderson

When we experience unrequited love -- a lack of emotional reciprocity from the other person - it is natural to feel insecure and needy. It can cause us to aim our emotional suction cups toward our partner which only succeeds at creating greater distance. Here are 12 things you can do...

Attracted to the Unavailable: 12 ways to Overcome This Self-Sabotaging Pattern

Susan Anderson | Posted 05.14.2015 | Women
Susan Anderson

Why are we attracted to the emotionally unavailable? What can we do about it? Obviously, if we lose interest as soon as someone becomes available, that won't work because we'd be forever chasing and never having a relationship. So how do we get off the hamster wheel?

Why It's OK If Moms 'Abandon' Their Kids

Vicki Larson | Posted 05.13.2015 | Parents
Vicki Larson

Few of us, rightly or wrongly, raise an eyebrow when we hear of a dad giving up custodial rights. But, a mom? That goes against everything we believe -- or choose to believe -- about mothers. Still, it happens, and there are many ways to look at it.

What Is Outer Child? 12 Tips for Overcoming Self-Sabotage

Susan Anderson | Posted 06.23.2015 | Healthy Living
Susan Anderson

Most people know they have an Inner Child -- a tender emotional core -- but many don't realize they have an Outer Child -- a hidden nemesis sabotages ...

How to Overcome Fear of Abandonment: 7 Dos and 10 Don'ts

Susan Anderson | Posted 06.03.2015 | Healthy Living
Susan Anderson

Many people complain that abandonment imprisons them behind a wall of their own making. They get caught up in patterns of constant re-abandonment (abandoholism) or avoid relationships altogether to avoid the pain (abandophobism). Others are in a relationship but feel chronic heartache and uncertainty. They're shrouded in shame for feeling so needy.

To The Left Behind Spouse

Rebecca Bitton | Posted 05.27.2015 | Divorce
Rebecca Bitton

You stop being the person who something was done to. You start creating a life you love, piece by piece, and it's authentic and genuine and fortified with the strength of your experience and sheer will to transcend bitterness and disappointment -- to step into the world fully.

How to Improve Your Self Esteem

Susan Anderson | Posted 05.27.2015 | Healthy Living
Susan Anderson

Our "sense of self" is as unique to us as our fingerprints. It represents an accumulation of beliefs -- conscious and unconscious -- about how we perceive our relative worthiness, lovability, and personal power. Based on trial and error, we unwittingly and automatically estimate our rank in the pecking order and how attachment-worthy we think we are.

King Lear and the Silver Tsunami

Brendan Hare | Posted 05.26.2015 | Fifty
Brendan Hare

One of the great pains of aging comes when you discover how much time you wasted being wrong. One of its greatest pleasures may follow this -- when you see there's still time to change.

Telling Your Story Can Change Your Life: Rise, A Powerfully Good Organization

Dr. Jane Aronson | Posted 05.26.2015 | Impact
Dr. Jane Aronson

After decades of being a pediatrician, and never saying "no" to a meeting with yet another nice person, it seems like I know everyone. I came to the party thinking and hoping that something might happen and it did.

How to Overcome Heartbreak

Susan Anderson | Posted 05.18.2015 | Healthy Living
Susan Anderson

Heartbreak hurts so deeply because it pulls at that raw abandonment nerve we all share. It rips us open to the core, overwhelming us with powerful emotions -- loss, despair, panic, shame, hopelessness -- that seem all out of proportion to the actual event. Here are 12 facts to help you:

How My Divorce Will Be Different Than My Parents'

Jenny Kanevsky | Posted 05.03.2015 | Divorce
Jenny Kanevsky

I'm on a roller coaster, the huge swells have passed, for now, but I know there are more to come. Seventeen years, two children, three moves -- it's a history, a life together. But I will find my new normal, and I will make sure my children have one as well. I'm human, but I'll do my best.

How I Survived Abandonment: 12 Tips for a Complete Recovery

Susan Anderson | Posted 04.10.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Susan Anderson

I developed the abandonment recovery program after the love of my life -- my marital partner of eighteen years -- suddenly up and left me for another...

How to Get Over Abandonment -- a Fast Track

Susan Anderson | Posted 03.29.2015 | Healthy Living
Susan Anderson

When something triggers our primal abandonment pain -- like a breakup, getting fired or rejected by school admissions, or dissed by a friend -- it can...

The 3 Fears That Keep You From Shining Your Brightest (and How to Overcome Them), Part 2

Wendy Reese | Posted 03.23.2015 | Healthy Living
Wendy Reese

This is a part two of a three-part series. Are you getting stuck by one of the three fears keeping people playing small? As discussed in part one, th...

The Hardest Part About Seeing My Sister's Sonogram

Anna Eldridge | Posted 03.14.2015 | Teen
Anna Eldridge

I was adopted from China as a healthy baby, and so the odds are pretty high that my gender led to me being orphaned. It makes me sad to think that in many parts of the world, a family's reaction to a daughter is, "Oh no! Not a girl!'"