If you are experiencing domestic violence, know that it is not your fault. You might not understand why he's treating you like this, and that's ok. There are some things in life we will never understand. But you don't have to keep making excuses for your partner, and you don't have to continue living this way.
Four of the rabbinic teachings regarding the part of the Joseph-story that we read this week have stayed with me since that retreat -- and they are worth considering in their own right, as acknowledging aspects of the experience of trauma in the family context, in ways that may be surprising in ages-old sources.