Enjoy the awesome stuff and make the most of it. And when the not-so-awesome stuff comes your way... allow it to happen, do your best to stay calm, deal with it, and know that it's on its way out, too.
On the surface, acceptance -- that is, changing what we can change and being realistic about what we cannot change in our lives -- should be the easiest thing to do. After all, how hard is it to resign yourself to the reality of a situation?
I'll get all set and all comfy... and then that bright, glaring sunshine busts through the curtains, makes its way across the floor and lands squarely on my conscience, convincing me that I'm lazy for not basking in it.
The good news is that not every unexpected experience has been about escaping death. Instead, several have brought unexpected lessons for a happier life. Three recent lessons have proven themselves to be particularly happiness-building. I present them to you now..
Over the years I've gotten pretty good at being pretty crappy at some things. To be clear, I hate being crappy at things. It's not my intention, it's frustrating. But I also know that sometimes it's just necessary.
Know that life will hand you a stink every once in a while. Accept and feel your stink. Respond to it and remember it. And know that life's stinks are just part of the game. And you can handle it just fine.
We've all been there. You look at your new baby and deep joy settles into your soul, but the days to come may not be exactly what you planned. The joy is soon colored by the realities of sleep deprivation, worry and more advice than any human being could ever possibly use.
Imagine this energy is like currency -- you get a certain amount each day, to create your now -- so you wouldn't want to fritter it away. Once you realize the impermanence of life, that the past and the future aren't able to be held because they do not really exist, you can only be present!
Reflect on the lessons you've learned recently. Reflect on what you might want to change. Reflect on how you might bust out of your comfort zone to get there. Be imperfect. But be real. Know that's the best way to be. And know that, in the end, it will all be fine.