What is peculiar about an Image of Perfection is that it is nothing but a concept. From one point of view, it can be a vision that can inspire us to excel and accomplish great things. From a darker point of view, that same concept can be used as a club by the ego to emotionally beat us down into fear, doubt and self-sabotaging behavior.
Relationship problems can seem to be quite tangled and hopeless when the intent is to control each other's behavior or feelings while resisting being controlled. Yet the moment loving oneself and one's partner becomes more important than controlling and resisting control, the relationship problems magically dissolve.