I remind myself that dumb and bold are two sides of the same coin, and that you can't get one without the other. So if any of my dreams require the kind of boldness that's only recognized in hindsight, then I've got to learn to live with the dumb, with the unknown, with the uncertainty, with the vulnerability.
As human beings, all we want is to be seen for who we truly are. If we do not cultivate the love in our lives that allows us to be seen, it is easier to turn to external achievements to show the world who we are instead. This cycle fosters a dangerous belief that "when I achieve this, I will be worthy of happiness," and it manifests in even subtler ways.