Using a single form of organizational structure for all circumstances is like using a single tool for all situations. When presented with a tomato or a screw, we hit with our hammer. If only we had a knife for the tomato and a screwdriver for the screw, we would be more efficient and effective.
Many elders have a lot of time on their hands and would treasure being able to be the glue that can bind the family back together, but we as their children and grandchildren need to find ways to make it easier for them to do so.
When you apply positive strategies to everyday issues, your life will improve in every area. They may even help to prevent larger catastrophes from happening. At least, if they do happen, you will be less overwhelmed by them.