As a woman who threw up for more than four decades to control my weight, even as I needed the comfort and "cure" that over-eating provided, I have some insights on what the 'over love of food' is all about. It wasn't the problem. It was the answer.
I had no idea that getting sober would allow me the opportunity to not be a bitch or a control freak, but it has. I came into the rooms of recovery to clean up. I had no idea of all the positive changes that seem to be common side effects of recovery.
What to do when you see someone you care about bathed in a cloud of smoke, of booze, of opium? You might hand the smoker a copy of Zeno's Conscience: A Novel, whose protagonist turns to psychoanalysis in his attempt to cure a lifetime of problems.
Sex, politics, religion -- everything that was once too taboo for public conversation is now open ground for all the world to see. Yet, there remains a topic rarely shared without judgment, one that continues to face tremendous stigma: addiction.
They say that by doing esteemable acts, we gain self-esteem. This was the case for me. Showing up for work each day and being present with my coworkers and the patrons made me feel good about myself. It gave me a sense of belonging and purpose. I searched for this my whole life.
The lesson of Lent for people who don't officially observe Lent is to be willing to change, to be happy in spite of what we do not have, to become aware of our attachments, to be less of a slave to our mind and to learn patience and develop endurance.
What wakes you up? What makes you feel most alive and excited to show up in the world as "you" -- just the way you are? And when you feel insecure, w...
You can not reason with an addict until the addict is ready. At least that is how I felt. I finally was ready to be reasoned with.
In my many years as a substance abuse provider, I have had my share of both good and bad experiences. And I have learned some of the most powerful lessons about life through the eyes of the individuals that I treat.
Saying goodbye to my safety blankets hasn't been easy. In many ways, they have gotten me to where I am today. I have to be compassionate to them. I have to forgive and not beat myself up for past decisions or actions.
PTSD is a much-talked-about-syndrome these days. Soldiers who experience battle muster psychological defenses to get through. However, when they retur...
What it all comes down to is this: I did not feel worthy of being vulnerable. I didn't know how to love, accept, or appreciate myself. So when I became sober in September 2012, I had to learn what it meant to love and connect with myself.
For me, health means much more than its physical definition. It is emotional and spiritual as well. As I have hit these bumps along the way it has become evident to me that my health is ever evolving and will only improve it I put the effort in. Health is progress, not perfection. It is doing a little more than I did yesterday and not beating myself up for taking steps back.
Your smell intoxicates me. Your arms provide strength and comfort. Your eyes see my soul.
Scott Walker wants to place new burdens on poor people. His justification? He's fighting for small businesses. He should stop pandering to the most extreme elements of the Republican base and start listening to employers across his state.
If you are struggling with an addiction and considering giving it up, you will likely have to deal with some ambivalence. With help, willingness and positive changes, you can learn to feel your emotions fully until they pass, retrain your brain till it's filled with kinder thoughts, and fill some of the spaces that addiction attempts to temporarily fill. You can challenge the powerful voice of addiction until your ambivalence turns into clarity, conviction and compassion.