They say that America is the land of the free. It's a principle upon which our nation was built, enshrined in the First Amendment and the national anthem taught in schools. But as I hiked into the woods to find a place to hide my sacred eagle feathers out of fear of being arrested, I wondered how free we really are.
Americans may be equal, but we are not all the same. It is the willingness of one American to defend the right of another to be different -- to think, to believe, to live in ways and to say things that one may vehemently dislike. But we will act to defend this differentness, this right to be free and unique -- even at risk of death.
Sometimes parents are the ones that teach kids to squash their emotions. The parents don't want to see the fear, the pain, or the uncertainty that is clamoring for a voice. So they keep urging the children to "just be good" and "just smile" and "go along with things" and "don't make trouble" until...
Before you make the choice to complain about the adoption of your child or someone asking you about it -- think again. Your child is watching you and will follow your lead. Not only will you define your child, but also yourself in his or her eyes. What do you want your words and actions to say to your child?