iOS app Android app


Dear Subway Station Baby

Christina Romo | Posted 12.02.2016 | Parents
Christina Romo

I will never know the truth of what happened when I was abandoned in a subway station in Seoul, South Korea over 30 years ago. I struggle often with r...

Stop Telling Me I'm 'So Lucky' To Have Been Adopted

Mei Webb | Posted 05.20.2016 | Women
Mei Webb

As a 19-something-year-old adoptee living in a Western society, I've often been thrown the phrase, "you're so lucky!" after telling someone I'm adopted.

We're a Real Family, Thank You Very Much

Rachel Garlinghouse | Posted 02.23.2017 | Parents
Rachel Garlinghouse

We have become more outgoing, patient and strong with each passing year. The questions that are asked of us are our normal.

We Didn't Choose This (A Letter To My Children)

Lauren Casper | Posted 02.15.2017 | Parents
Lauren Casper

Walk up to any adoptive family, look at the children, say the words, "You are so lucky!" and watch the adoptive parents cringe.

5 Ways You Have The Power to Change a Life, Just the Way You Are -- From an Adoptee

Madeleine Melcher | Posted 11.24.2016 | Parents
Madeleine Melcher

Last year almost 30-thousand youth aged out of Foster Care. Those children left care without a family and now have a greater likelihood of being incarcerated, homeless or having an unintended pregnancy.

She Was Placed for Adoption as a Baby. Years Later, She Was Faced With the Same Choice Herself

Felicia Curcuru | Posted 11.20.2016 | Women
Felicia Curcuru

I recently had the chance to interview a woman who is both an adoptee and a birth mother - she was adopted at birth and later placed a child for adoption herself. I'm very grateful that she offered to share her story with us.

Is Adoption Worth It?

Christina Romo | Posted 11.18.2016 | Parents
Christina Romo

When I started working in the adoption world a little over nine years ago, I was an absolute proponent of adoption. I doubt there would have been anything anyone could have said or done to convince me that adoption was anything but wonderful.

The Case for Adoption

Joel Peterson | Posted 11.08.2016 | Impact
Joel Peterson

Although it is highly successful, adoption -- for many, maybe even for the vast majority -- can be an extremely painful intervention. I know, personally, that it can be soul-searing and often does cause its own problems and side effects that linger throughout life.

How Homophobia Is Hurting Our Nation's Foster Children

DaShanne Stokes | Posted 11.02.2016 | Queer Voices
DaShanne Stokes

I've never understood why so many of my foster care brothers and sisters continue to languish in the foster care system. In truth, they should have found homes a long time ago.

We Need a National Adoption Month Unscripted

DaShanne Stokes | Posted 11.02.2016 | Impact
DaShanne Stokes

The reality is that adoption is a lifelong experience and finding a "forever family" is only the first step to meeting the needs of adoptive children.

Ten Questions Answered About Late Discovery Adoption

DaShanne Stokes | Posted 10.29.2016 | Parents
DaShanne Stokes

In my own experience, accidentally discovering that I was adopted was earth shattering. I found myself in an identity crisis in which everything I thought I knew about myself, including my family, my ancestry and cultural identity.

How Racism is Hurting Our Nation's Foster Children

DaShanne Stokes | Posted 10.14.2016 | Black Voices
DaShanne Stokes

Even as President Obama gets ready to make his annual proclamation marking the beginning of National Adoption Month in just a couple of weeks, racism continues to scar the lives of many of our nation's 400,000 children who languish in foster care because of their race.

A Life in America Without Religious Freedom

DaShanne Stokes | Posted 09.24.2016 | Religion
DaShanne Stokes

They say that America is the land of the free. It's a principle upon which our nation was built, enshrined in the First Amendment and the national anthem taught in schools. But as I hiked into the woods to find a place to hide my sacred eagle feathers out of fear of being arrested, I wondered how free we really are.

From Abused and Homeless to Ph.D.

DaShanne Stokes | Posted 09.22.2016 | Impact
DaShanne Stokes

"Oh, my God. Are you serious?" That's a reaction I often get when people hear how I accidentally discovered, at the age of twenty, that I was adopted.

8 Things You May Not Know About Adoption

Rachel Garlinghouse | Posted 08.27.2016 | Parents
Rachel Garlinghouse

I've been a mom-by-adoption for almost seven years now. We are an apparent adoptive family because we are white and our children are black, so we are often approached by strangers and asked questions. Consistently, these eight subjects come up in conversations.

Adoptee Rights Are Your Rights, Too

DaShanne Stokes | Posted 08.12.2016 | Impact
DaShanne Stokes

Why deny adoptees their personal records and original birth certificates if it's against what most adoptees and their biological parents want? It makes no sense.

Remembering Mom's Love in a Breakfast Bowl

Joel Peterson | Posted 08.06.2016 | Parents
Joel Peterson

When I arrived from Korea as her new son, I was nearly 7 years old, and my mother knew that Koreans did not eat the same breakfast that American's typically ate.

Former Foster Kid: Two Things I Wish They Knew

Hilary Holland Lorenzo | Posted 07.28.2016 | Healthy Living
Hilary Holland Lorenzo

It would be near impossible to find one who wouldn't be grateful to have an advocate with a strong voice until that foster kid is old enough and brave enough to be her own.

A Different Kind of Lottery

Emily Champion | Posted 07.02.2016 | Teen
Emily Champion

Who doesn't dream about winning the lottery? In the United States 47 states have a Lottery. States make billions of dollars of revenue for their state just from Lottery sales.

Finding My Mother and My American Identity

Joel Peterson | Posted 07.02.2016 | Impact
Joel Peterson

Americans may be equal, but we are not all the same. It is the willingness of one American to defend the right of another to be different -- to think, to believe, to live in ways and to say things that one may vehemently dislike. But we will act to defend this differentness, this right to be free and unique -- even at risk of death.

Why Inside Out Is A Must See Movie For Adoptive Families

Carrie Goldman | Posted 06.25.2016 | Parents
Carrie Goldman

Sometimes parents are the ones that teach kids to squash their emotions. The parents don't want to see the fear, the pain, or the uncertainty that is clamoring for a voice. So they keep urging the children to "just be good" and "just smile" and "go along with things" and "don't make trouble" until...

11 Things An Adoptee Wants You To Know About Adoption

Madeleine Melcher | Posted 06.06.2015 | Parents
Madeleine Melcher

I know people in supermarkets and school registration lines always seem to have a lot of questions when they see a family that was obviously built through adoption, and I certainly get a lot about mine. This is what I want you to know to help you better understand adoption.

Complaints About Your Child's Adoption Have to Stop

Madeleine Melcher | Posted 06.02.2015 | Parents
Madeleine Melcher

Before you make the choice to complain about the adoption of your child or someone asking you about it -- think again. Your child is watching you and will follow your lead. Not only will you define your child, but also yourself in his or her eyes. What do you want your words and actions to say to your child?

A Saga Comes to an End: From the Horse's Mouth on Korean Adoption

Dr. Jane Aronson | Posted 04.07.2015 | Impact
Dr. Jane Aronson

I have written thousands of words over the last few weeks searching to settle down and find a way to express my anger and the upset of so many in the adoption community, but this went no where.

A Letter from an Adoptee to Her Sons

Christina Romo | Posted 03.29.2015 | Parents
Christina Romo

I want you both to know that by making that decision to adopt me three decades ago, Grandma and Grandpa truly changed my life. In a matter of a year, I went from being an orphan to becoming someone's daughter.