Is adoption better or worse than a real family? Okay, I admit it. It was a trick question. What is the fixation with the word "real?" Who are the "real" parents, first parents or adoptive parents?
The reality is that during the mid-20th century and beyond, severe religious, social and familial stigmas against unwed motherhood were the norm far beyond Ireland.
If I had ovaries, I think it would be safe to say they've been aching. I want a baby. I want a baby very, very badly.
Gradually, I began to recover the memories of our love. They contradicted the story of betrayal and disappointment I had told myself all those years. And then I had to face a very hard question. After the anger over a betrayal, what do you do with the love?
You want to know what people really think about kids with Down syndrome? Tell someone you're thinking of getting one.
I have teens. We fight. Nothing on earth is more natural. I always have one goal in mind when I find myself in that situation: No matter how much my child hates me when the fight is over, I want them to understand how much I love them.
Now that Philomena is going into wide release and has been nominated for four Oscars -- I have a few words to say about the film and about the facts it was based on. You might say I have standing in the matter.
As an adult, I have come to appreciate the circumstances that made my own adoption necessary. I know now that the greatest gift and sacrifice my mother ever made was the day she signed the papers and "gave me up" for adoption. But what about a child's perspective?
I came out of the closet in 1999, and at that moment I accepted the fact that I would not have kids. It is 12 years later now, and my brother Marc and his husband Mike are having twins -- proof that times have really changed. Their story is so inspirational that I had to share it.
After several years of living there, the decision was made to separate. My initial question about what happened was answered in due time. Morty remarried shortly after the divorce.
Pardon me for being blunt, but is this controversy actually happening? Am I missing something? And most importantly, why isn't anyone questioning the fact that this is actually a controversy?
White parents that espouse "love is enough" are, in fact, doing Black adoptees a huge disservice, potentially exposing their children to a high degree of racial identity confusion and a poor ability to effectively cope with race-based mistreatment.
There needs to be more support for women like me: relatively young, childless not by choice and facing cancer or some other life-impacting disease; women like me who ache every time they see a stroller or hear the delicious laugh of an infant.
Eighteen years ago, without the sealed records of my birth and adoption, I searched for and found my birthparents. Putting the pieces of my past together filled the empty spaces in my life. Finding my family moved my future forward.
A few weeks ago, my teenage daughter was going through some old boxes stored in the garage and came upon a journal I wrote in 1989. The part my daughter focused on was the last page. It wasn't so much a bucket list as a promise to myself to get over some fears, stop making excuses, and prioritize not just my time but my values. Here are five things from that list that I did after I turned 50.
Santa couldn't stop crying as he hugged my daughter tightly. Then, he said the only thing he could: "I'll see what I can do, Sarah. I'll see what I can do." Santa was a wreck as we walked away. I wasn't faring much better.