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When Someone We Love Believes Something We Hate

Nancy Colier | Posted 09.29.2015 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

The practice of "letting it be," no matter what or whom we apply it to, is really an invitation and permission slip to ourselves -- to drop into and be in this very moment, with what it actually contains, and to stop having to reject 'now' in the hopes of a different 'now.' This is the true gift of "letting it be."

Are Your 'Shoulds' Really Helping You?

Nancy Colier | Posted 08.18.2015 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

Each time you hear yourself saying or thinking what "should" be happening, flip it around and ask the question, what is happening? Drop your fight with reality, your narrative about what "should" be, and you'll discover that reality, unburdened by your opposition, is a lot different than you think. The surest way to find peace is not to win the war, but to stop the fighting.

Spiritual Beings on a Human Journey: How to Remember Our Stardust

Nancy Colier | Posted 07.15.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Nancy Colier

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience." Most of us have heard these words from the...

Dropping Your 'Me' Story

Nancy Colier | Posted 05.01.2015 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

Try refraining from using the moments of your life as material with which to construct your "me" story. Try experiencing your life instead of using your life to define yourself. It turns out, not taking your life so personally can bring great relief and even give you back your life!

Waiting for Nothing: Loving Yourself on Valentine's Day

Nancy Colier | Posted 04.14.2015 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

With Valentine's Day coming, love is the topic of the moment. When we think about love, we generally think in terms of who loves us and whom we love, ...

Your Truest Friend Resides Inside Your Own Heart

Nancy Colier | Posted 03.02.2015 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

As we age, it seems that fighting with friends becomes less necessary or even possible. There are fewer matters worth fighting about and even fewer wo...

How to Deepen Your Relationship With Yourself

Nancy Colier | Posted 12.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

All experiences, welcomed, are opportunities to see and know the truth of ourselves more clearly. With this attitude, we can relate to our whole life, the sweet and the bitter, as enlightening, not necessarily wanted, but enlightening nonetheless, and in that light, meaningful.

Overcoming Navel-Gazaphobia (the Irrational Fear of Feelings)

Nancy Colier | Posted 11.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

I recently attended a panel discussion on the topic of happiness. Early on in the dialogue, one of the panelists addressed what he considered the mist...

Self-Care in Times of Suffering

Nancy Colier | Posted 11.21.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

There are times in life when things fall apart, when we lose something deeply important, something that makes us feel connected, grounded or safe. Som...

Loving a Narcissist Without Losing Yourself

Nancy Colier | Posted 06.18.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

It is very difficult for some people to see anything as happening separate from and not in relation to them. People who suffer with this view of the world experience everything as a reflection and commentary on who they are, an abandonment or affirmation of themselves.

Are You Feeding on Your Pain... Past Its Expiration Date?

Nancy Colier | Posted 06.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

The shelf life of most intense feelings is quite short. A strong feeling, which is not fed by our thoughts about it, can pass through us in a rather short time. It is our mind that, counter-intuitively, does not want us to let go of our pain.

Being in the Moment When We Don't Like the Moment

Nancy Colier | Posted 04.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

Life includes experiences we want and ones we don't. We are better at being present in the ones we want, and we need more practice staying in the moments we don't want. Many people ask me why we would even try and be present in the bad moments.

Mindfulness: Has Your Ego Slipped Inside Your Witness?

Nancy Colier | Posted 03.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

Mindfulness is more than a social media trend. True mindfulness is a challenge that requires the fierceness of an awareness warrior, but it is a challenge that is well worth the effort.

Stop Hating Yourself for Hating Vacation

Nancy Colier | Posted 03.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

Something amazing happened on this holiday. It seems that all the years of spiritual practice kind of kicked in. When I stopped judging myself for the experience I was having, stopped hating myself for hating vacation, I discovered two wonderful things: humor and compassion.

Uncovering Your Limitless Self

Nancy Colier | Posted 02.01.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

Freedom and happiness appear when we realize that we are not -- fundamentally -- made of any of the hats that we wear.

How to Stop Being Defensive in Close Relationships

Nancy Colier | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

The next time the opportunity to know another's experience presents itself, try out what it feels like to listen without strategizing to keep yourself positively positioned -- without defending the story of who you are and what you have or have not done.

The Secret to a Wonderful Life: Kill the 'Me' Who's Living It

Nancy Colier | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

It takes a tremendous amount of effort to uphold a fixed identity. We have to keep doing things that a "person like us" would do. We have to keep making sure that nothing happens that threatens our identity or who we have decided "we are."

Seeking: Its Inherence, Beauty, and Pitfalls

Ellen Davis | Posted 12.02.2012 | Healthy Living
Ellen Davis

That which is seen in that which is sought is one and the same as that which is seeing. That which is seen can only ever be seen by itself. If that which is seen by you was not awake in you, you would not be able to see, hear, or recognize what you see.

Breathing Eternity Into Time, Part Two

Ellen Davis | Posted 08.12.2012 | Healthy Living
Ellen Davis

Depending on where identity lies, there are many ways we can experience or speak about "step by step" or gradual and sudden awakenings.

Breathing Eternity Waves Into Time, Part One

Ellen Davis | Posted 08.04.2012 | Healthy Living
Ellen Davis

The footprints we leave, danced in that awareness, change the face of the earth, as all footprints do. Yet these create a path toward the freedom that is our birthright and the freedom from which they come.

Emily Dickinson and the Buddha vs. the WWF

Dean Sluyter | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dean Sluyter

When the dream of self dissolves, we awake and see that the true church is wherever we are.

Your Junk Drawer vs. Nirvana

Dean Sluyter | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dean Sluyter

Then tasks and situations that once pushed and pulled you in so many ways become frictionless flow, and things that were hard to do -- even cleaning out the garage -- become easy.