Parenting is hard, and trying to figure the appropriate punishment gains nothing with the force of violence. Especially because it was done in the days of slavery, and in spite of the fact that it was done to us as children, it needs to stop.
I can't have my daughters thinking they are invisible. Or worse, that they're ignorant, loud caricatures unworthy of respect. So I make a point of encouraging my girls to own their beauty -- on the inside and out.