Over my 25 years of experience as a psychologist, I gradually came to realize that drinking may be one of the most common yet least talked about causes of marital conflict. Unfortunately, in the couples I've worked with this issue is often swept under the carpet.
It's been 24 years since I used vodka like aspirin -- to numb my pain. In fact, I've been sober 22 years more than I drank, since I quit before I was old enough to buy the stuff. So my brain should be used to ordering Perrier and shaking my head politely as the Merlot bottle comes my way.
Health and mental health practitioners need not see an alcoholic behind every symptom in order to recognize that there are indeed prodromal signs that may be evident years before a patient's drinking might be "diagnosable."
We all know that if you drink a lot you become an alcoholic and can't function. This is -- if not God's will and written in the stars, the next best thing -- biologically and genetically determined, irrefutable, and irreversible.
My friend Tammy had troubles, but it took me awhile to figure it out. She was a redhead who smoked menthols, loved music, dancing and beer. Her father was a judge, a real one, but she herself was totally non-judgmental.
I had just quit my office job in an attempt to "find myself." I was unemployed and openly drunk in the middle of the day. This poem, "I Think I'm an Alcoholic," was an attempt at understanding, and making others understand, my precarious position.
First post, this is tough. Mainly because I'm stone sober and the words don't yet come as easily as they do when I throw a little liquid or smoke on my brain, the mind-altering fuel that feeds my fingers as they type.
With Denzel Washington's gritty performance -- the most harrowing, perhaps, since Michael Keaton's in Clean and Sober -- and such a strong supporting cast, don't be surprised if Flight's final touchdown is somewhere in Oscar-Land.
The changes that are being proposed to substance abuse diagnoses in the DSM -- especially as they pertain to alcoholism -- may open the door to many people understanding that they have a problem and seeking help for it sooner than later. This would be a good thing.
The other day I went to the movies and saw Flight, a wonderful expose of an alcoholic airline pilot portrayed beautifully by Denzel Washington. I knew I wanted to write about it, as it hit many similar chords in my life and my struggle with the alcoholic in my life.
For those who have made the "pot plunge" and quit drinking, the benefits outweigh any stigma. "I never thought I'd say this but pot makes my head feel less muddled than booze," one woman told me, adding with a smile, "and it makes sex incredible."
God definitely pitches in once we roll up our sleeves and actually do something to improve the life of ourselves or anyone else. But before then? Before then all he can do is acquiesce to our manifest desire to keep things exactly as they are.
The abused, as often happens, became the abusers and another generation of children experienced the trauma of their parents. It is a cyclical thing that the Indian people themselves are trying so hard to break.
The United States Preventive Services Task Force just issued a report and an advisory that all sensible men and women would do well to take heed of. This panel reviewed a large body of research on drinking patterns among adult men and women.
Richie Sambora has gotten used to seeing his life through tabloid headlines. At any given moment these stories and much more about singer and guitarist for Bon Jovi have helped sell papers around the world. But what is the truth?
As a society it seems that we have, over time, come to think of drinking in terms of a dichotomy. In other words, we see the "drinking world" as divided into two categories of people: There are alcoholics, and then there are "the rest of us."
Priests have the right to drink alcohol. But when they provide alcohol to minors, drive while drunk, and sexually assault children, we must never get used to it. Instead of promotions and prayer vigils, Archbishop-elect Cordileone and Father Perez deserve prosecution to the full extent of the law.