Despite their extreme antics at this point, it's a total cliché to criticize 'Dance Moms' moms. The people who really should make us scratch our heads are the other adults involved: the teachers and coaches.
At the end of our journey, when we look back, the currency of achievement will no longer buy us solace. The greater accomplishment will be to over the years have built a foundation of family, friendship, altruism, kindness, compassion and love.
I respect Amy Chua for being honest in her memoir, and am glad that she's able to reflect on some of her parenting decisions with candor and even remorse. The conversation her book has precipitated is a crucial one.
The uproar greeting Amy Chua's allegedly tongue in cheek tales of demeaning and belittling behavior toward her daughters has drowned out an important theme: the parenting principles that Chua gets right.
A lot of other tigers ask me: Why do South Chinese tigers raise such successful cubs? Why do our cats grow up to be such prodigious hunters? Why are our coats so luxuriant? Why are our teeth so toothy, our growls so growly?