I'm afraid that readers with a new found interest in kink will be headed down a dangerous path without further education. But, it's precisely for those reasons that while I'll be the first to talk about the problems in the series, you won't see me complaining about the franchise.
Fans defend the film as providing fun, pure fantasy and a community, but as a couples counselor, sex therapist, and teen advisor for decades, I worry about take-away messages from the movie. Here are my warnings.
When almost everyone who decides which movies get made are men, and men are the ones writing and directing all of the stories, even stories supposedly about women, we women lose sight of what it looks, feels and sounds like to have our stories told from our perspective.
I must respectfully disagree with my fellow domestic violence awareness and victims advocates. I do not think that 50 Shades of Grey glamorizes domestic violence, nor do I think a boycott is warranted.
The film Fifty Shades of Grey is being released on February 13th, just in time for Valentine's Day. Sexual images are everywhere, and often the most awkward conversations involve parents talking to their children about sexual exploration and personal safety.
With the premiere of Fifty Shades the movie widely anticipated this Valentine's Day, I think it's important to look at what heterosexual men can learn about what women are seeking in the fantasy that is Christian Grey.
Why do American filmmakers continue to moralize and lecture where women who love hot, adventurous sex are concerned? Can't women just enjoy adventurous sex, including with multiple partners, if she chooses, without the judgment?
This is the kind of "novel "that plays by its own rules and offers something of obvious value to its mostly female readership. For the uninitiated it can be gloriously instructive and for the more mature it could offer a choice menu of self-help inspiration.