Donald Trump has nothing in common with the overwhelmed, alienated, angry and forgotten. He may have the skill to speak to them as though he is sympatico, but he isn't. He has his every need -- and whim -- attended to immediately. He is the antithesis of alienated.
It's hard not to attack back when you feel attacked. But, little by little, surrendering these reflexive instincts is a more compassionate, evolved way to get your needs met and keep relationships viable if and when it's possible.
If there's a fictional world you love but you know that it's dark and can negatively impact your mood or actions, then make sure you watch, listen to or read something lighter afterwards to balance it out.
Honking is something that feels OK for many of us to do, but feels terribly personal when it happens to us. Honking may create sound on the outside, but it happens because we're not too happy inside... and we need a release.
I'd talk myself out of my own feelings because they seemed so out of place to where everyone else was. So I'd simply go along with it and only express my frustrations vaguely to a few select people in fear that my irritation was somehow "wrong."
The practice of open-mindedness and reflection is enormously valuable particularly in our close relationships. But I won't kid you, it can be very difficult for those of us who have been attached to being right. It is freeing, but humbling.
Being in touch with our yearning, and anchoring our desire, is not an event, but an ongoing process. In taking it on we strengthen our motivation. And for whatever our heart desires, that's always a good thing.
Depending on how bad things have gotten, you may need a mini leave of absence to restore yourself. Recognize that you are capable of revitalizing and returning to your normal energetic self. But you do it by taking your foot off the gas, not pushing harder.
In between enjoying a dip in the pool to cool off and getting involved in a road rage incident because the hot weather has your temper soaring, set aside some time to release and forgive. Your mental health will thank you for it!
The fact that so many marriages end in disappointment for so many couples is a reflection of how many people continue to opt for the illusion of myths rather than to challenge the assumptions on which they are based.
Trying to eradicate anger is like trying to box with our own shadow: It doesn't work. Getting rid of it implies either expressing it and creating untold emotional damage, denying its existence, or repressing it until it erupts at a later time.
Feeling angry can be beneficial to a person with cancer. It provides a means to vent and let off steam. After all, if anyone deserves to feel angry, it's someone with cancer. I believe it's even essential to feel anger in order to "process cancer" -- just not all the time.