The most critical step is listening -- not just listening to the words but to the story behind the words. The backstory is where we learn about other people so we truly understand where they are coming from.
Some days, I just don't want to get dressed. If I'm lucky, it's a day where I'm working from home and I'll throw on a pair of exercise pants, a bra and a T-shirt. I'll brush my teeth but not put on any make-up. Then I sit down at my computer and write.
As we progress societally on both a national and global scale, gleaning the benefits and reaping the rewards, so too are we required to adapt to what's best described as "the modern girl's best practices." Revamped secrets to success of the female persuasion, if you will.
I came to the conclusion that my life would be much more productive if I could gain the confidence to go out and about my life without having these worries weigh me down. How would I do this? I decided to take a no-makeup pledge.
This means your appearance, your body language, and the way you carry yourself are identifiers of what you are about. Think of it like being the front cover of a book; the content could be extraordinary, but if it doesn't scream "pick me up!" only a select few actually will.
Our self-images are becoming increasingly skewed. But that is OK. If we acknowledge we are buying into a personal fantasy, we can develop a fantasy persona so compelling that even others become caught up in it.
I didn't brush my hair today. I didn't brush my teeth today either. I got dressed in slightly dirty clothing that was conveniently hanging on my bedroom door. I put on makeup, but only because I had to go to work and I didn't want my boss to run an intervention for me.
When you think of what this radical change looks like, imagine Clark Kent changing into Superman, David Bannister turning into the Incredible Hulk, Eliza Dolittle becoming My Fair Lady; or, even the fictional person who meta-morphs into the Wolfman!
Advertisers and public figures hoping to improve girls' and women's self-esteem should spread messages that encourage critical questioning about beauty standards beyond just expanding the social definition of "beautiful."