This is about a vicious sense of entitlement to women's minds and bodies by a large population who wield enormous influence over the primary means of communication among human beings. It's not just about hacking a nude photo or revenge porn or the unceasing stream of harassment women receive online.
We need make our marriages more exciting. We need to make them more passionate. Do our wives really need to find this passion only in a fantasy novel about domination? Do our husbands need to ruin their lives by signing on to Ashley Madison and getting caught, when all they were going to find anyway was another guy?